Why are British women going to Turkey for sex?

[CarlottaValdez123]

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You misread my post. The men were known locally by their fellow Gambians as bumsters. Don't shout racism at me please.
Gift -giving totally normal in a relationship. But the situation you describe is transactional.
You missed my question - is it weird having sex with someone who isn't attracted to you?

They absolutely are attracted to me actually. In my experience the men I meet on holiday find blonde western women incredibly alluring, in the same way that western women find black men incredibly sexually attractive. I don't know why that is, I never ask them. But its just their preference and it works for me because the Turkish men I meet on holiday are absolutely gorgeous. You'd never see a man like that back home.

May I ask how old you are?

I think they call themselves busters tbh

Same. Was pretty grim.

what age are the men you normally see? Sorry I’m being extremely nosy, do they buy you things? Like pay for dinner and drinks etc?

Hilarious being accused of racism by somebody fetishising black men DebbieSavage
You sound deluded, like the men who post on prostitute review sites.

I know where you are going with this so don't bother. You sound just like my sister and I've heard all the arguments before, so miss me with that please. I know for a fact that every man I have ever been with has wanted me for me and nobody has ever been exploited in any way by gifts or any promises about citizenship. Believe it or not, some men actually do like an older more experienced woman and those men are usually the most considerate lovers.

But anyway, I am going to leave you all to this circlejerk thread because I don't think mentally I can handle all of this right now. Have a blessed day or whatever 🫶

Of course they do😁I would be embarrassed to fall for their claptrap. You are a shag with money, nowt else.

Last time I went to Lanzarote there was a (quite attractive) white British woman in her 50s on the beach sat near me & my sister; she was with a younger West African black guy, from their loud & animated conversation / bickering it was clear they’d met up in Lanzarote & she’d been paying him to spend time with her, now she was trying to ditch him & he wasn’t having it…. anyway they both walked off before we left, still arguing!
Lanzarote doesn’t seem like the kind of place for ‘sex tourism’ but as there are a lot of male migrants around who need money, maybe it’s becoming more of a thing in places where it wasn’t before?

Ok the reason I was asking is that I can well believe a blonde is a little more exotic etc for men from africa/turkey etc. and a 46yr old in decent shape isn’t going to necessarily be a turn off for a young man looking to get his leg over (men are as shallow as fuck in my experience). From your response though thats a no, you are paying because you are engaged in a transaction.

What I would say as someone familiar with arab (but not turkish but i imagine it’s not dissimilar) culture is that most men would be extremely embarrassed to have a woman pay for them in public, it’s unmanly and no serious suitor would allow a woman to pay for him. I just think you should be aware of that. I’m not trying to be unkind but you need to be honest with yourself. I’m sure it’s fun and it’s wonderful to have a young attractive man charming you but it’s probably not genuine.

This what I mean about the direction of exploitation not being clear.

Just like the men who visit stripe clubs are hugely attractive to the dancers they are paying. It is just part of the act.

Well it’s definitely not new. I remember Deirdre Barlow’s toy boy, Samir, back in the day on Corrie.

DebbieSavage isn't a genuine poster.

Obviously. But she/he is still fairly entertaining.

Well thats a relief then.

A friend had an Egyptian ‘boyfriend’- with a wife- wanting her to visit regularly and suggesting they get a local ‘marriage blessing’ so they could associate freely in public. I was very concerned for her. She finally wised up and stopped communicating with him. I don’t remember the ins and outs, but I’d say he was exploiting her rather than the other way around. She was hoping for love and relationship. He was quite pushy.

Jamaicas are very popular too

I've always assumed they're a drag queen or trans because of the name!!!

Wasn't he a holiday romance? Didn't he end up being stabbed down canal street? That's not a euphemism BTW!!

Because it makes a change from Benidorm?

Where one partner is in an unequal financial to the other , it is an ideal situation for abuse . The impoverished young males see Western woman as people they can get money and gifts from . Perhaps they imagine all Westerners are wealthy , well they are , compared to most of these places . And the women like to delude themselves that these men are boyfriends and can also use money as a means to keep getting the attention they crave . Unless anyone is under the impression that this is a real relationship and feelings get hurt , why not . But be aware that safe sex is a must as you are not the only client .

And if you did I am pretty sure they wouldn't be in the slightest bit interested in you

Desperation & Delusion!