How tidy is your house?!

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I struggle. Single parent, two boys 4 and 7, work 22hrs. You?! Xxxx

It could be worse, just don’t go upstairs! I have a 5 year old and an 8 month old and I have to prioritise. I make sure that the downstairs is clean and tidy but struggle with upstairs as I can only do it while DS2 is napping and he’s a light sleeper so I worry about hoovering/pottering about upstairs while he’s asleep. Then when DH gets back from work I’m busy doing tea while he entertains the kids, then it’s bedtime and I’m back to not being able to clean upstairs again!

Lived in.

I dont tidy if people come over as non of my friends judge and Its real life.

A lot better then it used to be. I struggle with mental health.

Lived in would be a fairly accurate description.

Great poem, thanks. Xxx

Depressingly my best tidying technique is to have people over on a regular basis (not that any of my friends would judge especially). But it does put a deadline on things, which otherwise drift and drift. I wish I had the gumption to keep things lovely just for us but I don't...

It’s getting better. Downstairs is almost tidy most of the time. Upstairs is still a huge work in progress. The problem is the jobs I don’t like doing, DH doesn’t either, so some things just don’t get done when they should. The DCs help a tiny bit sometimes, but not before I’ve had to nag them lots.

It's an absolute shithole. 2 yo twins, dog, part time job. I just can't keep on top of it.

Mines better than it was this am!!!! 🤣 we go away for a week tomorrow and I couldn't bare to come back to a dump! Xxx

Tidy here, it gets on my nerves when it isn’t. Plenty of storage and not too much clutter which helps.

Clean enough, I keep the kitchen and snug clean as we use those rooms a lot. Other bits clean enough, mainly because we don’t use half the house!

Lone parent to a teenager.

Pretty awful, we keep on top of bathrooms and kitchen more or less but the rest is always a bit messy. We rarely dust upstairs . The downstairs is not dirty but it's not visitor- ready either. There are usually piles of papers etc about.

I find housework dull and seem to have missed the memo that dictates that as a woman it is my sole responsibility 😁 so the bits that need to be clean are (kitchen and bathrooms), the rest is variable.

Love the poem
I have a tidy clean house with a physically challenging autistic child.
I work full time going through a divorce.
The only place that shows my feelings is my wardrobe.I don’t understand why I let that go and ignore it.
I iron daily helps the asd loves to see me iron finds it soothing I suppose.
Wash everyday .Generally keep on top of things .mentioned the asd part because there is a myth that if you have a child with needs the house is usually a tip.
S workers first comment to me is this is a nice clean house really nice.
I looked quite taken aback .
My mother and father always did this my mum loved to keep my father loved to throw and give out.
We had a really clean tidy but not artificially tidy home.
Keeping on top of things is the only way I think works.
This break everyday I’m going to put sometime aside to declutter ie last uniform charity shop school shoes all that goes to charity old coat .etc.
I will not do my wardrobe..

seem to have missed the memo that dictates that as a woman it is my sole responsibility

Who said it was ??? The OP is a lone parent, so am I, if I don't do it no one else will.

I hate mess, nothing to do with not living well or doing things, I just don't like mess!

Mine is usually clean and tidy, I can’t stand a messy house so keep on top of it - 4dc, dh works full time and I work 29 hours a week. Today it’s a bit of a mess though as we had dd3’s birthday party here and I’ve not cleaned up after it fully yet. It’ll be done at some point today when I can be bothered to get dressed and move my arse.

Very tidy. I hate mess. As a teenager I was very lazy and my bedroom was a shithole so I don’t know what’s happened. I work 40 hrs a week but I have a DH who helps as well so it’s easier to keep it clean and tidy

Palaver1 amazing, you have a Monica cupboard!!

I think the whole of our upstairs is our Monica cupboard.

Single mum, work full time, 3 DC (albeit eldest is 26, but still at home) - messy house. But clean. Pile of toys & piles of clothes. Nothing that a team effort of tidying doesn't solve. There's just signs of people living here rather than living in a show house.

But y'know what - this house is also full of love and laughter. That's what counts.

Very clean and very tidy. Always have been, even when kids were little, and with a dog and cats. I think the "secret" is being REALLY selective and aware of the clutter you accumulate. The state of my home is extremely important to my mental wellbeing, so I simply can't live in a messy, grotty house. I also had my children helping from a very young age, so that helps. Even little ones can put their toys away, and if you approach it properly it can be fun for them.

ElstreeViaduct Never heard of that before.
Will check that up.I cant seem.to understand the reluctance and comfort of not tackling it ..Its crazy the determination to leave it be .

Sorry, it's a reference to Monica in Friends. Should be Youtube-able but only worth it if you know the character.

My house is very tidy but I am a naturally tidy person, even as a child my room was spotless. I'm not as keen on cleaning, so I have a very minimal house with laminate flooring so there isn't too much dust. I have a Cavapoo who doesn't shed which helps. My daughters room is messy quite often, I either tidy it myself or just shut the door. I get stressed if house isn't tidy but as it is so minimal I can whip round the whole place in about 30 mins

Forgot to add, I de clutter a lot and regularly give away/sell stuff I no longer use

It uses to be 'visitor ready in about 30 minutes', and I kept it like that nearly all the time. However, I've been getting iller and iller and unable to do anything, for at least 6 weeks. Plus it's not looking like I'll be on it in the near future. It's horrific, to me. Mess everywhere, but worse, filthy. The bathroom is covered in scale and that orange ming. The hall carpet is covered in cat hair and bits of outside. The kitchen is vile. My husband has been working so hard to do his day job, plus feed and look after us, but he can only just cope with the bare minimum. He doesn't even see the filth - when I pointed it out earlier (I was upset by it), he seemed surprised. Planning in cleaning is not even on his radar. This has always irritated me, but now it disgusts me. Sounds harsh, but is how I feel.

If they could tidy I'd get a cleaner in, but it's too messy at the moment. I'm probably going to need surgery and don't see myself back on to housework for at least 2 months, probably more like 6. Truly depressing on so many levels.

This is my honest answer.

My house is currently a complete tip. I actually think that to an unexpected visitor I might look like a borderline hoarding issues.

We had a radiator leak overnight, so had to empty a bedroom at 4am this morning, it's made an awful situation almost unbearable upstairs.

I couldn't go to work as I had to clear out the bedroom, take up flooring and leave it to air.

But, on top of that I have achieved today so far,

Dishwasher has been on three times as there was dirty plates and cips in every bedroom. Washing machine has been on five times. Lined dried everything so this has created a pile of ironing for tonight.

Dusted living room furniture, just need to Hoover, that will be that room done.

Halfway floor done, desk tidied and dusted, that's another room done.

Downstairs WC done.

I just need to be able to get upstairs and start cleaning up there once bedroom has dried out.

The very sad thing is that ive done loads but the house looks absolutely no different.

Sorry for moaning x