Do you chat to people on holiday?

[natarlie]

When you’re on holiday, do you chat to strangers/other holiday makers?

I’ve been on holiday to places where couples seem to very much keep to themselves. I’ve been to other destinations where people just start chatting at a bar/in the sea/ at a restaurant

I am a chatter!

All of our holidays are at private locations. We want peace and quiet. I have to chat enough in real life.

I do like a bit of chat but I have a bit of a cut off point and there always seems to be one family who don't leave you alone once you've started chatting! I don't want to spend our entire holiday chatting away to people I'll never see again at the expense of chatting to DH or the kids.

I don’t really like talking to other people. I’ll do it occasionally but generally keep myself to myself.

Not at all. If I can avoid talking to anyone (DH included) while I'm on holiday, I will. But I'm not a chatter at all and luckily have a good resting bitch face so people don't tend to approach me. We also don't hang out in bars or places like that which might encourage chat.

No, holidays are for spending quality time together without the day to day drudge and stress!

I chat in real life much more

Someone I work with specifically goes on holiday to make friends. I said they would be my worst nightmare!

Absolutely not. Actively avoid it.

God no. Holidays are for spending time as a couple/family/whatever not chatting to random people who happen to be in the same place. Do you randomly chat to strangers when you go out for a meal or drink at home? If not, why do it on holiday. I've never understood people who go on holiday with their partner, presumably to spend time together without work and other distractions, yet want to pal up with strangers on holiday, it's weird.

Depends on the destination. Beach holidays no. Safaris yes as it’s often eating at one big table or sharing a vehicle with another couple. Met some very interesting people on safaris

I avoid it if at all possible. I deal with people enough in my job, I don’t want to make polite conversation on my holiday.

On our last holiday a couple decided they wanted to chat to us, she was so over familiar she lent forward, grabbed my new cocktail and took a sip out of my straw!

Haha this thread reminds me of my husband and I sitting watching one poor couple/family trying to shake off a single man on holiday last year.

We've always enjoyed talking to locals when we're on holiday, and have made some lifelong friends on trips to north Africa in particular, but the last thing I would want to do is get stuck talking to other British people when I'm away.

I always seem to attract v chatty kids on ski lifts ( clearly they are impervious to my resting bitch face 🤣). I’m kind of the same as in real life. I quite like a bit of small talk but I don’t really want to risk clingers on. Ended up with Brexit Geezer at a water park once. I had to throw myself down the “vortex” to escape .

Yes, I love it, whether they are fellow Brits or from other countries, but I'm happy to chat at home too. I take my cue from others, if they smile and make eye contact, I'd never force it on anyone and if the chat doesn't flow after an initial comment then that's the end of it.

This thread is making me chuckle. I know a very intense couple on sm who always tag "NEW FRIENDS!" after they come back from their second home stalking ground. I can't imagine many of these voluntarily gave their sm details let alone expect to be tagged and shamed so rapidly

I will chat back, but will never initiate

Unfortunately I have the opposite of resting bitch face and everyone thinks I’m super approachable

Not at all. I hate it. H is the complete opposite, talks to anyone and everyone.

I have an only child ( not through choice but infertility) I chat if it helps him have holiday playmates

Occasionally will make a bit of small talk, but not much more than that, and I certainly don't go out of my way to encourage it! I'm generally quite antisocial on holiday.

I've only ever been on holiday once when we actually made friends, and spent most of the fortnight meeting the same two couples and their kids at the hotel bar each evening. We all just clicked, so it was fine, and we've met up in the UK a few times since.

I'm a chatter and a listener. My family say my superpower is being able to get almost anyone to open up to me. I love talking to new people on holiday.

What I don't do is try to hang out with them, or encourage them to hang out with us. That way a ruined holiday lies.

Yes, as polite friendliness if spoken to. But I don't get into the whole "sending Xmas cards for 23 years" type set-ups that my parents did, mostly with dullards.

I avoid making eye contact as I don’t want to speak to anyone. I will of course, chat if it’s unavoidable.

My husband on the other hand, is one of those anyone chirpy types to chats to anyone.

Yes, I draw the line at keeping in touch afterwards, or changing plans to do day trips together during the holiday, it's just chatting where you find people, in bars or similar, when the DCs were small we used to camp and that could be very sociable sitting out chatting with other people while the DCs played together. Now we sometimes go on cruises and maybe team up with others for pub quizzes or similar or chat in a restaurant or bar. We usually have a table to ourselves in the restaurant but once we requested a shared table with several other couples and it was lovely, we were with the same people every evening,, they were from all over the world, we'd chat about what we'd been doing that day or plans for the next day but not see them in between.

I don't mind chatting in a bar of an evening, but I am buggered if I am becoming new friends.

One particular woman springs to mind poolside, SWorld consultant kept bringing conversation around to how lovely and slim I was, I eventually told her I had been on the cancer diet, pointed out my second belly button (where I was tube fed for six months), her face was a picture and she avoided me like the plague after that. Probably thought cancer was contagious. 😂After that I bring a good book to the pool and try not to engage.