Friends didn't tell us they upgraded their flight

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Travelling with some friends and feeling slightly peeved. We all booked tickets together in economy. Usually DP and I go Premium or Biz but we thought it would be nice for us all to travel together.

Friends have upgraded their flight to Premium and there are now no upgrades left to buy. So we are stuck in economy.

This was my first thought - the communication seems to have gone awry. How did two couples who both actually wanted & could afford to travel premium end up sitting in economy to begin with?

Wow thats shitty behaviour

That’s annoying, OP. I’d be peeved, too.

Something similar happened with husband’s brother and his family (BIL, SIL, kids) and husband, me and our two kids. We were all on our beach vacation and BIL asked us one day if we wanted to take the ferry to the next island over and spend the day there. We said sure, got on the ferry with our cars, parked our cars, got out, took pictures, hung out together. Got back in our cars once the announcement was made to do so. Assumed that whoever drove off first would pull over and wait for the other party. BIL and family drove off first and sped away fast instead of waiting. We watched them just take off. You invite people to travel over to another island to spend the day and then don’t spend the day with them?😕The four of us, baffled, hung out and explored and took a ferry back to our beach house a few hours later. When we returned, we found that BIL and family were already there, chilling by the pool, having taken an earlier ferry. Husband told his dad what happened (MIL and FIL were on vacation, too, but didn’t go over to the other island) and FIL was just as baffled as we were. Thought it strange.

But then SIL and BIL have always thought they were better than us, so there’s that.

Do you mean they upgraded at the airport? This is often a cheaper option.

If they did that and there were no other upgrades available it’s just tough shit surely?

I can’t see the angst over not sitting all together…

I’d be pissed off too.
but then, I probably have said to begin with that I didn’t want to sit in economy.

Are you new to mumsnet?

That is beyond rude. If they didn't mention that they were planning to do it, I would bin them right off.

Power move.

Upgrade to BC for your return trip.

Rude not to let you know.
Obviously deliberately.
Seems petty and I would wonder why.
I wouldn't be impressed.

I don't know if it's rude behaviour, that needs more informal, but possibly this is, as others have said, about poor lines of communication. Maybe some assumptions on both sides.

So you graciously forewent your usual luxury so as not to embarrass your friends? Who completely disrespected your gesture by upgrading themselves? It might take a long time to re-establish your dominant status. I’d be FURIOUS. Ha ha ha. Ha.

It's not that deep. Are you jealous? Next time, just book the seats you like.

Are there any first class seats available? I know it's a LOT of money, but it might be worth it just to see their faces.

Labour voter?

Does anyone remember The Fast Show?

“I am considerably richer than you!”

Had you spoken about seating? Or did you just presume you were all booking economy and there's been some miscommunication? If you had discussed it prior, yes it was a bit of a crappy thing to do.

If you could be a love and just jot down a list of topics you deem are worthy of discussion, here on the holiday forum, that would be spiffing. Thanks!

You shouldn't have assumed they'd be flying economy- haha! Maybe you were a bit condescending in convo, 'oh yes we always fly first class but for you we shall downgrade so we can all rough it together' and they've turned around and said fuck that.

Oh, that's too bad, and I would consider a miscommunication, but try not to let it eat at you. You have to spend the week together!.
When we went with some friends, they booked first, and I asked where their seats were so I could book nearby.

Oh yes, do this! Piss on their chips.

It doesn't bode well for the holiday OP if they're arranging things and not communicating it with you.

... and then the friends have no choice but to upgrade to a private jet 😃

This wouldn't bother me at all and I would think good on them.

On flights you don't really do much other than snack and watch films anyway. Not something I would worry about at all.

Aren't you about to have a weekend/week with them straight after you get off. A few hours on a flight in a different seat isn't really a big deal.

You have every right to be cross about this. If you've booked to travel together, I think its perfectly reasonable to assume you'll fly together in same cabin. If one party wants to upgrade and another doesn't, that's fine, but the "upgraders" should tell their travelling companions at the point they decide to upgrade, to give the chance to ALL upgrade, or not.

Unless otherwise discussed at point of booking, my assumption would definitely be that all travelling in same class.