if you had people you didnt know coming to stay...

[OnlyWantsOne]

what would you do to the house to prepare?

DP has invited his friends round tonight to stay

am 37 weeks PG and have a 4 year old, 2 cats, and an 18 week old lab puppy.

House is organised and kinda tidy, apart from the odd toy and sofa needing putting back nicely and plumping.

Im exhausted, is running the hoover around ok? I cant muster the energy for much else.

Shall make up their bed when DD in bath later, they not coming till 8

DP wont be home til then either so cant ask him to do any thing

urgh

OWO - you're being a martyr and if you genuinely want things to change you need to take steps so that the two of you can start changing. you need to talk and explain

you are indeed your own worst enemy and because your DH has got away with it this time, chances are he will do it again.

I think going up to bed with your DD is the last gun left in your arsenal and I hope you did it.

Onlywantsone: well done! You've been a star - you're preparations sound absolutely fine.

Do not murder DH until after guests have left.

Hope you managed to have a good night, and your dh looks after you this weekend to make up for it.

Surely if your guests have an ounce of common sense they will come equipped with flowers, chocolate and a takeaway?

I hope your weekend goes okay. You do know you are allowed to be absolutely horrible to everyone don't you?

Who the fuck goes to stay in someones house when they don't even know the people? It's very rude of your H and the invaders. I hope your puppy wees on them

How did last night go?

I hope you had some fun too, after all your hard work.

they're still here.

enough said.

fuming.

Blimey!!!!!

I hope they are helping you out and not leaving everything to you

What are they like?

OMG!!! I really hope that they are helping out - but whenever they do actually deign to leave, you MUST have strong words with your "D"H over this and tell him he is NEVER to do anything like it again or you will be
a) leaving all the work to him
b) quite possibly leaving the house to let him get on with it.
for you.

I have only limited sympathy. YOu sound like a martyr. FFS, discuss this with your DH like an adult. Are you really saying that a grown man is incapable of operating a washing machine yet he has married and impregnated you (three times) and holds down a job? I actually have some sympathy for your DH rather than you. He has probably given up since nothing he does is ever good enough. As the saying goes, "Get down off the cross, we need the wood."

You haven't been a star at all. You've been a doormat.

Your daughter is watching your behavior and learning that this is how to be a woman - you sublimate all your own needs, you scuttle around after everyone and you run yourself into the ground for no reward. Don't be surpised if in 30 years time, your daughter is as angry and exhausted as you are now.

Im not angry. Or exhausted.

I went to bed at 9pm after DP cooked a fantastic curry, the guests stripped there bed and put it in the washing machine, and put clean bedding on the bed again for me -

Finished my book in bed this morning, whilst they took DD and the puppy for a walk, been nice actually, think the woman is now going to be one of my good friends!

He's a plonker though, and complained all the time that we had no salad cream

DP has massively apologised and is busily getting on with stuff, since friday when I cooked and cleaned, ive had to do nothing what so ever... :P

Good thing too, OWO. Glad it's not been such a bad experience but I really hope your DH never pulls such a stunt again.

People who expect to be able to have salad cream at every meal should bring their own, IMO. Revolting stuff.

My DH does this to me all the time, I'm the unofficial, unpaid hotel for his bloody colleagues! I usually do minimal stuff in house (if it's good enough for me then it's good enough for them), make sure their bed and bathroom is clean, put wine in fridge, order takeout (or better still insist they all go out for dinner) and make a really big thing of saying when they arrive 'treat this house as your own, here's where the tea/coffee/juice is, just help yourself, don't wait for me to offer!'

Trouble is they do keep coming back so maybe I'm doing too good a job at making them feel welcome!