Passport out of datw

[Bossie21]

Help, I’ve screwed up
Booked a holiday for 4 nights flying out tomorrow for me, DS and DH. It was a treat for DS but just done check in and DS passport out of date. I know I should have checked but now feel like the worst mum in the world. Do we go without him?**

Thank you

Oh bless you, must feel rotten. But, your son sounds absolutely lovely; he’s said go and you should. Sounds as if you’ve raised a good boy!

Hi OP! I really hope that you went on this mini break, I have a 17 year old who would insist that I went to avoid wasting money. Just go and enjoy yourself, you can make it up in the summer, you all may laugh at this in the future❤️

Sometimes things happen, as your DS said, it isn’t just your fault.

What a sweet boy he is to be so gracious! You’ve raised a good one. Go on the holiday, leave him some money for some nice treats while you are away, book another one when you can, and don’t beat yourself up.

I would still go because the loss of money would make me fume but I would be booking something else for him asap on a credit card if need be

Yes just go then, he’s old enough to understand and is ok about it. Just book to go away in the summer to make up for it, as you said.

Your kids are probably content to have a few days without the parents insisting on chores!! You’re going to feel bad whether you go or not but you’ll feel worse about wasting money.

How bad does his other parent feel about this?

I personally couldn't go but you do you!

Really?? What 17 year olds living at home would be checking their own passports for a holiday their parent has organised. As the holiday organiser I would be checking as soon as booking the holiday that everyone’s passports are valid.

Ok but can you just take a second and think about what a mature lovely kid you have raised. With all the hormones and stress after exams he’s still being level headed enough to see it’s not just your fault. Well done! Enjoy your holiday then take him on the best holiday in the summer 😊 maybe give him your uber eats password for a treat if you’re feeling guilty! 😂

Yeah I agree with this. He sounds a sensible lad and he can go away in the summer with you instead. I’d have loved a week at home without my parents at 17!

Well you are giving him a treat of sorts aren't you ? Both parents out of the country for 4 days so he has free rein over the fridge and entertainment ( I'm sure his brother's will ' supervise 'appropriately ) bliss for 17 year old .

Enjoy your break. I guarantee he will not shed a tear while you're gone so don't waste your worry on this.

Can you change the date of the holiday, sometimes you can do this for an extra fee. If not I’d still go but I’d give him something to enjoy to (probably money) is it a treat for completing his exams?

Oh for goodness sake he's 17 not 5. I was married at 17. Stop with the woe is me and get on with it. He seems more mature than you are.

I'll bet your DH isn't feeling the guilt

No, i couldnt leave my boy at home.

Go and enjoy your holiday OP. You’ve raised some lovely lads by the sound of it. Be proud, make the most of this break with your DH and then enjoy planning the summer holiday with your DS when you get back. Your son wants you to go and enjoy yourself, so go enjoy. 😊

Just go

my DS wouldn’t mind at all if we went and he had to stay

it is what it is

If being immature means feeling guilty because you messed up for your child then yes that’s me. Age is irrelevant, we’ve had some shit as a family this year and he still smashed his exams this was his treat.

Crikey. Calm down you miserable git. Id feel so bloody awful in her shoes!

Wish I was as perfect as you. You sound like you've had a lovely upbringing

@Bossie21

Of course you’re going to feel guilty but it’s a lesson learnt re passport for the future

I’ve sent a text to my DC and their DP to remind them to check the dates on their passports for their upcoming holidays on the back this thread

Go on your trip and enjoy it. You must enjoy it so it’s not wasted. Normally though when booking a flight you have to enter the passport dates so it’s a shame it wasn’t flagged at that point

I think fine to leave him behind, my parents went away when I was 16 and I loved it. Leave him money to get takeaway every day etc. and other goodies and then book another holiday for you all again, maybe let him choose destination.

You don't have to enter passport details when booking a flight on many airlines, only when checking in, although I agree that it would be a good check for the information to be required at that stage.

However, for that to work, airlines would have to correctly add entry requirements for all the countries they fly to, for passport holders from all countries, or at least a 'top 10' of their customer demographic, so a huge undertaking.

How dare someone else feel differently to you…
you sound awful lacking emotional intelligence if you can’t understand why OP feels the way she does.