Passport out of datw

[Bossie21]

Help, I’ve screwed up
Booked a holiday for 4 nights flying out tomorrow for me, DS and DH. It was a treat for DS but just done check in and DS passport out of date. I know I should have checked but now feel like the worst mum in the world. Do we go without him?**

How old is your ds🤔

Yeah…. No point of wasting the holiday

If the treat is for DS, how can you go without him

DS is 17 and has 2 older brothers at home so fine to stay on his own. It was his treat and I feel so bloody awful now. I have said we can book another holiday for him to come on!

17

Wow! Poor love.

Is it actually out-of-date, as in "the expiry date is before today", or are you perhaps misreading the EU validity rules? What are the issue and expiry dates marked in the passport?

Might as well go without him to minimise the money lost. He'll have to have his treat holiday at another time.

I'm sure he'll have a nice time at home with his brothers, perhaps leave some money for extra takeaways as a treat?

But at 17 he's old enough to be aware of his own passport validity so don't take full responsibility for the mistake. He didn't think to check either.

no of course not, surely you wouldn't enjoy it knowing it was his treat?

Worth asking as there seems to be a spate of people rushing to renew still valid passports because they're looking at social media nonsense instead of checking a reliable information source. However as he's 17, his passport is unlikely to fail the 'more than 10 years old' test.

Yes, still go but you owe him big time.

Leave him cash to do something with his mates or purchase a new game, and tell him that the next trip is entirely his choice (obviously within reason!). I’d try and get it booked in pretty sharpish. Must be gutting to be looking forward to
a trip and it not happen.

Yes I would still go but you gave some making up to do! That said he needs to start being aware of things like the date on his own passport.

Expired 10 days ago. I renewed all 5 passports in 2020, totally forgot his was a 5 year passport! We are not frequent flyers!

Why are people saying a 17 year old needs to be aware of his passport dates and validity ...
when there are so , so many threads in here with adults a lot older than 17 who have messed up their passport dates validity ?

The OP has booked this holiday asa treat for her ds.

Why would he then suddenly think to go and check his passport !

Thank you all, he is being very grown up about where as me on the other hand has spent the whole day crying. He did point out that none of us checked his passport so not just my fault.
I just feel mean leaving him behind.

I honestly couldn’t leave him but I know other mums might feel differently. He must be gutted.

Of course you don't go! Have you even tried to ring the passport office to try the same day service for renewal? Failing that...no don't go.

Yes of course I have, we fly tomorrow.
No passport open appointment till Wednesday. Can’t sell the holiday as too late to change the name, 48hrs needed. Called the hotel to see if we can delay, no can’t. Jet2 can’t get a later holiday for us.
He has said go as he doesn’t want us to waste the money and then we will rebook for summer holiday. We were going to go away in the summer, he said it’s like doing it the other way round.

He can get a premium same day passport, but it still takes time and obviously the cost of this plus a new flight is a lot and not worth it for such a short break - but I’d offer him the equivalent cash perhaps as a peace offering so he can treat himself.

Wednesday is the earliest day for a passport even premium one day, I would have paid it.
i feel like the worst mum in the world, I don’t know if I can go!

If your boys all think you should go, and you going or not has no impact on whether you can go somewhere again with DS in a few weeks, you should probably go and have a nice break with DH rather than waste the money.

What do the older brothers think?

Perhaps they’d like the house to themselves for a few days…

Of course you go. I hope you have gone by now. It's a mistake, no need to punish everyone 😔

My decision about whether to go or not would be based on whether or not I really believed my DC would be upset about it or not. If you really believe your DC would prefer you to go and isn’t bothered by it, just go. Don’t be a martyr.

If ds is ok to be left then yeah still go but you absolutely need to take him away in the summer to compensate

All 3 boys have said go. We will definitely take him somewhere else in the summer hols, we were going away just the 2 of us in the summer so effectively we are doing it the other way round now
i have this horrible churning feeling in my stomach and really do feel bad about it.