Friends didn't tell us they upgraded their flight

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Travelling with some friends and feeling slightly peeved. We all booked tickets together in economy. Usually DP and I go Premium or Biz but we thought it would be nice for us all to travel together.

Friends have upgraded their flight to Premium and there are now no upgrades left to buy. So we are stuck in economy.

@DriedHydrangeas cross posted 😄

I wouldn't be that bothered about it. So what if they're paying more for the flight?

As are most of the problems on these threads. It’s a discussion forum. 🙄

So what excuse did they give when you asked them why they'd gone and been so sneaky?

YES FFS just get on the flight and have a good time for heaves sake

I get where you’re coming from. But it’s also a bit of a communication issue.

You thought you were being decent by travelling economy so as not to infer any difference in flying preference. All mates travelling together etc.

They do an upgrade without discussing and now you’re in a position that you wouldn’t have chosen for flight options.

But be the bigger person here and shrug it off as you did the right thing initially of not wanting to make them feel uncomfortable with any different plane seats. But the communication has been off that they didn’t think to tell you of their upgrade plans. The holiday will still be lovely.

It sounds like you need a bit of a conversation how this holiday is going to play out: are you going to try and find a compromise tha will please everyone do each day, or will everyone just do what they want and if you all want to do the same thing, great.

It sounds like you think you are going on the first holiday and they think they are going on the second.

Nothing you can do about the flights. Don't waste any further energy on it.

I honestly wouldn't have an issue with this. I don't even often sit with my own husband unless i choose business which I do on occasion. They've told uou about it. You are free to do the same or not. Whatever. No big issue imho

It's a bit annoying but 🤷‍♀️

Use the at least several hundred and possibly thousands of quid you have probably saved to treat yourselves to something else lovely while you're out there.

Amazed anyone who is not a millionaire can afford to upgrade for holidays any more, it's costing us $3k per person in economy to fly from US to UK this Christmas 😫

Also had you all agreed to sit together/ did they say they wanted to fly economy, or were you just trying to be nice but making assumptions about what they wanted to do?

Of course people go on holiday with friends. What's odd is the lack of communication and prior agreement about the details and each assuming what the other will want without actually checking.