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sorkycake · 21/12/2006 16:19

Hahaha! you all though it was super-dooper freebies. No!
Just thinking on the hijacking of threads, which is rampant on HE threads I've noticed, and it's all fillyjonks fault

I think I'm now allowed off the naughty step and would like to ask how you all are?
We broke up today and are now officially on our own. It's took 5 'roses' sweets before I could type this as I've re-entered panic mode!
Oh and I'd like to know if it's too early to teach a 4.5yo about Yule and the Solstice.

Feel free to hijack or converse as you feel the need to

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Astrophe · 18/01/2007 23:39

Sorky, thanks for your encouraging story, I hope your DD continues to come back to you.

HM, I hope things get easier for you over time.

Well, I recieved my first HEing books from amazon the other day. One is 'The Unschoolers handbook' forgotton who its by, and the other is 'how children learn'. I'm reading the unschooling one first, and its great, but I think has helped me realised that 'pure' unschooling is not for us. I think we will follow a bit of a program (not a curriculum as such, but a plan we decide on) for the basic literacy/numeracy outcomes we want to work towards, and then we can use a child led approach to reach those outcomes in whatever way suits and interests the kids. Make sense? I'm thinking out loud here! Anyway, the book is challenging and has lots of useful ideas, so very good.

Also had first convo with a friend about our plans. She was genuinely inerested and not at all hostile, but still didn't 'get' it, and was very concerned about socialisation!!!She was worried that the kids will miss out greatly if they don't learn to sit still and be quiet in a classroom - that they wont be prepared for 'real' life. It just gave me a taste of the difficult convos to come with family etc

A question for you all - to what extent are your DHs involved in the planning and delivery of your childrens HE? And what about your extended family?

I'm just nosey really, but also trying to get a feel for how people make it work, and to get some ideas. Thanks!

Fillyjonk · 20/01/2007 08:56

astrophe. ah yes, those conversations....

My christmas...jaysus, I had those conversations with pretty much everyone. The trouble is-I KNOW they are genuinely interested but...by the third or fourth I am thinking of doing an A4 sized FAQ and just handing it out...god it gets boring.

DP helps quite a lot. He will help more, we are really just easing into it since ds is technically Foundation Stage. We are taking this year to get ourselves into a rhythm. He does 3 things. 1. gives me time to plan by taking the kids (I spend a lot of time on this ATM as I am getting my head round it, I expect this to reduce substabtially) 2. Input on "curriculum" (oh more of that below) 3. He does some specific "curriculum" stuff with them in the evenings, which works well for everyone.

We are kind of unschoolers atm and hope to stay that way. BUT only really because both my kids are quite unteachable, even by normal 3 yo/18 mo standards...it works for us, ds is picking up early reading stuff, BUT if he is asked to do something and he in any way feels he is being patronised, he will switch off.

My "method" is to think of fun and exciting things that teach what I think ds needs to know, and invite them to do them. Basically cooking, gardening, and so on. Before an activity I normally prepare (or find on t'internet) a large print sheet with pictures going through what we are doing, and also try to find and read some books to support what we are doing. And then if the activity sparks any further questions or whatever, we follow those up.

One thing I have been struck by is how much ds LOVES non fiction and instruction stuff.

Am not sure if this is unschooling or what...actually I think technically its "strewing"...but if it works...

there are some good websites out there with "lesson plans" which help a lot with this. Just structuring, really.

I also have some montessori stuff which is good cos it breaks things down into steps.

Fillyjonk · 20/01/2007 09:02

oh and re extended family

my mother is a really fabulous help in all this. She will tend to be slightly more "teachery" than I'd prefer (I caught her last weekend trying to teach ds, 3 , the 2x table...) but still, has 30 years experience of helping young kids learn.

My father just likes little kids, really. there are other issues there, but bascially he adores his grandchildren and provided we watch out for his mood issues he is a good influence on their lives. oh he's a maths/physics teacher, but likes (and is good at) talking about the world to small kids so definately a good realtionship.

My brother is also sciency, and does lots of enginerring stuff with ds, which is useful.

My PIL are bascially anti HEing. Becuase they feel kids need the experience of being institutionalised Their words, btw, not mine. But I want them on board. They are both ex teachers (history and physics) and know an awful lot.

We see some family probably on average once every few weeks.

SueBaroo · 20/01/2007 13:57

Aaaaaah!!!!

bangs head against keyboard

How come my non-Christian rellies always ask sensible questions about what we're actually doing with the kids now, and our general philosophy of education, and our Christian rellies get their knickers in a twist because we're not using our kids as 'mini-missionaries' to all their school friends and teachers???!!!

can you tell I've just had this same, stupid conversation with said rellies???

Astrophe · 20/01/2007 23:54

Sue, sounds very frustrating. I'm interested to hear more about your situation and your struggles, as we are Christians too and will perhaps come up against similar issues. I was actually thinking about you today and had decided I must post and ask you some questions! I was wondering how old your kids are and what difference being a Christian makes to your HEing - ie, are you at the stage where you are specificaly teaching science/religion etc and so are giving a Christian viewpoint on those subjects?

My two are just 2.8 and 10 mos, so we aren't quite there yet! How did you NonC rellies react initially? Mine will see it as confirmation of our foolishness I'm sure! Actually, our Christian rellies (my family) might too - my Mum is a Phd in early childhood and she is not thrilled at the idea on HE. Hopefuly she will come 'round, when I throw some research at her!

Was your faith a big factor in your decision to HE? How long do you intend to HE for? And when did you start?

Sorry for all the Qs. I hope you family becomes more supportive of your decision. Do they not realise the benefits of HE in terms of ensuring they have a solid grounding in the Truth? And in tems of their self esteem and education? And don't they realise you and they do socialise with people? Grrr. I'm frustrated on yout behalf!

Fillyjonk · 27/01/2007 16:46

hmm

have been down the thread looking for profiles

not many profiles to be seen here

but then I don't have one and cannot be arsed to make that situation change, so...

Fillyjonk · 27/01/2007 16:46

except astro

U2, eh, astro?

Fillyjonk · 27/01/2007 16:47

humphrey I am not counting as I never know what to say to soft furninshings

sorkycake · 27/01/2007 17:07

Eh? what profiles?

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Heartmum2Jamie · 28/01/2007 10:02

argh! I tried to add a profile and for some strange reason I had to re-register with a slightly different user name. Now I have 3 . Will finish filing in new profile later.

sorkycake · 28/01/2007 14:52

What profiles? The lea don't want a profile do they? Speak slowly please I'm about to give birth any day!

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Saturn74 · 28/01/2007 14:56

sorkycake!
Mumsnet profiles!
You can go to 'My Registration' at the top of the page to create one.
Best wishes for the safe arrival of your little cake.

sorkycake · 28/01/2007 15:12

oh
I've been but the questions were too hard for me atm. I'm on another thread being venomous about Nicky Hambleton-Jones, heehee!

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Fillyjonk · 28/01/2007 15:19

oooh exciting sorky!

did you ask a question re placental burial or did i imagine that?

sorkycake · 28/01/2007 15:27

Yep last night, I've decided against the lotus birth though, on account of it's absolutely foul!

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Fillyjonk · 28/01/2007 15:30

placental-burial=good

tasty apples

sorkycake · 28/01/2007 15:33

Do you think it would interfere with the ericaceous compost for the blueberries, I'd like a great crop of those, they're soooo expensive organic.
See the lunacy that is the last 9 days, I can't think of a book/band/film I like but can wonder at the intricacies of placental burial and compost

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Fillyjonk · 28/01/2007 15:42

hmm

well

I think it would be ok actually, but you might need to chuch some coffee grinds on also

(each of our kids got a tree for the placenta to go under. ds-apple, dd pear, since traditionally in some past tyme boys were given apples and girls pears.

oh and rosemary. you are meant to give the baby a rosemary bush for the first year of its life to protect against something. did this both times. bush dead within weeks BUT you can always get another one at tesco

Fillyjonk · 28/01/2007 15:43

oh ps where are you having this baby?

if in hospital and you DO want the placenta, do make very sure that you tell the midwife.

We had it on the birth plan. Everything else was "yeah...yeah...well duh...then...oh, placenta, you want the placenta, how lovely. We haven't had one of those requests in ages.".

Runnerbean · 28/01/2007 17:46

I've just done a profile!

Runnerbean · 28/01/2007 17:48

Oooh!
Feel a bit exposed now!

sorkycake · 28/01/2007 20:33

Ooh I am impressed Rb, I didn't know you grew veg. Did you take Fillyjonks lentil-weaver test as well?
I'm birthing at home, Dh is refilling my pool in my living room as we speak, or at least he'd better be, I can hear Top Gear.
I'm going for a cuppa and some cake then will look at doing my profile some more.

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Fillyjonk · 04/02/2007 19:30

hmmm

has sorky been around the last few days?

SueBaroo · 08/02/2007 14:24

Well, I'm not Sorky, but I've just had our latest sproglet, too. Little boy to add to the collection. We've already started him on Algebraic equations, and he's learned most of Lamentations off by heart.

Heartmum2Jamie · 08/02/2007 20:17

Congrats Subaroo!!

Can't say I have seen Sorky around. I should imagine she is busy with her new bundle.