Hi everyone, will try and keep this brief, just wondering how you and the other adults living in your house run things? Myself an DP have 2 DC's 2 and 4. DP works 5 days a week including weekends, but always has 2 days off, which is when i work. Since having DCs I now work part time 3-4 days a week depending on DP's shift pattern, DGP's help out with childcare. Anyway, i do the lions share of the housework which is fine because i am home more, but when DP is home all day and i'm at work he doesn't do anything. At all. He will leave the cups and plates wherever they've been used, living room, dining room, or if they make it to the kitchen, on the side, but never washes them. When i come home from work the place is a mess, toys still all over the place, kids dirty clothes strewn around and I generally find him sat on his phone or watching tevevision when i get home (around 10pm) surrounded by the mess which he seems totally oblivious to! With no evening meal prepared or any signs of attempting to tidy up. AIBU to expect him to do these basic things 2 days of the week? He knows it brings me down when the house is untidy, especially if we come down in the morning to mess, but doesn't seem to care how it affects me. I'm not saying i'm a perfect housewife but my days off from work are my days on for housework, i get lots done during the day and although it may not always be done when DP gets home from work, i always make sure everything is done before i go to bed. I just can't see how he thinks it's OK to see how much i do, then do nothing himself and expect that i'll just clean up after him when i'm not in work. I'm really starting to think he doesn't have any respect for me or the things i do 