Fledglings are Flying into February

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Welcome to the February Fledglings thread. Before we get started we have some important notices?:

1. The Fledglings are a long running thread, some of us have known each other for several years but newcomers are always welcome.

1. We follow the Flylady way (somewhat flexibly) and we adapt it to suit our lives and needs. That also means we chat a lot too, it is a general thread about life, as well as Flylady.

So the fly lady system there are rules and we have adaptations.?

1. NO perfectionism - life’s too short.?
2. Something is better than nothing and sometimes good enough really is good enough.?
3. This is not about the housework, it is about having more time to do fun stuff. Don't ever feel guilty about doing stuff with the kids over doing the housework. The kids are more important.??And the practical adaptations.
4. For newbies to the Flylady site and system everything you need will be posted here in the form of links. The homes is divided into zones where we spend one week each on a monthly basis. Within the zones we do babysteps and decluttering - the babysteps are little daily habits to get into, decluttering speaks for itself. As we progress we start doing missions (a more in depth task in that weeks zone). We may even get to detailed cleaning once we have decluttered. There are also daily tasks, on a weekly basis.

WARNING: Unless you want a very cluttered inbox full of gushing quotes and testimonials DO NOT subscribe to the Flylady emails from the site.

So, welcome on board and lets get Flying in February!

That's the right idea catg83. The babysteps all come around again next month, you can pick another few up then, or leave them, whatever really. I've been doing this for about 5 years and still don't stick to most of the babysteps all the time, I am a bit intermittent with sink shining (DH does the washing up) and swish and swipe. The morning, afternoon and evening routines are good ones to get established though. As for getting dressed to shoes, only if it works for you.

Hope parents evening went well Bless

Well, Thursdays are busy here, lots of running aorund after school with the DCs. the kitchen is all ready for friens coming tomorrow, just need to run the vac around the hall and living room in the morning and swish and swipe the bathroom.

Back in a moment with links.

Friday 13th (unlucky for some!)

Babystep - do a mission

Mission - shine your sink. Now I have no excuse!

Daily Focus declutter your car and handbag. My bag certainly needs doing, the car isn't too bad at the moment.

Sneaks in, hoping nobody will notice

Off to read what everyone's been up to the last two weeks!

Morning! Bit grey and chilly here, but a good excuse to get warm by moving about and tidying!

Managed quite a bit of admin yesterday, and still a bit more to do over the half-term period.

So - for today

tidying
laundry
shopping
return emails
more house sale admin
dinner prep

Have a good one!

ta da
work
errands in town

Tired and ready for an early night. Yes that bloody baby step no 17. Ds didn't sleep well last night and it is telling.

Where is everyone? Hopefully you are all OK and ready for the weekend.

A mixed day here, I got the house pretty straight last night, so it was all neat and tidy (well for us) when the friends came for coffee this morning. Faffed about this afternoon and didn't do much. Then, sadly tonight we heard that DMIL has been diagnosed with Parkinson's Disease, we knew she was being assessed but it has still come as a shock. DS and the DCs are going up there tomorrow (I've got college). So, feeling a bit down tonight to say the least.

Anyway, I'm going to bid you all goodnight and post some links.

Saturday 14th.

Babystep Calendar usage. I switched to an electronic one a couple of years ago and am very happy with it, it works far better than a paper one for me, but I have realised that it isn't much use to the DCs, so I think I am going to have to start running a paper one as well again to help them learn to do it.

No mission because it's Saturday, but the daily focus is Family Fun Day

Still around, just afflicted by work and CBA!

Sorry to hear about MIL, WhoKnows, and FIL, SC.

Had an early Valentines meal with DH tonight and maybe moderately tipsy now.

Sigh, I made it in here yesterday intending to read the thread and reply, but got waylaid again

Sc - hope your FIL finds peace soon, it must be so hard for you all :(

Who - hope your DF continues to improve :)
Also a question about your DC sharing a room, how old are they now that you are separating them again? I'm just interested as we are about to put ours in the same room (they have requested it :o ) They are 5 and 3, I'm guessing we will have a few years of them sharing before they want to be apart again? We are intending for them to have bunk beds in the tiny room with clothes storage and have the bigger room primarily as a playroom, with a daybed which extends into a double bed for visitors :) Then when we split them up again, one will stay in the small room with bunk beds (we would still intend to make them share if we have visitors, too cruel?!) and one would have the daybed as their normal bed. Then I guess we would have them swap rooms every couple of years to make it fair.
We're also intending to have a bit of a revamp of their wardrobes, they are the built into the house kind, so looking around at solutions for wardrobe innards at the moment (they are just hanging space at the moment which is useless for small dc).

Anyway, I hope everyone else is ok. I have done minimal flying, just the very basics of routines but not the zone cleaning, I think I might need to switch to a zone per day of the week system as that might be a bit more forgiving of the weeks when I get in a slump I'm slowly getting my anxiety under control, am managing to take the medication prescribed, just waiting for CBT to start :)

Waves at everyone, especially the newcomers to the thread :)

Who - sorry, I missed about your MIL's diagnosis, so sorry, what rubbish news :(

That's similar to what we did Whispers - they moved in together about 3 or 4 years ago and moved out again last week after just turning 11 (DS) and 9 (DD). Bunkbeds in DD's room, pullout single to double bed in DS's room. DD is saying she can't get to sleep without DS though, found her wide awake at 11.30 last night . They will be sharing for guest visits and holidays for the foreseeable, in fact that's what prompted it in the first place, they would move in for a guest visit, then started asking if they could do it more often (one had the cotbed mattress on the floor the other a toddler bed at that stage, they called it a sleepover), so we bought bunkbeds and they moved in together that very night. Sweet!

Aww, lovely! That sounds exactly like our situation, they adore each other (at the moment!!) and can't wait to share! I think it was mostly prompted because some good friends of ours had to move to a house with fewer bedrooms, so their friends are now sharing and they are very jealous! What is selling it to me is the options for when we have people to stay as at the moment we end up putting up an air bed and it can't be comfy for anyone :(
Going to go and do some measuring to make sure we can actually get a daybed in the bigger room comfortably (will probably go for an 80x200 ikea one).

Oh, forgot to say, it's heartening to read that they shared until 11 and 9 too, I don't know that age very well, so I wasn't sure how long we would get away with them sharing before they started complaining :o

Urgh, so much i should be doing, nothing I want to be doing.

Hi all, posting from phone so pls forgive brevity

Who knows - so sorry to hear about yr mil.

Blue and Whispers and everyone else, thx for kind words. Fil died yesterdahankful he is now at peace.

Poss won't be on

Hi all

Forgive brevity of post, am on phone

who knows - so sorry to hear about yr mil

Blue, whispers and everyone, thx for kind words. Fil died yesterday. We are thankful he is now at peace.

Poss won't be on here for a while so sending big wing flaps to all!

Sorry for double post, wasn't sure if first message had landed!

Thank you SC, I'm sorry to hear your news.

So so sorry to hear about FIL, SC, thinking about you and your DH :(

Sorry for you and your family SC - hope the next few weeks go as ok as they can

SC I am glad that FIL is finally at rest, but sorry for your loss x

Productive day, just not productive with the items that were on the to do list.

Thank you again everyone. As some of the longer serving fledglings will know, this situation had been ongoing for quite a few yrs. As ever, really appreciate all the support from this thread.

G'night all and enjoy yr Sundays

SC - I'm very sorry to hear your news. Although I know it's a release for yr FIL, it's no less grim for you and your DH. Good luck with all the arrangements that follow.

Also so sorry to hear the news about your MIL, Who.

Sending love and hugs to you and all your family at this sad time about your FIL SlingClutter.

Hoping you can take care of yourself and then give out hugs to your close ones, Whoknows. This sounds to be such a hard time.

So sorry to hear your news, SC. Even if it wasn't unexpected and you can take comfort in the fact that he's now at peace, it's still incredibly sad when it does happen. Thinking of you and your family.

Sorry to hear about your MIL too, WhoKnows.