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DP destroying mattresses one at a time....

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TheDetective · 29/05/2012 19:12

God help me.

Before I start - no one suggest a mattress protecter - been there done that.

DP sweats like crazy at night, and the bed stinks. I can't stand it. It doesnt matter how often I change the sheets, because its in the mattress. The window are open, the fan is on. Nothing works to stop the sweat, his mother tells me he has always been this way. So I guess I need a way to manage the smell. I've tried fabreezing the mattress. Now it just stinks of fabreeze and sweat. Its like a gone wrong vinegar smell, and its digsusting. We've only had this new mattress 2 months.

Mattress protecters do nothing. It soaks through.

And to make matters worse, his sweating is so bad that it has caused mold to grow! Seriously! His side of the room has gotten so damp that mold has grown on the wall by his bed, and the window by his bed, as well as underneath the old mattress!!!!! I lived here for 3 years without him, and the mold appeared within 3 months of him moving in. It's no coincidence. Had the windows and roof checked for leaks - nada! The house has a damp proof course, and no mold anywhere else in house!

HELP ME!

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Ragwort · 30/05/2012 23:23

I think the clue is in the op's first sentance .............

Separate bedrooms?

Pan · 30/05/2012 23:23

This thread stinks of something. And it aint sweat. Unless a load of old bollocks has that aroma....

BustersOfDoom · 30/05/2012 23:33

Make him go to the GP. And go with him to explain how bad it is FGS. It really isn't normal. Healthy people don't sweat like this. It could be due to an over or under active thyroid to give just two examples. If he refuses to go the the GP then it just shows utter disrespect to you and what you are having to deal with.

No one should have to live this like and maybe medical science has moved on just a bit in the last 6 years since his Mum took him in?

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TheDetective · 30/05/2012 23:33

Eh? Hmm

It's ok, we planned our child. And yes, with a man that sweats. Is that ok?!

I think I'd be laughed out of relationships for leaving a man because he sweats a lot at night!

And yes, I posted for advice on how to repair the mattress!

Ps. Some people have far too much imagination. Why would someone post in good housekeeping about their mattress just for a little trolling amusement.

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TheDetective · 30/05/2012 23:36

I am trying to persuade him to go - he can't smell it though, so he doesn't see it as a problem. He agrees he sweats a lot at night though. So we may have a breakthrough! I really think he just doesn't see it as a problem to be honest, I guess I haven't made it in to a massive issue because its quite a delicate issue. Well it would be if someone said it to me!

Maybe I need to pussyfoot around it less!

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Pan · 30/05/2012 23:37

I have noo idea OP. Bored??

btw, I am NOT suggesting you are trolling - that's entirely different.( see Talk Guidelines....). Just sounding a pretty inauthentic in so many ways.

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TheDetective · 30/05/2012 23:38

Ooooops, forgot to add that we had been living together for 2 years before deciding to have a baby.

So no, it wasn't a one night stand Hmm

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Pan · 30/05/2012 23:39

night. have sweat-free one yerself.

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TheDetective · 30/05/2012 23:40

Care to point them out?

Wait, don't bother. I'm not rising to the bait.

Back to the thread. Can anyone advise me the best ways to get the smell out the mattress? His mum suggested today that I take it outside and let it air. But the heavens opened, so that may have to wait a few days yet! I wondered about getting a rug doctor and trying that. Would that help? I think it could...

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ThatVikRinA22 · 30/05/2012 23:41

night time sweats can be symptomatic of all kinds of disorders - he most definitely needs to see the GP.

profuse sweating like you describe really is not normal

amistillsexy · 30/05/2012 23:43

I would have thought a waterproof mattress protector would actually make the sweating problem worse, as they make you hot and...erm...sweaty! I'd say the same about sleeping on layers of duvets (I do that when camping to keep me warm Grin.

Sorry, Op, no help on the mold/mattress front. I would be pushing encouraging him to go to the GP though.

cheesesarnie · 30/05/2012 23:43

try it op but until he looks into it youll be doing it on a regular basis.

TheSecondComing · 30/05/2012 23:48

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winnybella · 30/05/2012 23:48

He needs to see a doctor. There's no question about it.

What about soda bicarbonate? Wet the matress (well, dampen it) and put a thick layer of soda on it and perhaps replace til it's not humid anymore. It worked very well with diarrhoea/vomit stained mattress when DD had a tummy bug.

winnybella · 30/05/2012 23:49

But I don't see how he can sweat through plastic, tbh Confused

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TheDetective · 30/05/2012 23:49

Before we got this mattress, we had a double (now a king size) and over the mattress was a double duvet, plus mattress protector. This was for my comfort Grin as opposed to the sweat issue. But it didn't make any difference to the demise of the mattress. It was still yellow and moldy under his side!! Shock

I want to avoid that this time as this mattress has some latex memory layer thing in it, and its just the dogs bollocks for sleeping on Grin.

I'm happy to keep cleaning it at the moment, but want something that will be effective. DP dealing with the issue can be discussed together, but in the meanwhile, my pregnant nose needs rid of the smell!

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SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 30/05/2012 23:50

Could you have two mattresses, and make his one you can afford to replace regularly? Or use a really thick plastic cover on his side and layer it with thin duvets and another mattress protector?

And maybe you could shampoo the mattress with a biological washing powder and use a vax to dry it as much as possible, then dry it in the sun.

WWYB · 30/05/2012 23:50

Could you give up on this yucky mattress, buy a new one and don't take it out of that thick plastic bag they come in. Put a 1 or 2 waterproof mattress protector on top of that and then sheets as normal. That way the mattress itself should stay safe inside the thick plastic and you will just have to change the sheets and 1 or 2 of the protectors depending on need?
I know it sounds crazy but it sounds like a real problem.

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TheDetective · 30/05/2012 23:50

Bicarb - I have that. Shall give that a go tomorrow! Thank you!

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colditz · 30/05/2012 23:51

This really isn't your problem. He's not a baby and you're not his mother, his bodily fluid messes are not your responsibility.

thisisyesterday · 30/05/2012 23:51

i would be giving the guy an ultimatum!
he either goes to the doctors, or he sleeps elsewhere.

you can't keep having bedding and mattresses ruined, it's ridiculous.

i would say the mould in the room is likely coincidence though. my mum has it in one room in her house too. no leaks either, just poor heating/ventilation I think.

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TheDetective · 30/05/2012 23:53

I've had the mattress 3 months. I refuse to give up on it yet!

Does anywhere know anywhere other than Ikea that you can get mattress protectors for an Ikea king size? They are bigger than a normal king size, and Ikea charge £40 odd quid for their protectors. And they aren't even waterproof.

The old bed had a regular waterproof one. That didn't cost the earth.

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thisisyesterday · 30/05/2012 23:59

what are the dimensions?

i would see if you can get a zipped one like this so that moisture can't wick down the sides and into the mattress.

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TheDetective · 31/05/2012 00:00

It's 160cm x 200cm.

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thisisyesterday · 31/05/2012 00:00

this one should be the right size but isn't zipped