Do you post pictures of your hols on SM?

[travelmadmum23]

Just this really, do you post pics once you are home? Do you not bother?

I like to document my travels via SM and blogging but this year I am hesitant as it has caused some tension within the wider family.

Hubby says - don't bother
I say - why shouldn't we post the occasional pic (not in a braggy way or anything)

I used to post approx 10 from each holiday. We go away many times a year but since Covid and the cost of living crisis it just hasn’t seemed right so I stopped posting any. I guess I’m worried it seems like bragging. Dc are also getting older and I don’t want them on sm when they haven’t consented.

I absolutely love seeing my friends’ pictures though. I usually WhatsApp a few pics to my family and best friends now.

I like to see pics of my friends holidays!

TarantinoIsAMisogynist

This is so sad. If a friend of mine had previously had money troubles and was now able to afford nice holidays, I'd think "Good for them!"

If there are people in your life who would judge you for going out and enjoying life now that you're able to, ditch them.

Ah I’ve three friends in particular- one now has a debilitating illness and finds it difficult even getting about, one lost a job and the other’s dh died. It wouldn’t be them being mean but they’ve had a tough few years as things have gotten much easier for us.

The people who might judge are people who have had to bail us out and have been amazing in the past (we had to leave our house but had no deposit to rent again and also we’ve had people help us with electricity and sent the kids stuff and helped us with food shopping so it looks crazy that we’re now holidaying out foreign!!! Could never ditch them, they were amazing and never moaned!! They might not even care but they’d be totally right to think it but we finished a lot of loans, the kids are all in school now so childcare’s less, I got a job and dh got a raise x

I don't see it as bragging. Everyone I know posts a picture on holiday.

What's with all the misery? I love seeing other peoples photographs wherever they are - New York. Barcelona etc. makes me happy to see others out and about on their holidays.

Maybe not bragging but it definitely is showing off. What other reason is there to post ? Be honest with yourselves !! I never post pictures because I'm not so self absorbed to kid myself that anyone else cares about what me or my kids look like ! All I would be doing is saying look at me look I'm doing so well and that doesn't sit right with me. What about people who can't give their kids a holiday ? Won't that make them feel shit. Think of others. And I am saying this as someone who can go away and can afford it not someone who can't !!!!

I post the odd few holiday pics, not a full album but nicer pics of special places and a few pics of kids/family. I don't give a shit if anyone thinks it's bragging or pathetic. I've had enough shit to deal with in the last few years so If I'm having a nice time on my hols I want people to know. I also like seeing what other people have been up to. Because funnily enough, if I've got someone as a friend on my SM I actually like them, and I want them to be having a nice time too!

The sneering from the 'too cool for SM' brigade is pathetic actually.

Your username is somewhat ironic here.... 😂

I only have friends and close family on my social media. People who actually like to hear what I've been up to (and the same for me about what they've been up to). If your friends aren't interested in you, that's sad.

Holidays can be very cheap, so don't have to be showing that you've "done well". A camping weekend in the Lakes is just as interesting to me as something more exotic.

The fact that you felt the need to tell us "I am saying this as someone who can go away and can afford it not someone who can't !!!!" says a lot tbh. You seem to be projecting your own views and motivations onto others.

I’m always surprised by how many people write social media posts off as bragging or showing off. As has been mentioned already, it’s nothing of the sort in my eyes. I love to see what my friends and family are up to..
New baby? Gorgeous.
On a fancy pants holiday? Lucky you!
On a budget holiday? Nice to get away, what a treat!
Got a new puppy? Adorable.
Saw a pretty flower and wanted to post? It’s all about the little things in life!
Surely that’s a normal way to feel about your loved ones and the things that are important to them that make them happy?

No, I don’t. I never post pictures at all, and I don’t have any friends or family on social media.

I agree, most people support their friends and are happy to see the things they post.

If some people don’t and see it as bragging, showing off or in a negative way are saying more about themselves.
They are not really friends if that’s their immediate reaction.

Yes but just the odd one when it's something really exciting, funny or unusual. I also do it when I am there but normally don't link a location.

Friends post 30+ ones when they come back, personally I don't want to scroll through all of them.

Not sure why posting a photo from Spain is different to posting a photo from a day out at the zoo.

The sneering resentful types probably think a photo at the zoo is bragging too. They're only happy when they think that everyone else is more miserable than them.

I think it’s way, way worse to WhatsApp someone all your holiday pics and “force” them to engage. At least with social media a simple like will suffice or can just scroll on by if you don’t like it.

Personally not, but I rarely post anything on social media.

Muffin101 I agree. I like your outlook.

I absolutely love seeing my friends’ adventures, even those I could never hope to replicate. I also love seeing pictures of their gardens, children’s ponies, babies, dogs etc.

I think if a person is going to be miserable when presented with pictures of their friends having a lovely time, that says more about that person than the picture poster.

This.

I post pictures, shared with dd, as my close family like to see them - that's what they've said. It's easier to put them in one place, and I can't be faffed with changing viewing settings each time I post holiday pictures.

Family and friends know I'm away. If it bothers them then they are free to scroll by, unfollow or informed. I won't be offended even if I knew, which chances are I wouldn't.

I enjoy seeing holiday photos from family and friends. It gives me inspiration for my next trips. And I don't see it as them bragging - it's sharing and documenting a nice event for them, which I dint begrudge.

And I'd rather see holiday snaps than a lot of the other rubbish people post to SM!

Everyone hits like and really they are thinking bore off 🤣

I too like Muffin's outlook. I genuinely like most peoples rare SM/FB posts be it about a holiday, restaurant, baby, puppy, anything.

So why are they on SM at all?

If you don't like seeing what people are up to, why bother to create an account and then regularly check it?

Unless you get your pleasure from sneering at people?

Never. It's showing off.
It's also a massive assumption that anyone would be interested.
Most of all, it advertises that I'm away from home, which is pretty stupid, when you think about it!
If a friend expresses curiosity in where I am, I might send them a photo privately.
Plus, none of my holiday photos ever have people in them 😂

I do. A lot of people on my socials are people who travel often and I love seeing their pictures and getting ideas.

It's also a massive assumption that anyone would be interested.

Is it?

The only people who will see the photos are (a) your friends and family who (b) have chosen to have a social media account and (c) are choosing to check that account fairly regularly. It's a self selecting group of people that you'd surely expect to be interested in what you're up to, and pleased for you if you're having a nice time?

Again, this attitude says a lot more about the person expressing it than about the people they are judging.

No, I send one or two pictures directly to friends and relatives that I know are interested and even then I filter carefully. My sister has become very disabled unfortunately and will probably never go on holiday again. she does actually ask to see pics of what I’m doing out and about but I send them with a heavy heart sometimes as she is bedbound.

Yes. My family and many friends are thousand of km away and we all share nice bits that way.

The thing is that we actually like each other so we are happy to see each other's trips, things, successes, life... I don't follow people I don't care for.