Owning a house alone is stressful.

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Hello,

I bought a house and I live on my own. Does anyone else find it stressful and expensive to own a home alone?

Thanks

@Rummikubfan

I love it. But I don’t have a mortgage and I’ve got a good handyman and a DP and DS who are pretty good with drills

That's the dream!

Oh god yes...ive just bought a victorian terrace on my own...lived here 6 weeks and ive already found damp and the other day water poured through a ceiling light because the shower is leaking...so so stressful.

@myusernamewastakenbyme

Oh god yes...ive just bought a victorian terrace on my own...lived here 6 weeks and ive already found damp and the other day water poured through a ceiling light because the shower is leaking...so so stressful.

Wasn't the damp picked up on a survey ? I used to get really panicked when things went wrong, 10 years down the line I just roll my eyes and ring a tradesperson to sort it out!

No way, I love it! Everything stays clean and how I like it. I had a make friend stay for 3 nights and couldn't wait until he left, judt little things like not wiping surfaces tops after cooking etc.

I dont worry about repairs as I've built up 6 months savings for emergency repair or lose my job money.

Once I find a good tradespeople they are the only people I use. I use next door app , really handy for finding reasonable good priced trades people and people recommend then so you know their work is good.

I've also learnt to do DIY myself just spend some time googling and watching YouTube videos. Become a master at painting.

I even lifted up my current laminate flooring to screw down the underfloor to stop the creaking noises, put down new underlay and put the flooring back on. Taught myself via YouTube.

There are some diy courses for adults out there if you really want to learn too but that costs money.

I'll never touch electrics though and plumbing, exception being I know how to chnsge the ball valve inside a toilet (again YouTube video)

@TeeBee

Yeah, that's what I love about it. I either Google how to do stuff myself, or just outsource it. No waiting for someone else to decide to do things or having to take their taste into consideration. Boom, it's done! If you build up a good pool of tradespeople you trust to do a good job and who won't rip you off, you're laughing.

This is me. I don't find it stressful, it's way better than living with my fuckwit exh!

@myusernamewastakenbyme

Oh god yes...ive just bought a victorian terrace on my own...lived here 6 weeks and ive already found damp and the other day water poured through a ceiling light because the shower is leaking...so so stressful.

That sounds exactly like my dilapidated terrace when I bought it a few years ago!! Lots of damp and a shower that leaked into the kitchen below. Lived like that for a long time (having baths!) until very recently when I was able to get some renovations done. It was stressful at times but better than not owning a home.

I find maintenance and paying the bills stressful because there's no one to share the load but on the whole I enjoy it. Knowing that it's my house and I can do what I want with it is bliss.

@Dreamstate

No way, I love it! Everything stays clean and how I like it. I had a make friend stay for 3 nights and couldn't wait until he left, judt little things like not wiping surfaces tops after cooking etc.

I dont worry about repairs as I've built up 6 months savings for emergency repair or lose my job money.

Once I find a good tradespeople they are the only people I use. I use next door app , really handy for finding reasonable good priced trades people and people recommend then so you know their work is good.

I've also learnt to do DIY myself just spend some time googling and watching YouTube videos. Become a master at painting.

I even lifted up my current laminate flooring to screw down the underfloor to stop the creaking noises, put down new underlay and put the flooring back on. Taught myself via YouTube.

There are some diy courses for adults out there if you really want to learn too but that costs money.

I'll never touch electrics though and plumbing, exception being I know how to chnsge the ball valve inside a toilet (again YouTube video)

Well done you...that's very inspiring! 👏🏽

@TheHouseILiveIn

Thanks, best purchase i ever made was a black and decker electric screw drill. So great for ikea furniture, with the right screw bit makes life quicker and saves your hand

The do find that buying power tools is costly so for example I could teach myself to redo my cloakroom toilet, tile one wall etc but buying a tile cutter etc costs too much and for a one off job I dont think its worth it.

So I think ifs important to identify jobs that are just better off paying someone and the rest you could teach yourself.

Also I'm quite fortunate I live near a brwers decorating store and they give such great advice e.g. all my windowsills and skirting were painted in oil based gloss, usually you should sand it all down undercoat it and then water based paint...infact they said I could skip that and use zinsser bin 123 first which creates a sticky bond for water base gloss to stick too.

[quote Dreamstate]@TheHouseILiveIn

Thanks, best purchase i ever made was a black and decker electric screw drill. So great for ikea furniture, with the right screw bit makes life quicker and saves your hand

The do find that buying power tools is costly so for example I could teach myself to redo my cloakroom toilet, tile one wall etc but buying a tile cutter etc costs too much and for a one off job I dont think its worth it.

So I think ifs important to identify jobs that are just better off paying someone and the rest you could teach yourself.

Also I'm quite fortunate I live near a brwers decorating store and they give such great advice e.g. all my windowsills and skirting were painted in oil based gloss, usually you should sand it all down undercoat it and then water based paint...infact they said I could skip that and use zinsser bin 123 first which creates a sticky bond for water base gloss to stick too.[/quote]
I remember my xh saying that about tools!

Owning on your own is a lot of work as every single thing falls on you.
It is difficult to keep on top of all the maintenance both inside and out, whether it be basic housework, gardening or diy or bill paying.
After three years of living here I have eventually redone my bathroom on a budget. For the last few weeks the old suite plus kitchen worktops have been sat on my drive as I could neither lift most of it nor fit it in my car to take to the tip. When speaking to my nephew yesterday I mentioned this in passing, this morning he turned up and took it all away in three trips for me, what a star.

What @TheHouseILiveIn said.

It is a generalisation that men are good at fixing things.

Some are good at fixing things and same are feckin useless

You can be good at fixing things even if you don't have a penis

Living on my own in renting homes was lovely. (But I was lucky to only ever have great landlords.)

Living in a house I solely own and pay for is stressful! All I see around me is stuff that'll cost me money one day!

Yes. I guess my late DH was the stereotype - fitted our kitchen and bathroom, made me bookshelves etc.

Now it’s just me and the children - who regularly prevent me keeping on top of the place - and I find it really hard.

definitely agree. But worth it though if you can afford it.

I live alone. The thing that worries me most is having an accident or falling ill and no one knowing.

this was me years ago when my marraige split and became a single parent x3 with a mortgage paid solely by me

that was the thing i missed the person who could diy,but i love living like this now but things have changed,only one son at home,no mortgage and have a great tradesman who is fantastic and over the last few years have had things done propally,no bodges etc

also i found an site called Nextdoor which basically is a site for local communities lots of trades etc on there as well as missing pets,general site for everything for your local area well worth a look if you have one near you

@OldTinHat

I live alone. The thing that worries me most is having an accident or falling ill and no one knowing.

Get an Alexa - you can shout at her to phone your contacts which is a good emergency feature

I have one with a camera- I use it to check on my house when I’m away, switch lights on & off when I go away for a few days, & memorably to check there was no one upstairs when I got scared someone was up there 😳

I lived in my last house with my kids but without a partner for 15 years. It was a big house and it was quite a responsibility but I got through re-building my kitchen on my own and general maintenance issues as they arise. Like getting a new boiler fitted.

I've now bought a smaller place and it feels less of a responsibility. I just need to make sure I have money set aside for regular maintenance and repair. I do have good contacts with handymen etc, have good friends to ask for advice and when in doubt use local Facebook for recommendations.

I live living independently. Both kids are at university so keeping it clean and tidy is easy.