Owning a house alone is stressful.

Ilovetouchingmilfs · 2021-09-28T15:40:25+00:00

Hello, I bought a house and I live on my own. Does anyone else find it stressful and expensive to own a home alone? Thanks

AmsterDAMN · 28/09/2021 16:44

Well yes I'm sure thousands do. It's a lot of pressure to be wholly responsible for all of those bills and much more expensive than living as a couple. However I didn't find house work stressful living alone. Much easier only cleaning up after myself! In fact I loved living alone.

What's stressing you out, maybe people can offer you ideas

Notcontent · 28/09/2021 17:40

Hi OP - I think I know what you mean. I am a lone parent and feel extremely lucky to own a house but being solely responsible for any renovations, repairs, maintenance etc can be really stressful - at least for me!!

JustThisLastLittleBit · 28/09/2021 18:58

So much better than having to compromise/agree with someone else - I love sole responsibility!

Tellmewhat · 28/09/2021 19:00

Yes I find it hard. The only reason I miss my ex is because he was good at diy and could fix anything. I also worry about future finances as I can cover the bills now but it will be trickier when I retire and go into old age.

TheHouseILiveIn · 28/09/2021 19:06

Maintenance is a pain as a DIY-challenged person because tradespeople are a nightmare.

I'd happily pay for repairs etc without wanting to DIY but bloody hell, finding someone is like finding hens teeth.

Other than that I bloody love owning alone. I love being able to do whatever the hell I like, when I like.
I don't have to negotiate anything with anyone.

TheHouseILiveIn · 28/09/2021 19:09

It occasionally occurs to me that my living costs would be halved if I lived with someone, but I live comfortably anyway so it's not something that bothers me

Jellykat · 28/09/2021 19:09

I agree 100% especially when you cant find any decent plumbers or builders in your area! I'm dreading Winter with all the leaks i have

Apart from that, paying all the bills with only one minimum wage income is hard going!

TheHouseILiveIn · 28/09/2021 19:09

Actually, the thing that does worry me is if my income dropped. Yes, that's not nice to think about.

TheHouseILiveIn · 28/09/2021 19:10

@Jellykat

I agree 100% especially when you cant find any decent plumbers or builders in your area! I'm dreading Winter with all the leaks i have

Apart from that, paying all the bills with only one minimum wage income is hard going!

bridgeofslides · 28/09/2021 19:12

Yes it's very stressful. I have a dp who doesn't live here but is excellent at diy and the 1% of things he can't fix he just calls his dad. Who is a saint. Dp can't fathom the way I panic about home repairs. It's not the task it's the cash. Something melted in the electric shower switch the other week and I was white with panic that it would cost thousands to fix. Dp bought a new switch for about £13 and fitted it and it's fine.

I'm as independent as I can be but I can't do everything. It's v stressful I totally empathise.

userxx · 28/09/2021 19:16

I loved living alone and was bloody proud of myself for buying on my own, yes it can be stressful but it's worth it.

MrsRetreiver · 28/09/2021 19:37

@JustThisLastLittleBit

So much better than having to compromise/agree with someone else - I love sole responsibility!

This, mostly. But I missed having someone to help with repair/renovation (both practically and financially)

TheHouseILiveIn · 28/09/2021 20:32

This, mostly. But I missed having someone to help with repair/renovation (both practically and financially)

This is the crux of it
If you're ok financially it's mainly the maintenance that's an issue

Iseeyoulookingatme · 28/09/2021 20:38

I'm really worried about owning a house on my own. I'm currently separated and need to sell my house which is jointly owned with my ex and buy my own place. I'm toying with the idea of renting for a bit. I'm the one who did all the decorating in our house but I know how much things cost and that's what worries me more than anything. I might wait till I meet someone new before I buy another property.

CloseYourEyesAndSee · 28/09/2021 20:41

It's expensive but I don't find it too stressful so far.

whatnumber · 28/09/2021 21:08

I also know what you mean. I found the upkeep of the garden a lot of work too.

userxx · 28/09/2021 21:12

@Iseeyoulookingatme

I'm really worried about owning a house on my own. I'm currently separated and need to sell my house which is jointly owned with my ex and buy my own place. I'm toying with the idea of renting for a bit. I'm the one who did all the decorating in our house but I know how much things cost and that's what worries me more than anything. I might wait till I meet someone new before I buy another property.

If you can afford to buy then do it, renting is dead money and you might not find someone you want to be in a relationship with.

TheHouseILiveIn · 28/09/2021 21:20

@Iseeyoulookingatme

I'm really worried about owning a house on my own. I'm currently separated and need to sell my house which is jointly owned with my ex and buy my own place. I'm toying with the idea of renting for a bit. I'm the one who did all the decorating in our house but I know how much things cost and that's what worries me more than anything. I might wait till I meet someone new before I buy another property.

Please don't think like this! Owning is really good. What if you never meet someone you want to move in with? That's like saying I should sell my house and rent just because I don't have a partner... RIDICULOUS!

I bought my XH out 12 years ago and because I was on the property ladder am now in a five bedroomed home. In between I did by with a partner and only because of that have been able to afford the house I'm in now. The in between guy being on the mortgage allowed us to get this house but when the relationship broke down I was able to buy him out. If I was married to him I wouldn't be able to buy him out but my money was my own so I could do.

Home ownership is always good as the money you pay goes into to equity, unlike rent, which just disappears

TheHouseILiveIn · 28/09/2021 21:22

Jinx @userxx! You basically said what I did succinctly!

TeeBee · 28/09/2021 21:44

No, I bloody love it!!!

NautaOcts · 28/09/2021 21:48

I’m sure it can be compared to being in a good partnership with someone where decisions can be made jointly…
But I’m in a position where there are numerous repairs and maintenance jobs that need doing. DH wants to do them all himself but doesn’t have time/motivation so they get left undone and I feel like the house is falling into disrepair around me, yet he holds the purse strings and is difficult to discuss anything contentious with… so I feel powerless.
So I fantasise about a small modern low maintenance house for me and the kids where I can be in control of getting jobs sorted!

TeeBee · 28/09/2021 22:10

Yeah, that's what I love about it. I either Google how to do stuff myself, or just outsource it. No waiting for someone else to decide to do things or having to take their taste into consideration. Boom, it's done! If you build up a good pool of tradespeople you trust to do a good job and who won't rip you off, you're laughing.

TheHouseILiveIn · 28/09/2021 22:15

Yeah the person who is good at DIY taking their time while the other person stresses is annoying.

My X was decent at DIY but if I tried to talk about something that needed doing he would flare up because it stressed him and he didn't have time. The annoying thing was I would ask him to tell me what the problem was so I could problem solve, but he wouldn't even discuss it with me.

MissJeanBrodiesprime · 28/09/2021 22:39

I’ve lived on my own so long I’ve think I’ve just got used to living with the stress of it. I am lucky to have some very kind friends who help me out with fixing some things but yes, the constant cost of repairs means I can rarely spend on much else, it’s very expensive.

Rummikubfan · 28/09/2021 22:50

I love it. But I don’t have a mortgage and I’ve got a good handyman and a DP and DS who are pretty good with drills