ok the secret is little and often.
last person up makes the beds.
person who gets kids up makes sure their rooms tidy beds made before anyone goes downstairs.
i do laundry every single day. put load in the evening. In the morning goes into dryer (or before dryer) hang up. in the evening, fold dry laundry, put on next load. in the morning put away folded load from night before, and put on next load.
plan meals and shop on-line.
cook nothing that takes longer than 30 mins from opening fridge door to sit down with food.
re the kitchen being tidy, don't go to bed with a dirty kitchen. unload/load and run dish washer. wipe work surfaces, sweep floor, spot clean if necessary. mop once/twice a week.
admin - set aside one hour per week to do this. most of it will go in recycling - anything that needs to be actioned put in a folder in work bag and do at work during lunch time.
some of the above unfortunately not relevant if you don't have an office job.
honestly, i have learned the hard way, have a routine for tidying up/laundry/admin and do it little and often - there is never time for a big blitz and things just mount up...
hth and good luck.
ps - i would give up a lot before i'd give up my cleaner...