Frances5 he started off mostly disliking everything, and going into upset rages if he was corrected on anything, but I would stop and talk about how no one can see us it is just ds and mummy there is no need to get upset, and lost of talk about how mistakes are necessary and good as they tell us how to do things correctly and if we not make mistakes we could not learn, he was so pressured about being correct and embarrassed when he could not do things that it seemed impossible at first, even now if he makes a mistake he can go mad and angry and storm off and I do stop when this happens and talk him down , it is not easy, when he was younger becuase he was like this I could not engage him with anything like writing or drawing or reading at all it is only since December, with patience (real or put on to appear real) that he started to even try, sometimes I am totally upset and frustrated and it can be wearing but I do not show this too him, we have to stop, I am not perfect, but the thing is as he lets me help him more and tries just a little this causes improvement which he sees and that encourages him to keep trying, so when he started to be able to spell out words and read a little it spiralled an dhe got beter and better at it. Maths was a big no no and still is , he is so against it he would nto even draw a circle around a group of spiders in a book (the workbook remind him too much of feeling stupid at achool) which he was capable of doing, it was just not going to happen, so I left it and by accident when he asked to write things on the pc in word, just random letter and words he typed in to a blank page and discovering the space bar delete etc he eventually wanted to press the numbers so he did that for a while, I said what about writing a sum so we wrote some and using a number line he did them (subtraction) this is simple stuff he can do easily but he had fun typing it in and it got his confidence up and now today he has asked me to do maths on the pc, so I will be typing his sum type of things on the pc on word, i could not believe it when he wanted to do it , so sometimes you have to find new and mysterious ways to engage them, or sneaking maths into counting sweets and money whilst out shopping, so I cannot force him to do anything , he has to want to.if i hadn't found a way to make maths palatable I would have left it for a while and kept trying from time to time, it is hard when you have had a bad day for other reasons and your child is with you the whole time wanting attention, and you cannot take him to school and relax, it can be intense, and he can be difficult but the way school was causing us all upset and tension it is nothing compared to that, we are all happier and he is less tired and less affected by the hearing loss, in fact you can cat me or email me if you like as this is hard to talk through like this. [email protected]
Also buying a globe unexpectedly sparked off lots of interest in geography and questions and looking at countries in books etc Andhe likes the schools programmes (turned up loud enough) and with me to explain things while he is watching it. Reading to him can be difficult if the hearing is particularly bad on that day, sometimes even sitting next me on the sofa he has to look at my face the whole time and cannot look at teh book adn hear me at the same time so we stop, but I am not sure how to get round that for contant hearing loss at that level of severity, it jsut tired him, but his ears have improved this week