'Seeker, you say your experience of HE was a good one as a child. What if some state expert, deemed so by the government of the day, had decided that your parents were not providing you with appropriate education?'
I don't think this would happen-if it was a good experience it would shine out.
I come on to these threads because my brother and SIL do it, and I find the whole subject fascinating.
'I do find it exasperating (to put it mildly) that it is not "allowed" to discuss any potential negatives of HE, or to suggest that schools are not all bad, or to suggest that officialdom may not actually be out to
"get" HErs.'
That point of seekers is the main one that irritates me and her last point that anyone who cares for their DC would HE.
A lot depends on the DC. A couple of weeks ago in the Sunday Times page on relationships there was a very laid back, anti establishment, anti authority dad but his DD was a structured, highly organised girl. Luckily they had money and she insisted on boarding school, it gave her what she wanted. As an adult she got on really well with her father but she had plenty of embarrassment when younger.
I think that the DC is central. I am all for the rights of the DC to have the sort of education that suits them, whether structured or automomous-home or school. The rights of the parents are secondary IMO. A wish to HE doesn't mean that you are good at it.
In cases where it means control, as in Christian HE in the US where parents don't want their DCs exposed to other views I don't think it is a good thing.