Thank you all for the sympathy and hugs. I ended up wet, filthy, low, and exhausted last night, and got back to temp accom, internet and hot water, read people?s kind words, and felt a lot less low. 
Still to do
Emails re further maths site I?m so struggling costs, and still missing book.
Check pretend to fully understand psychology and statistics assignment--
New h/e file - backdated to Thurs.
Find Christmas file (actually own one of these thanks to Lakeland?s summer sale!)
Washing, drying
Ironing
Try digging up some spuds from unflooded bit of patch.
Repair d/s shoes
Patch jeans.
Find portable speakers for mon.
Whoknows you?re very kind, but just as well you couldn?t see or hear me on Thursday. It was beyond self-pitying whinging! 
I?ve since been to disabled swim (hot shower!) and been quietly reminded about quality of life by a group of severely disabled and very cuddly children.
Thanks for well timed Christmas control journal. very much need to think about Christmas while deciding what to do about all this. (They?re talking about structural surveys and digging below floors in Nov!)
Hope you can cope with enforced idleness. (a lot of mending tends to get done when I?m laid up)
Blue, it?s all relative, I?ve just seen what?s happened to those poor people in Andalusia 
and my woes feels very trivial, but it doesn't stop anyone?s problems, at any level, existing.
Madwoman I had to laugh at Trazzletoes ?Hang on a cotton-picking minute... You had glass in your foot for MORE THAN 3 weeks?! Talk about anti-procrastination day? 
Glad for you it?s out, but think it may go down in communal flying memory for anti-procrastination day, along with Toffee?s knob polishing. 
I don?t have (can?t get) insurance, so it?s down to what the various builders do and don?t have and proving liability. At the moment the only agreement?s they will cover some storage costs of damaged stuff while decisions are made as my lungs aren?t coping with mouldy damp stuff and if they?re liable they sensibly agree that preventing a ?health damaged? claim is in all our interests.
Can I be nosey and ask Bitchy and yourself, are you talking about wheels or blades please?
Bitchy hoping you can breathe better.
PMPY I?m actually in London but behind a reservoir and affected by an underground river. It?s ridiculous because we?re on a hill, but building works has diverted the flow, and the flood plains been built on diverting any water from there too. Only three houses are affected but we have our own disaster zone while everyone else carry?s on unaffected wondering what all the fuss is about (national grid closed the road and you?d think we personally demanded it!)
I?m so sorry about your floor and washer dryer, mine are dead from the first mini flood (just kitchen and lean to then) ages back, but I do have access to a launderette. Sympathies. 17 loads a week? 
Yikes!
Engels I think the de cluttering is the most time consuming part. Thanks for the hug, but especially the idea of wine! Are you missing a month or just very keen to get to Christmas? (?see you on November thread??)
Ellie Brilliant news about your CM. The more you?ve lost, the more precious what you have, is.
Swan Yes it?s DS as the main one, (there?s some DGD, and DGS, h/e but only part time from me) erm, he doesn?t see it as reliable, because he can?t imagine an unreliable mum. Something about ASD meets over compensating for one?s own childhood. Chuckling at your ?abominable monk? description. Was amazed at how angelic d/s looked wearing a surplus, just before he turned with his great long arm out, and took out his end of the row of them.
Good luck with DH making the brave transition to s/e. Recognising it brings it?s own issues should make it a lot easier.
MrsOnatop Am so impressed with your paperwork sorting.
Dizzy ( I don?t have an o/h any more but know the battle.) The way I look at it is you?re probably trying to change 25/35 plus years of conditioning so it?s going to take calm consistent ?retraining? to get anywhere. Coming at it from a different angle, I think many men don?t make the links between cause and effect well, and feel defensive when it?s spotlighted, along with defining themselves through their work and feeling very torn about responsibility. I?d refuse to be confrontational and just keep pointing out simple solutions that don?t ?cost?. I?d definitely gift him the stool just to negate the ?official? reason for not being able to use it.
Toffee thanks for the coffee and the Christmas countdown, it?s going to really help me not go putting the wrong things ?out of harm?s way? right now, and then create more chaos tearing everything apart in Nov. Hope you're making progress with recovering.
makingchanges Oh yes, some of us can certainly chat! Enjoy DD?s social life while it?s still in the easy party stages, dreaded boyfriends arrive fast enough.
Waves apologetically to everyone I've missed.