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It's September so the Fledgings Fly, as we wave our clutter bye bye

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WhoKnowsWhereTheTimeGoes · 30/08/2012 21:22

Welcome to the ongoing Fledgling Flyers thread for September, thanks to Bitchy who kept us posted through August.

Right, most of you should know how this works. It's a three pronged attack.
Phase one: The babysteps master these and you will be working like clockwork.
Phase two: Adding in Decluttering this will help you keep on top of the amount of stuff contributing to CHAOS.
Phase three: Missions Targeted activities to keep the chaos at bay and starting the deep cleaning.

The golden duster of Flying is stage 4: deep cleaning. This is for most me anyway, somewhat unrealistic and in theory you don't need to worry about it until you have finished decluttering that's never then. Just do it if you want to.

Now for those of you who are completely lost, lets rewind a bit.
CHAOS: Can't have anyone over syndrome. We've all been there

The fly lady approach works by breaking the house down into tiny activities which you do repeatedly until they become habit and don't feel like chores any more. The house is split into zones, each zone is tackled for a week before moving on and comes round again at the start of the next month.

There are lots of experienced Fledglings on here, hence lots of advice and support and chat about anything except housework some days. the main thing is that you can post any time you like even if you haven't lifted a finger around the house that day because with Flylady you just pick up again the next day and off you go again.

We advise against signing up for Flylady emails as they can lead to a great deal of clutter in the Inbox, each days steps will be posted on this thread to save you having to find them yourself.

In the meantime here is a link to the Flylady website for anyone who would like a browse.

Getting started Remember - don't subscribe to the emails!

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PositiveAttitude · 05/09/2012 13:29

Just popping in to say hope it all goes ok today with the "officials" toffee I thought there might be an update from you, but have realised it's only lunch time there, so will have a look tomorrow.

Mega rains here tonight. DH and DS, plus Korean girl (who was supposed to be moving on yesterday, but someone has forgotten to tell us what to do with her!! Hmm ) Have all gone to watch an International Football match this evening. They are going to be drenched, but, as DH always says, "You can only get so wet." Grin 2 hours of sat on a concrete step with their knees up to their chins....DH wondered why I declined the "treat". Hmm For a special treat at half time, there are snacks of sunflower seeds. WOW!!!! It is not quite stamford Bridge, but what can you expect for less than $0.50 entry?

Right I need to head off as DD4 wants the use of the dongle. Will try and catch up with something a little more productive tomorrow. to everyone. Smile

foad · 05/09/2012 13:36

Hello! I'm back after the school holidays! Marking my place since I saw you on the Active threads. Will be back later or tomorrow. Grin

ToffeeWhirl · 05/09/2012 14:24

Phew, MN ban over at last. That was hard-going.

PA - the LEA official is tomorrow, but I did keep thinking it was today, so may have written it down wrongly somewhere. Thanks for thinking of me. I'll let you know how it goes. What a shame that you and your DD missed out on the wet football match Wink.

Eyes - it might be a good idea to look into local home ed groups if you are thinking of it (try Yahool Groups to see if there's one in your area). I've noticed ours have quite a few parents with toddlers who are considering home ed and just want to find out more about it.

Brices - oh, your post reminds me of the toddler days, when I had to wake up DSs from their naps (when they had naps, that is Hmm) so that they didn't stay awake till 10 o'clock at night later. There was always that inner tussle between wanting to let them sleep so I could enjoy the peace and wanting to have the break later.

Swan - have had a very good first morning of home ed, thanks. Well done on coping with the chaos of back-to-schoolness. My lists are frequently carried over to the next day (and the next and the next...), by the way.

WhoKnows - that's a brilliant 'ta da' list for so early in the day Smile.

Have managed to get some washing and washing up done in between school run and home education. Had a meeting with DS's English tutor, then collected DS's best friend and brought him home with us. DS is now busy learning social and computer skills!

Can't believe it's nearly time to collect DS2. The school day is not long enough!

Engelsemama · 05/09/2012 18:16

I can imagine that freelance/WAM would be pretty hard with DCs around toffee I find that on my days ?off? I can?t even think about school with DS around. Means I find myself doing less at home and getting in as early as possible with nursery drop-off/staying longer at work (as long as I can while still getting home for family dinner). Managing okay at the moment but marking hasn?t kicked in yet and am guessing that once it does I?ll be heading upstairs to mark and leaving DH with DS on weekends.

pmpy and ellie I bow down before you ? no way I could teach full time anymore (only about 50-60% of teachers in my school do so) especially not being HOD as well!

eyes when I was hormonal ?and very pregnant?last year I had almost convinced myself to do an MA, even though I would be having a baby smack bang in the middle of it (Obviously been reading too many articles about wonder mums who became millionaires/set up their own business/changed the world during their maternity leave).

mymum and toffee I take a litre water bottle to work with me now so I can keep track of how much I?m drinking on work days ?because otherwise I?m a coffee monster--

Did you manage to get to bed early last night bitchy ? DH and I managed a grand old bed time of 9.10 last night.

BitchyDragons · 05/09/2012 18:36

Ta da
school run
meeting
get new car key cut
sort out ds' swimming kit
collect laundry mountain downstairs and start working though - several loads done
sort out tempermental washing machine
sort out ds' kit - maintenance stuff
Rest of kit for washing
spend several hours working on decluttering my room.
ds to swimming

laurenamium · 05/09/2012 18:37

I am being a very bad fly thread keeper upper Blush and I don't have time for a long post tonight either! I've read everyone's posts though!

Tonight's plan:
DD to bed
Date night!

Be back tomorrow!

elliepac · 05/09/2012 20:03

Evening all! Been a good girl tonightSmile.

Ta da list this evening:-
Washed up
Tidied downstairs
Hoovered downstairs
Washing on
Dinner prepped and cooked
Washing up again
Clothes ironed/laid out for the morning
Book bags sorted
Got ds to do his homework
Packed lunches done for tomorrow
Finally emailed toffeeBlush

Not bad even if i do say so myself. (clearly I am studiously ignoring the fact I haven't got any semblance of a morning routine as yetBlushGrin).

Off to catch up with what you lovely lot have been up to.

elliepac · 05/09/2012 20:12

Having just caught up....

engels i am exactly like you. I tend to work like a demon when at work to avoid bringing too much home, so I work through lunch and stay for an hour or so after school as I don't pick up DC's until 5.

lauren date nightWinkGrin

pa i too would have declined such a 'treat', I know you can only get so wet but I hate being wetGrin.

swan everybody looks like zombies in the first few days. Staff at school are all favouring the zombie look at the momentGrin.

That's all my brain can remember tonight but I reckon it was more than last night so there is progressGrin.

IWipeArses · 05/09/2012 20:44

Damn, thought I'd posted earlier, oh well. Made some decent progress today.

Wishing sleep for all those who need it!

BlueEyeshadow · 05/09/2012 21:20

Waves to all.

We did make it to Cromer, and had a lovely afternoon on an almost deserted beach. It's been jam-packed on all previous visits so that was nice. Both boys absolutely shattered at bed time so I hope they "sleep in" tomorrow (ie all the way through till 7!).

New lunch box and school shoes are labelled
PE kit and book bag have been located
Last term's clothes still seem to fit (Phew!)
DS2's playgroup bag has been packed
My meal/party plan and shopping list have been written

I think we might be ready for the new term!! DS1 is so looking forward to being in Year 1 and seeing all his friends again - it's really cute. Grin

Hope everyone has a lovely day tomorrow. Night!

WhoKnowsWhereTheTimeGoes · 05/09/2012 22:19

Evening all,

Cromer sounds lovely Blue and what perfect weather, I am v. envious of anyone whose DCs are still off school!

Arses - well done!

Ellie - you too, especially in top of work

Lauren - [envious] of you and your dates!

Bitchy - hope you are asleep

Engels - 9.10 that's pretty early. I'm doing well if I have the light off before midnight.

Toffee - thank you, I always seem to start the new term with a great wave of morning routine enthusiasm, especially now and spring when it's warm and light in the mornings and I can have the kitchen French doors open. It usually all goes to pot by week 2....

Foad - welcome back

PA - no, not quite Stamford Bridge, I certainly wouldn't have wanted to go to that game either.

Brices - thanks for the reminder, my kitchen French doors are very much in need of a clean

Swan - thank you for your kind words about DS. I know exactly what you mean about being so proud of them one minute and then a moment later they have gone and done something like the lecturing a 6 year old (who probably didn't even notice but we are acutely aware of). Hope DS2's first day back went OK.

Eyesdomore - thank you too, that is sad that your mum wasn't able to help you. I constantly feel I should be doing more / better for DS, but there is only so much you can do.

Mymums - how old are your DSs? My DS is 8, he's the one with speech therapy, but DD (6) doesn't speak very clearly either (although much better than DS) so I am doing the exercises with both of them together. Poor old DS has SALT and OT and sometimes feels a bit singled out for all the extra work, so I try and involve DD too where I can. Similarly DD struggles with phonics and I am doing extra work with her and DS is joining in with that. Then I wonder why my evening routine is a bit slack!

Jchoc - hello!

Well, a good day Chez Whoknows, as follows:

DH was better and went back to work.

Morning routine went well.
DCs seemed to have a good day at school and DS was invited to a party.

A lovely relaxed evening with the DCs in the house and garden
I have passed my first OU module! GrinGrinGrin
I have transferred all info onto next years Organised Mum calendar so we are up and running for the next 15 months.

Also I have been struggling to focus at work, I sit in a silent office trying to do boring stuff on a computer and resist the temptation to MN instead, in my previous job I worked in a very bustling office and I seem to need constant stimulation. Anyway, yesterday I discovered that I can listen directly to BBC podcasts on my phone without having to put them on via Itunes and I am sorted! I have been listening to all sorts of things from Radio 4 and 5Live and my concentration is much better. And actually I could probably do it direct from my laptop, but I hadn't thought of that. Sorted!

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WhoKnowsWhereTheTimeGoes · 05/09/2012 22:22

Links for Thursday 6th

Babystep Hotpsots. A good one this, one of my favourites.

Mission Scrub those counter tops

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Mymumsdaughter · 05/09/2012 22:39

Whoknows DS2 has SALT he is almost 4 DS1 had SALT and struggles with phonics he also struggles social DD 12 is brillant with them both. It is time consuming though I have time after school for DS1 to talk through his day and we explore strategies - the rukes of friendship is excellent. Managed to do the fridge this am and have managed to get clothes out for tomorrow and packed lunches done struggled with water again and tried to banish negative thoughts

swanthingafteranother · 05/09/2012 22:45

I let ds1 down today, by not turning up in park when I said I would, and he ws kept waiting for ages. Feel terrible, usual misunderstandings over time and place. Poor kid needs a mobile. I keep saying that, but he does..(school doesn't allow them,so no need except for out of school).Problem was lack of spending money to buy himself a snack, because of the embargo over junk food, so he was waiting desperately for me to turn up and buy him lunch.

Anyway, we all got out and about in beautiful sunshine, telly stayed off
packed lunch ingredients bought
ds1 and ds2 took plenty of exercise
so did I
uniform out for tomorrow
dd piano
ds1 violin
dd powerpoint homework, and dressed up as pink beribboned witch (early start on Halloween bag in loft)
ds2 bit of handwriting practice
supper for all, washed up
caught up with a few friends

otherwise! NIL!

Dh has a zombie headache. I have zombie clothes plan atm..Bedroom strewn with clean but unironed clothes. Now officially looking forward to tomorrow when I have a whole day to concentrate on SORTING OUT MY STUFF, and not worrying how get a St Bernard 12 year old moving...or...socialising..

swanthingafteranother · 05/09/2012 22:49

Whoknows fantastic about OU module! However did you fit that in?
Must try the Radio method of motivation too. Too often I find myself wilting in a silent room, I find it difficult to remember that all I have to do is just turn on the music...

EyesDoMoreThanSee · 05/09/2012 22:54

Busy days all round.

Blueeyeshadow are you on holiday up here? Cromer isn't that far for me although DD hasn't been since she was tiny we usuallly get the train up. Loads of fun!

Thought I posted earlier but morning routine went ok. Better than expected. Evening routine not so great ad I made the mistake of getting my pjs on when DD did and then slumping on the sofa. I must must start making more use of my evening. Was quite surprised that the washing I hung out last night isn't dry yet.

ShiftyFades · 05/09/2012 23:25

Gosh, I can barely keep up with this thread!! Grin

Ta Dah:
Long, unproductive day at work (IT issues)
Got home, DH went out.
Made ultimate chocolate cake
Ironing
One load of washing
Bath
Washed up
Shined sink

10pm... Finally sat down!!

Tomorrow I won't be flying as I'm going singing from 7:30pm until 9:30pm!

Anti procrastination day:
Swapped DS's swimming class as his teacher is shite doesn't push him in any form and he's actually gone backwards in his confidence which is very frustrating as he went to Waterbabies for 2 years which was brilliant. Feel like the last 6 months has been a waste of money / detrimental at the local leisure centre.
It was hard to do as I didn't want to sound like a pushy mum, but she really isn't very good - I was very tactful though Wink

ToffeeWhirl · 06/09/2012 02:11

Have spent the evening preparing for the LEA visit at 10am in the morning. House is scrubbed and decluttered; books and folders are laid out on the dining-room table; four-page letter detailing my educational philosophy is in an envelope. Am still wide awake because I fell asleep after collecting DS2 from school this afternoon. Told him I was going to have a half-hour nap and woke up two and a half hours later Blush. Luckily, DH was home by then and had made dinner Smile.

Funnily enough, the cleaner is coming at midday and I have already cleaned the house. Don't know what to ask her to do. Ah - ironing! That'd be good!

Ellie - thank you so much for your email. Just in time for me to sound well informed on History with the LEA woman! Grin

BlueEyeshadow · 06/09/2012 08:15

Quick waves!

New morning routine going quite well so far though just degenerated into a big squabble...

Eyes - no, we live in Norwich. A train trip to Cromer is one of the things we like to do when my parents visit.

Hope LEA visit goes well, Toffee.

BitchyDragons · 06/09/2012 08:30

Just flying past but wanted to say good luck to Toffee later. Have found memory stick and will transfer the stuff for you over the weekend.

Urgent To do:
Pack everything for ds' wkend away
pack for my few days away
send letter into school

And not so urgent - anything else.

WhoKnowsWhereTheTimeGoes · 06/09/2012 08:57

Good luck Toffee, I'm sure your confidence will be bolstered by having a lovely clean tidy home.

Ta-da!

Up, showered
Bed stripped and sheet in WM (DH did this)
Breakfast x 3
Empty DW
Packed lunch x 2
Refill DW
Wipe counters
Sweep and mop floor
Quick vac of hall and lounge
Swish and swipe
Get dressed
Remind DCs to make their beds (their new morning habit for this term)
DCs to school

Just waiting for the washing to finish and get it pegged out then off to work. It will be a busy evening, DD has tennis then DS has football, plus we are taking DD's friend along as we go because her parents are at a funeral.

I have decided that the start of term is a good time for new habits for both me and the DCs. Mine is (as usual) to be consistent with the morning routine, the change this term is that I am getting up 10 mins earlier and showering as soon as I get up instead of after breakfast to avoid bathroom congestion. Theirs are to make their beds in the morning and to sort out their sports kits for the next day in the evening, as well as their school uniform.

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laurenamium · 06/09/2012 09:28

Good luck today toffee!

ellie and whoknows Grin these date nights are going very well!

Well done for passing your first OU part too! Lots of confidence for the next one now Smile

Glad you had a nice trip blue! Deserted beach sounds lovely!

Grin at all the zombies at yours swan! I might join you by this afternoon, running on 3 hours sleep!

EyesDoMoreThanSee · 06/09/2012 09:29

OK, So like whoknows we decided term starting was a good opportunity to make changes

I set an alarm today (DD now sleeping about an hour later each day) and got up just before 7.

Showered
Dressed
DD and DH woke up
Dressed DD (DH went back to bed)
Made breakfast for DD
Made lunch for me and DH (Soup for me and boiled eggs, sarnies for him with home-made breakfast bars) and made fresh coffee with cream Grin
Washed up
Wiped counters
Dried my hair
Brushed teeth
Made beds
Grabbed bags

Got to work/nursery ten minutes early!

Brices · 06/09/2012 09:55

whoknows many congratulations on passing your module!

Yesterday we went for a nice walk in Ashridge forest perfect weather, not too hot, not too cold.

To do :- Cupboards in the kitchen, dislike this job as have to stand on a chair.....

foad · 06/09/2012 10:00

Whoop! I too am making changes. was also up before 7 (unheard of) and DD1 was out of the house for 7.30 to catch bus to New School.

SO have already
Unloaded dishwasher
School runned
Ordered new terms backpacks (they wanted to see what everyone else had)

To do:
Counters
Buy black leotard
Put supper in slow cooker
Hot spots (where do I start)
15 mins exercise
Try to sort out music practice timetable for kids - it's not getting done at mo

Huge wingflaps to you all - I'll BBL to catch up. x

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