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DP destroying mattresses one at a time....

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TheDetective · 29/05/2012 19:12

God help me.

Before I start - no one suggest a mattress protecter - been there done that.

DP sweats like crazy at night, and the bed stinks. I can't stand it. It doesnt matter how often I change the sheets, because its in the mattress. The window are open, the fan is on. Nothing works to stop the sweat, his mother tells me he has always been this way. So I guess I need a way to manage the smell. I've tried fabreezing the mattress. Now it just stinks of fabreeze and sweat. Its like a gone wrong vinegar smell, and its digsusting. We've only had this new mattress 2 months.

Mattress protecters do nothing. It soaks through.

And to make matters worse, his sweating is so bad that it has caused mold to grow! Seriously! His side of the room has gotten so damp that mold has grown on the wall by his bed, and the window by his bed, as well as underneath the old mattress!!!!! I lived here for 3 years without him, and the mold appeared within 3 months of him moving in. It's no coincidence. Had the windows and roof checked for leaks - nada! The house has a damp proof course, and no mold anywhere else in house!

HELP ME!

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hattifattner · 29/05/2012 19:24

We used to have a plastic backed mattress protector, which was very effective. I covered it with a second, quilted cotton mattress protector and a sheet. and changed them weekly. (DH also a sweaty bugger)

Id recommend that he seek medical attention as night sweats of this severity can be linked with a variety of conditions.

Try buying a dehumidifier.

Seona1973 · 29/05/2012 19:26

waterproof mattress protectors should stop it getting through to the mattress. Has he been to a gp to rule out any underlying medical problems?

hattifattner · 29/05/2012 19:29

waterproof mattress protector - under £20

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TheDetective · 29/05/2012 19:45

The waterproof one was what he has soaked through!!!!

ARGHHHHH!

His mum said she had taken him when he was younger, and was told its normal!

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Springforward · 29/05/2012 19:53

Watching with interest....

tribpot · 29/05/2012 19:53

Right but that was years ago. He needs to go because this most definitely isn't normal.

We have these mattress protectors, I can't tell if it's actually a different one from hatti's! In theory DH has a fresh pillow case every day and I've been trying to get him to load the bed with thin cotton quilts that can be taken off one by one (we sleep separately because of his snoring. He sweats profusely because of his condition but your DP's sounds far, far worse and really needs looking into).

In the short term, I would get the mattress out in the garden and give it a bloody good airing. I would probably buy a cheapo new one and overload it with cheap duvets under the sheet. I would probably make him sleep in a cotton sleeping bag so it can be changed every day (although this sounds like it will barely make a dent in the problem) and, most importantly, I would tell him to do all of this because he's the one with the problem. What actually is he doing to help?

hattifattner · 29/05/2012 23:02

I put our polyurethane backed protector on upside down - it had a 18" top section at the head, and I used this for the feet. I cant imagine him soaking through a polyurethan protector - I used hem for the kids when they were learning to not wet the bed.

I really think if he is losing that much fluid over night, he should see a GP and ask for a referal. its not right.

Is he very overweight? Has he lost a lot of weight recently? Or gained? Does he drink a lot?

Please get him to a GP - there are treatments that can help

expatinscotland · 29/05/2012 23:04

He needs to see a doctor. That does not sound normal.

mummybookworm · 29/05/2012 23:08

A chap I used to work with had an excessive sweating problem. I believe he went for Botox therapy and it worked well for him. I agree with visit to GP.

Kewcumber · 29/05/2012 23:09

Is it a particular problem at night and not so much in the day? Does he snore? Does he get up for a wee a couple of times or more a night?

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TheDetective · 29/05/2012 23:28

He is 14stone, he sweated the same when he weighed 10 stone. That was 2 years ago.

No weight gain recently, or loss. As I say, its been going on his entire life!

He doesn't drink.

Yes, its mostly at night, but he always feels a bit warmer to me, and clammy most of the time. But women are generally cooler than men, yes? No he doesn't get up at night at all, and he does snore, but only on his back. He is fine on his side.

He won't see the GP as he said he was 16 when he went and nothing has changed since then (he is 21).

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dexter73 · 30/05/2012 08:50

He has put on 40% (is that right?) of his body weight in 2 years - that seems an awfully big weight gain to me. Could it be related to his sweating? I really can't think of any solution if he won't go and see a doctor about this. Is he worried they may find something serious?

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TheDetective · 30/05/2012 22:12

He was very underweight when we met. He now has a BMI of 25, he is 6ft 1. So Although he has put weight on, it was needed. As I say, the increase in weight has made no difference to the level of sweating!

I don't know why he won't go to the GP - I think its a case of, I've been once, and told there was nothing wrong, so why do I need to go again. He's stubborn like that.

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tribpot · 30/05/2012 22:14

Meh - up to him, but I certainly wouldn't be having him sleeping in my bed (or house) OP, sorry.

mablemurple · 30/05/2012 22:44

Embarrassing Bodies last night had a case of a woman suffering from extreme underarm sweating. She was given what looked like two pads to go under her arms which gave off a slight electrical pulse (sorry, not explaining it well, but they didn't really make it clear in the programme) - I'm not sure if she had to wear them all the time or just use them occasionally. Perhaps the doctor could prescribe an all-over body one something similar for your dp? I imagine the show has a web page, it might give you more details.

Ragwort · 30/05/2012 22:49

I would suggest he moves out and you just 'date' - he is only 21, do you really want such a young sweaty man in your life ?

I can't imagine what sort of conversation you had with his mother .

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TheDetective · 30/05/2012 22:54

We are having a baby, so ummmm, dating is out of the question for now anyway ;)

His mum just rolled her eyes and agreed at how bad he sweats!

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Ragwort · 30/05/2012 23:05

Wow - I am seriously old fashioned - how did you get into the situation of deciding to have a child with a man who had such sweating problems - had you spent a whole night with him before you made the decision? Sorry if I sound judgey - I waited until I was 42 before agreeing to have a child with someone .

BreeVanDerTramp · 30/05/2012 23:11

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Kewcumber · 30/05/2012 23:15

there are many things that cause night sweats and things people might not have been aware of 20/20 years ago would be picked up now. I have sleep apnoea and had night sweats and snoring. I would never have known sleep apnoea causes night sweats - most people don't.

It doesn;t sound like he has it btw way but its one condition that GP's are more aware of now than in previous years. Also there are more treatments for sweating now even if they can;t pinpoint a cause.

Ragwort · 30/05/2012 23:15

I don't want to sound mean Bree (and I am aware that I do) but I am constantly amazed after 11 years on Mumsnet that women get themselves into these situations and then only ask the questions afterwards - I am sure there are a lot more serious issues around but really, if someone is so uncomfortable in an intimate situation with their partner why would they want to have a child with them?

cheesesarnie · 30/05/2012 23:19

divorce.

seriously- make him go to the blardy doctor.
even if they cant find anything wrong, youll get advice on how to deal with it.

MungoJelly · 30/05/2012 23:20

My sweaty bugger was much less so when we did a really low carb diet - it made a big difference to him, although he is more of a sheet yellower than a mattress destroyer!

TheSecondComing · 30/05/2012 23:21

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BreeVanDerTramp · 30/05/2012 23:23

As the OP has posted in 'good housekeeping' and not 'relationships' or 'general health' then it seems that the state of her mattress is the main concern and not the sweating.

At the grand old age of 42 I'm sure you are aware that people will overlook many faults in the person they love, I personally couldn't share a bed with someone who sweats excessively, however I am currently being kept awake by DH snoring and may smother him with the mattress protector

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