does the state of your house ever get you down?

[alittlebitshy]

if so sign up here and reassure me.

I'm quite a "clean" person, and don;t like mess, but by nature we have a fairly cluttered home cos we have lots of books, dd has lots of toys and we're just not cut our for the show house-home that a few of my friends have .

right now it's getting me down. it always seems to need hoovering, the kitchen always looks as if it is a few days post it's cleaning day (again, it's neat but cluttered, and i clean up and put away as i go along but it never looks as nice and minimalist as so many i see. plus it is deffo not new and trendy.

there is a strange smell in our porchy bit. my mum reckons it eminates from dh's stdy (I never clean it, it is his domain, and he is a messy so and so and the thought of it frightens me plus he is always working in it so i can never get the time when i have the time iyswim, even if i felt so inclined).

it is getting me down... mainly this nelwly appointed scent.

argh.

i wonder if people think i live in an utter hole. I don't think i do, i try and keep it clean and as tidy as i can, but i don;t think i'm good enough. waaaaaaaah.

c'mon, make me feel less of a slattern.

This is messing with my head no one has been out yet, phoned their offices and although my social worker is out on visits they don't know if she is comming here today or not.

That is out of order.

confusedandafraid: How cruel... Did they ever mention a time/ Do they expect you to wait at home all day?

They expect you to wait all day cause you have nothing better to do. Well they didn't show today so what do I do now? Wait in all week? Have left a message at her office asking her to phone me and let me know what is happening. It's being caught in limbo, not knowing exactly what the expect from us or knowing what they are doing next which is driving me insane.

OK they have beeen out this afternoon. This time there were two of them. They looked round the house again and said that they were happy with the level of improvement and that I had proved that I can do it and that I can ask for help when needed as I had my parents in with us doing the grunt work and his parents looking after the children. They have given me a further week to finish the job and will be back out next week to have another look and to discuss coping strategies to help me keep on top of the housework.

They also want to help me structure my week so that I can have some time to myself to do something for myself.

I had a phone call from Homestart this afternoon and they are comming out on Monday to have a chat to see what they can do to support me.

Things are comming together. I have decided tht evry time they tell me to jump I am going to ask how high and then jump higher iyswim.

That must be a relief confused....I cant imagine how much pressure you have been under.

Comming out of hiding now as I feel more happy and confident about the whole situation.

House is very nearly sorted. HV is being supportive, DH is being much more supportive and taking more interest in the house as well. Both sets of parents are helping out a bit more as well to get us through all this.

Haven't had any more contact from the girl involved or her family thank goodness cause I could still rip strips off them. I am becomming more resigned to the it all and getting into a new routine that seems to be working well for us all.

Thank you everyone for your support and the kind words. It has been an emeotional rollercoaster but hopefully there is a light at the end of the tunnel and SS can see that we have made a huge effort and will be able to sign it all of as a momentary blip. I am aware that this leaves me open for them turning for spot checks but am fairly unconcerened by this as there is no way I wnat to live in an untidy house again.

mummyhill you are so brave for "outing" yourself.

I have had PND twice with my children and know how hard a simple task can be, i cant begin to imagine how you must feel about your so called "friend" getting the SS on to your back.

Well done you, i hope you go from strength to strength and get the help that you deserve, i know what its like to struggle with no help.
HUGS
xx