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"The Life Changing Magic of Tidying" continues to magically change lives (PT 2)

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BeCool · 14/10/2014 20:28

Come fold your loved clothes, and feel the spark of joy in every object you own (or thereabouts).

Continuing our journey on from the Original thread: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/good_housekeeping/2178442-The-Life-Changing-Magic-of-Tidying-Marie-Kondo?msgid=50091328#50091328

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ProveMeWrong · 07/11/2014 06:52

Isn't it more like feeling Japanese minimalist? I think that's quite cool, not housewifery!

IAmNotDarling · 07/11/2014 07:25

I love my new tidy drawers!

"The Life Changing Magic of Tidying" continues to magically change lives (PT 2)
OnIlkleyMoorBahTwat · 07/11/2014 10:16

Just popping in as I am procrastinating from doing the booze cupboard (well, we have two full height Ikea Billy Bookcakes with frosted doors so you can't see the crap that lies within and one of the bottom shelves holds all the booze).

Half of me is happy as long as it all fits on one shelf, which it just about does, and the other half of me wants to get rid, and given the choice, there's lots of things I just don't want to drink, and DP probably won't either. SO WHY CAN'T I JUST THROW IT AWAY DAMMIT!

I'm thinking of leaving it until New Year at the latest as there might be an opportunity to donate it to a party, but there are such delights as:

80% of a bottle of QC sweet sherry. I think it was left behind by the previous owners of our house - we've lived here 9 years! It was sealed, but I opened it years ago and used some to make trifle. It smells OK but it's probably off now?

Half a bottle of Limoncello that I bought on holiday about 8 years ago. Also half bottles of toffee liquer, butterscotch and Apple, acquired in similar circumstances.

There's two open bottles of a weird herby liquer that DP always buys on holiday but rarely drinks here.

However, I think we're over the 'buying crappy liquers on holiday that we never drink at home' and now only bring back gin, brandy or whisky, which we do drink.

A cocktail making kit (untouched, circa 2002) containing banana, melon and blue liquer)

An unopened bottle of Waitrose Fino sherry, that I bought on a whim because I think it was fashionable few years ago.

An unopened bottle of Orange Baileys that I expect to be bleugh - I like a Baileys once in a while, but the flavour just seems wrong. It was a Christmas gift from MIL last year and gifts are a real sticking point for me. It all just seems such a waste - something like 80% of the gifts I receive I don't like or have no use for, and I accept them out of politeness and then feel guilty - a few of the things in the charity/homeless shelter/womens refuge place are unopened toiletry gift sets that I don't use. I also struggle with regifting because if I don't like an item, I usually don't think anyone else would, so would be embarrased giving it to them.

But up to now, I've done really well. I've got rid of over half my clothes to the M&S Schwopping bin (filled it up from empty all by myself Blush), filled both the wheelie bins with rubbish every week (non recyclable one is usually almost empty), got rid of loads of komono that I have no idea why we were keeping and tidied up the big walk in cupboard in our bedroom.

Like some others, I'm doing 'pragmatic minimalism' as we do need to keep some stuff and we do have the space. Things like cutlery/crockery for large family events we hold once or twice a year and extra baking tins etc - I don't see the point of getting rid of the good stuff I have to then have to buy more or use disposables and I think this is an area where we can happily deviate from the book, which is aimed at tiny Japanese homes whereas most of us here have houses with much more space. It appears that sheds and lofts don't feature in her book at all?

DP is not quite on board yet (he must have about 50 t-shirts and could really benefit from culling and folding) but he did 'the wires' without prompting and we reduced the volume by about 90% Shock, which I'm really pleased about.

I have a very small pile of things I am going to eBay and another pile of books/necklaces/handbags that are going to the charity shop tomorrow, and then I might take a break for a little while, but practice 'not buying things' and trying a 'one in, one out' thing. I've got nearly two weeks off work at Christmas, so I think I'll try to have another go then.

On the subject of shoe boxes, I have loads. I use shoe boxes to store stuff, so have loads spare as the volume has decreased and always kept a few under the bed as they are useful for storage. I'll put these in the recycling once I'm sure I don't need more for storage.

Someone mentioned pan lids not so long ago. Ikea does a rack that bolts on to the inside of a cupboard door and holds about 6 pan lids - brilliant.

ZingOfSeven · 07/11/2014 11:12

I don't drink, but don't throw away booze. even if that is not in the spirit (arf) on KonMari
I'm sure you can find some good recipes online to make fun treats like limoncello sorbet and stuff that will give you and guests joy and merryment.

just make sure it's gone by new year's.Wine

stilllearnin · 07/11/2014 13:02

Ah I see. Yes the problem is my house is far from Japanese minimalism though you see. So although I like the neat drawers I am not getting the full effect. Also I quite like crazy junk around but I think the trick is to get it all stripped down and then have the crazy junk exactly where I want it Smile

OneWaySystemBlues · 07/11/2014 13:32

I'm on electrical stuff and finding it overwhelming! How many random wires does our house have?! It's taking me a long time because other stuff has been happening and also it's not as nice as going through books and clothes etc. But I will get there...

ProveMeWrong · 07/11/2014 13:38

Yes just learnin. I see it this way. If all the crap is gone and it is stripped back to just what brings us joy, it takes so much less time to clean, figure what we need to buy in the shops, tidy up after the children, etc that really it's time saving in the long run from all the 1940s housewife stuff once you are finished. One off life event!

OneSkinnyChip · 07/11/2014 15:57

Lost you all! BBL.

Ohhelpohnoitsa · 07/11/2014 20:07

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leeloo1 · 07/11/2014 20:43

Well, I'm not making huge progress & (apart from my lovely organised wardrobe & the kids' room) the house looks like a bomb has hit it again Sad) - but hopefully I'll be able to do more over the weekend.

But... As part of the effort to declutter, I started listing a few bits from the toy mountain on ebay and I've made £85 on 3 items in 2 days (obv will need to take off fees & postage). And even better, I now have an empty double-height Trofast drawer. Grin

Well done to everyone who is making progress. :)

redmapleleaves · 07/11/2014 20:44

Hello all,

I'm coming out of hiding after following you all obsessively from the beginning and doing my own stuff alongside, but somehow feeling I was too much of a phony to post on a declutter thread. But having bored too many people in RL about it I want to join the gang too, please.

Have taken 11 bags to charity shop, 3 boxes books, done papers/kitchen/wardrobes, but major outstanding are shed and storage unit where many boxes from international move a year ago. Sigh.

I went clothes shopping this evening for the first time since the wardrobes, having got too chilly with my only remaining clothes, and was amazed at the new me. I bought three things, but only ones which I was really pleased with. Not the thing which was cheaper but not too flattering. But the more expensive one which sparked joy. And am dead pleased. I realise lots of my bags for the charity shop were full of second hand ebay 'bargains' which just never really looked right or fitted ok. Quite a rethink for me.

I'm feeling in lots of bits of my life I am getting clearer on who I and what makes the biggest difference for me, rather than putting up with things. I'm not saying there aren't kids headlice combing and homework and the stuff of life, but my efforts I'm being much more ruthless at prioritising against my goals rather than being Nice.

OneSkinnyChip · 07/11/2014 20:56

Evening all, I'm back! Been skiving a bit so you had fallen off my TIO list but I have FINALLY sorted my undies drawer.

Now, a question for those of you further on. What do you do with all the random shit komono while you are still sorting. So as an example our bedroom is finally gleaming on a superficial level but the top shelf of the wardrobe is piled with cosmetics, toiletries and random crap. Ditto bedside drawers and top drawer of unit. What am I supposed to do with it all as I move on to books? Just pretend it's not there until I get to cosmetics etc?

OneSkinnyChip · 07/11/2014 20:56

Hi Maple btw :) You sound like you are making excellent progress!

didireallysaythat · 07/11/2014 21:04

I'm still plugging away at it. I'm hoping decluttered drawers = decluttered head !

Ohhelpohnoitsa · 07/11/2014 21:13

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OneSkinnyChip · 07/11/2014 21:14

Confession: I haven't folded socks. They are still in balls but in a box now. They look cosy. I can't figure out how to fold the socks.

Justgotosleepnow · 07/11/2014 21:43

Red that sounds terrific. I think most of us are finding this is a big life declutter. It's certainly helping my head.

One I think it's rolling socks, not folding then. You unpair them, lie them flat on top of each other & roll from the toes to the ankles.

Then I put them end up, like a cinnamon swirl pastry. Though you need a shoe box or similar so they don't all slump and unroll.

I think the socks are happier that way! Grin

DH got the ikea storage boxes so I'm tacking his tshirts etc tomorrow. It's a huge mess, hope to create some order.

And he says he wants to add on to the declutter list the under stairs Harry potter cupboard. I'm most surprised! This lark is catching I think. I think he can see how much happier I am already.

Jamfilter · 07/11/2014 22:24

OneSkinnyChip - yep, piling it together and pretending it's not there until I get to that category is my plan so far! I figure at least when I DO reach that category it will all be in one place pouring onto my head from the hall cupboard

I really must do books. I've done clothes, papers, CDs and DVDs, and kitchen (because the kitchen was too annoying to leave any longer). I had to find a document today and it was in the first folder I checked! Miraculous.

Fifilal · 07/11/2014 22:32

ONE definitely fold the socks... They will be so happy! Almost as happy as I am after decluttering a lovely bottle of white;) Deserve it though as sorted the larder press earlier and got rid of loads of stock cubes that were best before 2009... Eek! Defo weren't bringing me joy!

MsBug · 07/11/2014 22:33

Redmaple welcome, sounds like you are doing really well.

Onilkley, why not invite the biggest drinkers you know round and put all the random booze out for them to drink Grin

I'm doing jewellery. Quite enjoying it as I have soooo much which doesn't bring me joy, but as I wade through it I'm finding the odd gem which I'd forgotten.

Has anyone tried selling their jewellery and if so what's the best way?. I have a lot of silver chains and bracelets and a few gold ones too. Mostly presents from relatives when I was youngest. Vintage Elizabeth duke Wink

ProveMeWrong · 08/11/2014 00:20

OneSkinny, I think if MK was there doing it with you (if only!), then what she makes her clients do is on every category, challenge that they definitely have EVERYTHING of that category in front of them on the floor at that moment. And if it isn't there, the threat she gives them is that she will automatically chuck any extras found later. She only gives the example of clothes, but I guess it works for every category. So by working through the categories, the komono dumping ground will get sorted out. And anything still left in there at the end oh imagine the end for a second! should more than likely be chucked.

OneSkinnyChip · 08/11/2014 10:01

The end Prove?! Grin

Are you sorting as you go though? So should I be going through the wardrobe and putting all cosmetics together ready for the great clearing? and all the sentimental stuff in a different box ready to be sorted? I feel like the room is only half finished.

ProveMeWrong · 08/11/2014 11:50

That's what I've been doing. Just sticking it more or less where I keep all the other stuff of that category, and if I haven't got anywhere, just in a box together.

didireallysaythat · 08/11/2014 12:45

As I tidied my clothes I shoved the assorted things that end up in drawers (is it just me who found Xmas decorations in amongst their socks) in the bottom drawer. When I get further along the process (at this rate 2016) I'll get to the drawer. But until then I'm just happy that the other drawers have order.

educatingarti · 08/11/2014 12:52

Hi there! I'd like to join this thread if I may. I have already (sort-of) kondoed clothes and socks. The socks have been an eye-opener to me. I got rid of any that were obviously holey, odd etc but still open a drawer that is half-full and can't find any I want to wear! Obviously I need to get rid of some more, but first I have to buy some more socks that do bring me joy as atm I'm still wearing joyless ones as otherwise wouldn't have enough iyswim!!

I've spent an hour this morning getting rid of loads of old office/work papers - very therapeutic but loads more to go!! I've been much more ruthless than I would be normally!