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Who should get the upgrade?

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phengia · 02/03/2024 14:53

DD is mad about collecting airmiles. She has various credit cards to collect them and puts anything she can through those cards to get points to upgrade her flights from economy to premium or business.

We are going on a family holiday with grown up kids (including dd). Everyone is booking their own flight and paying their own way (for everything). Recently, we bought another car for about £10k and booked another holiday for about £4k. We don't do credit cards so we let dd put it on hers and then we paid her back immediately. This means she got a lot of points via our expenditure.

On the family trip, dd has announced she has upgraded herself on the night flight (red eye) on the return. We can't justify the cost of a cash upgrade for ourselves.

Who should have got the upgrade? DD as she has the card and collects the points, or us, as it was our expenditure that gave her the points? I think DD deserves it even if it was a bit selfish, dh thinks he should have done (but he refuses to get a credit card!)

OP posts:
Sparkletastic · 02/03/2024 16:25

DD

drumbeats · 02/03/2024 16:26

The only way you could book was to use a cc. You USED her cc. She did YOU a favour. You don't have the cc.

Of course you don't get the upgrade

JJathome · 02/03/2024 16:27

Wow, you call your own child selfish and your husband wants the upgrade???

it’s hers. What’s wrong with the pair of you.

Whattodo112222 · 02/03/2024 16:27

100% your DD, there's absolutely no question that anyone other than the card holder who collects the air miles would get them.

User56785 · 02/03/2024 16:31

The only way you could book was to use a cc. You USED her cc. She did YOU a favour. You don't have the cc.

What you talkin' about Willis? That didn't happen.

I still think it's the DD's upgrade though.

The audacity of your husband thinking he should get it!

Goblinmodeactivated · 02/03/2024 16:33

phengia · 02/03/2024 14:53

DD is mad about collecting airmiles. She has various credit cards to collect them and puts anything she can through those cards to get points to upgrade her flights from economy to premium or business.

We are going on a family holiday with grown up kids (including dd). Everyone is booking their own flight and paying their own way (for everything). Recently, we bought another car for about £10k and booked another holiday for about £4k. We don't do credit cards so we let dd put it on hers and then we paid her back immediately. This means she got a lot of points via our expenditure.

On the family trip, dd has announced she has upgraded herself on the night flight (red eye) on the return. We can't justify the cost of a cash upgrade for ourselves.

Who should have got the upgrade? DD as she has the card and collects the points, or us, as it was our expenditure that gave her the points? I think DD deserves it even if it was a bit selfish, dh thinks he should have done (but he refuses to get a credit card!)

What was the purpose of letting her pay on the CC? I presume either so that she could claim points on your spend rather than no one get any points for it, in which case obviously she gets them; or it was because there was some benefit to you to book on her CC eg the payment protection; in which case it would be cheeky to expect points in addition to other benefits. As PP had it been me I’d have given my mum the upgrade; but it’s hers to give; not yours/DH.

SheilaFentiman · 02/03/2024 16:34

DD, of course. If she had chosen to use the upgrade or to get a discount on seats on a different holiday, DH wouldn’t even know!

piealhxiprshl · 02/03/2024 16:38

You are utterly moronic for putting such high end purchases on your daughter's CC, you wouldn't have been eligible for S75. Be grown ups and get your own CCs.

InTheRainOnATrain · 02/03/2024 16:40

DD’s card so she gets the points and therefore the upgrade. If you wanted to collect miles you could have got your own credit card and used that but it was your choice not to. And if you and DH don’t have a credit card then please don’t forget that she’s actually done you a massive favour because there are extra purchase protections that you only get if you book on a credit card.

YetMoreNewBeginnings · 02/03/2024 16:44

phengia · 02/03/2024 14:53

DD is mad about collecting airmiles. She has various credit cards to collect them and puts anything she can through those cards to get points to upgrade her flights from economy to premium or business.

We are going on a family holiday with grown up kids (including dd). Everyone is booking their own flight and paying their own way (for everything). Recently, we bought another car for about £10k and booked another holiday for about £4k. We don't do credit cards so we let dd put it on hers and then we paid her back immediately. This means she got a lot of points via our expenditure.

On the family trip, dd has announced she has upgraded herself on the night flight (red eye) on the return. We can't justify the cost of a cash upgrade for ourselves.

Who should have got the upgrade? DD as she has the card and collects the points, or us, as it was our expenditure that gave her the points? I think DD deserves it even if it was a bit selfish, dh thinks he should have done (but he refuses to get a credit card!)

Why does your DH think he should have got the upgrade when you jointly bought things?

Given the protection that comes with buying things on a credit card, especially a holiday, it’s a bit weird to say you let her put them on her card, more like she let you put them on her card

Her card, her air miles so her upgrade imo

Babysharkdoodoodood · 02/03/2024 16:47

You said everyone bought their own tickets for the flights. So how would your DH then get the upgrade, given that your dad bought her own ticket in her name with her points to use?

Unless you expect dd to buy your flights as well on her card?

SheilaFentiman · 02/03/2024 16:48

This one seems pretty unanimous, OP. 😉

WhereYouLeftIt · 02/03/2024 16:55

"Who should have got the upgrade? DD as she has the card and collects the points, or us, as it was our expenditure that gave her the points? I think DD deserves it even if it was a bit selfish, dh thinks he should have done (but he refuses to get a credit card!)"

You CHOSE to put your expenditure through her cards, so you gifted her these airmiles. If your husband wishes to collect airmiles, he can do so - but he will need to arrange his finances to suit. If he refuses to get a credit card (which is not a bad decision!) then it's just not going to happen.

InTheRainOnATrain · 02/03/2024 17:02

Also OP if everyone bought their own tickets and if the airmiles are in DD’s name then they couldn’t be used by anyone except her anyway. You can’t usually upgrade a booking for someone else on a totally different booking reference. I know sometimes the airmiles can be transferred but airlines usually charge a hefty fee for this that makes it not worthwhile to do so. So probably a totally moot point anyway.

HotChocolateNotCocoa · 02/03/2024 17:16

You say your daughter is “obsessed” with air miles and you “let” her put your major purchases on her credit card before paying her back immediately. If you were in a position to pay her back in full, there was no benefit to you in making the purchases via her card - so what does your husband think was the reason? Surely if you both see it as you “letting” your daughter do it, you both must have known it was because she wanted the air miles?

I can’t fathom how your husband has become confused here.

Zaxi · 02/03/2024 17:24

She gets it - you could have paid cash or got your own card.

You are benefiting from the protection you get from a credit card - so you win

crockofshite · 02/03/2024 17:30

Your daughter let you use her credit card for your £14k purchases which gave you an extra level of protection that isn't available with cash or debit card purchases. I presume that's why you did it.

You need to spend thousands and thousands to earn airmiles, and your £14k wouldn't have bought much more than a cup of coffee or half a lounge pass.

Get your own card.

SheilaFentiman · 02/03/2024 17:35

And as a PP has said, certainly there are miles schemes that require you to be in a shared household account with someone before you can transfer points to them.

Your family set up this holiday so everyone paid for themselves; if DD had chosen to spend £ on an upgrade for her rather than m points, would your DH still be grumbling?

Manintheorthopaedicshoes · 02/03/2024 17:40

Your DD should.

LookItsMeAgain · 02/03/2024 17:43

Your DD gets the upgrade. You got the car & holiday.
If you want upgraded flights by collecting air miles, use your own credit cards and start saving them yourself.

Explain it to me why your DH believes that he or you should get the upgrade as he doesn’t want to use credit cards and yet it was because of your DD having them you were able to make such large purchases.

Ponderingwindow · 02/03/2024 17:47

She likely used more points than just your purchases generated. It is her upgrade. Besides, it is a single upgrade, is your husband planning to leave you behind in economy while he enjoys the extra space?

this could all be resolved by you being adults and getting your own credit card.

Shinyandnew1 · 02/03/2024 17:50

We don't do credit cards so we let dd put it on hers

You ‘let’ her? How would you pay otherwise?

SheilaFentiman · 02/03/2024 18:12

Shinyandnew1 · 02/03/2024 17:50

We don't do credit cards so we let dd put it on hers

You ‘let’ her? How would you pay otherwise?

Given they paid DD back straight away, presumably in cash or on a debit card

NamingConundrum · 02/03/2024 18:17

It's her card! If she hadn't let you put them on her card no one would have points! Not the same level of expenditure but recently we bought something from a shop that gets points on a certain card in a sale. No time for us to get one of their cards, but knew my mum did so we gave money in advance and she bought. Got £50 in vouchers for it. Didn't even cross my mind to think we should get them, I just thought how lovely it was she could treat herself by using her card.

InTheRainOnATrain · 02/03/2024 18:27

And as a PP has said, certainly there are miles schemes that require you to be in a shared household account with someone before you can transfer points to them.
Yup and presuming the adult daughter doesn’t live them then that won’t actually be an option either, at least it’s not with BA as the requirement is that all members of a household account have to live at the same address. And they charge you to transfer to someone that doesn’t live with you, unless you have gold status.

Not that I think the DH should be entitled to it (quite the opposite!) but even if the DD wanted to upgrade him or OP instead of herself then it’s actually quite unlikely she’d be able to do so without incurring costs.

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