We have this one SORTED. Oh yes,
I find piles of laundry soul destroying. Same as piles of washing up. My epiphany came some years ago when I realised they can be treated the same way.
Dishwasher gets loaded after every meal and table wiped down. If the dishwasher is clean we unload it before preparing the next meal (usually just before breakfast). Anything washed in the sink is dried and put away immediately. This happens at least twice a day, more at the weekends. We do not resent it. It is easy. We don't even think about it.
Washing is sorted at the point of putting into the basket. We don't actually have a basket, we have a set of bags for life - darks, whites, sports, brights. Everyone unrolls their own socks, empties their own pockets, takes off stickers before putting stuff in the bags. With supervision and support for small people of course.
Every night DH picks up which ever bag looks fullest and puts it on to wash before bed. It takes hardly any time at all. First thing in the morning DS1 (early riser) puts it in the dryer. He piles up anything that can't go in the dryer (not much). He is 9. Pocket money depends on this. Soon I'll have him hanging stuff up.
If I am working from home, I empty the drier mid morning and immediately iron and put away everything. Immediately. Takes approx 15mins sometimes 30 if lots of ironing. I set up the ironing board beside the dryer before I empty. Nearly forgot, younger DC have the job of bringing empty hangers down from their rooms to the laundry every now and then. If I am not at home during the day I usually dry and put away the overnight load before dinner - DC are required to put their own away after they've been sorted by me. Age appropriate of course. Littlest just puts her knickers and socks away, eldest does everything of his.
I put on a second load straight after I've put away the first. Never before! That path would lead to the dreaded washing mountain. If it is evening and DH is home, DH puts that second load on. Again fullest bag, only takes a few mins to do. I get it dried and put away before I go to bed. I usually do this for grown up clothes. I do not want DS to have to separate my sexy underwear to hang up to dry in the morning
. And I wouldn't trust him to identify my more delicate tops etc.
Sheets are washed at the weekend. One bed at a time. Strip bed and remake bed with spares immediately with DC helping, load and set off washing machine. When it is in the dryer, repeat on the next bed if can be bothered/have time. Again put away immediately it comes out.
When it becomes a daily short repeated routine you stop thinking about it. Like brushing your teeth or washing up.
Don't ask about the paperwork mountain from school though. Ahem. 