Who should get the upgrade?

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DD is mad about collecting airmiles. She has various credit cards to collect them and puts anything she can through those cards to get points to upgrade her flights from economy to premium or business.

We are going on a family holiday with grown up kids (including dd). Everyone is booking their own flight and paying their own way (for everything). Recently, we bought another car for about £10k and booked another holiday for about £4k. We don't do credit cards so we let dd put it on hers and then we paid her back immediately. This means she got a lot of points via our expenditure.

On the family trip, dd has announced she has upgraded herself on the night flight (red eye) on the return. We can't justify the cost of a cash upgrade for ourselves.

Who should have got the upgrade? DD as she has the card and collects the points, or us, as it was our expenditure that gave her the points? I think DD deserves it even if it was a bit selfish, dh thinks he should have done (but he refuses to get a credit card!)

It's her card so she gets the upgrade.

Why did you put the car and holiday in her credit card? What benefit was it to you?

I can't see why you'd get the points unless you said that at the start of the £14k purchase? But then why would she let you use her card to give away the points?

If you want airmiles collect them yourself

Well it’s unlikely that spending £14k gets enough points by itself to upgrade a long haul flight, so I think you’d be unreasonable to expect that. And if it’s a short haul flight there’s little point in upgrading anyway most of the time. So I would happily let it go

DD. Your DH is grabby.

Unless you agreed when you used her card that the air miles would be for the use of you or your husband, the air miles belong to the cardholder.

So your DH refuses to earn air miles. But now he's whinging about that?!

Your DD gets the air miles, for being super organised and savvy.

You benefited, presumably, by being able to use her card for the transactions since you don't "do" credit cards. It's not your daughter's fault that she gets air miles on the spend.

Your dd

What a strange father (step?) he is to begrudge his daughter an upgrade and want it himself!!!

I couldnt bear to be with a tight ass like that. He should be proud of her financial savviness

It’s his choice not to get a credit card and collect them himself. If he won’t do that he can’t expect to get any bonuses associated with using a card

Your DD! Also depending on the air miles / airline, your purchases wouldn't have covered the full upgrade.

Her credit card, her points. She was nice to let you use her cards!

DD gets the airmiles.
If you wanted them, you should have got a credit card that enables this.
Presumably, you benefited from the use of DDs card, because you got to buy the things you wanted. How would you have paid if DD had said no?

Your daughter no question about it. If your husband wants the benefit of Airmiles then he needs to get a credit card & set an account up

Hes not losing out on anything

Your dd should keep it. I’m sure your DH is aware of the reason that she wants to collect these points and there’s nothing stopping him doing the same himself.

dh thinks he should have done
Ha!

On what grounds? He won't have a credit card but he wants the benefits that a credit card give?

You need about 100,000 miles to upgrade a long haul flight to business.

To earn that by spending on most credit cards, you’d need to spend £50-£100K!

DD. Weird and mean to think otherwise. It didn’t cost you anything for her to collect the points, DH needs to get his own card if he’s bothered!

Of course your DD - is your DH her dad?

Your dd! She did you a favour. Would he feel this entitled if it was his parents or siblings?

For you to be upgraded, you'd have to have an airmiles account with airline then DD would have to gift you the airmiles required to upgrade one way long-haul(assuming you haven't any airmiles of you own). As other posters have said, £14000 spend wouldn't earn long-haul upgrade.

She didn't do them a favour, she used her credit card in order to get the points. Which is how she has so many points now to get the upgrade.

Which is her upgrade.

It's not like the OP and her dh were going to use their credit card because they haven't got one.

Your DD of course.
Your purchases will have been a very small contributory factor in her being able to do the upgrade. Plus you get additional protection for your purchases by doing it on a CC. If your DH wants to benefit from upgrades then he gets his own CC. How odd to even think it’s his.

I doubt the points from your spending would qualify you for an upgrade? Especially more than one.

yes it may have contributed to her having enough points.

if there were enough points from those two transactions to pay for your upgrades, fair enough. But did they?

Your DD of course. If she had used the air miles from your car and holiday purchase for another trip your DH wouldn't have questioned it. Plus I doubt there was enough air miles from just those two purchases to bump her up. Doesn't seem like you are short of cash anyway if he wanted to buy better seats. And also, if only enough for one person to be bumped, why would that person be him and not you?
If it was me I might have let my mum get the better seat as a treat.