DH and I are both from abroad (living in the UK for 15 years). We have travelled together so much in that time but I've just realised all of that travelling has been for a reason - either we're going home to see family or tagging along on work trips. We have not once booked a family holiday for the sheer fun of it in our 16 years together. Until now.
I suggested a last minute trip to somewhere warm after Christmas before the kids go back to school. He says great. I look and there's nowhere properly and reliably warm within short haul distance. I suggest going somewhere with snow instead, like Switzerland. He starts moaning about coach tours to the mountains and how boring it will be. I suggest the north of Sweden to go dog sledding and see the northern lights. He doesn't like that either, he wants a city and museums. He then suggests Iceland. Seems a good compromise but somehow he then circles round again to Christmas markets in Europe and I ask what was wrong with Switzerland again? He gets huffy.
I'm just irritated at this point. Obviously a lot of it is caused by the last minuteness of the trip, but we've never done this before, which is already weird, and we're bickering like school children.
Do other couples magically agree on where to go? Do you take turns choosing destinations? Or is one of you the chooser and the other is just happy to go along? Most importantly, how do you resolve disagreements? Slightly worried we're going to end up staying home at this point!
My parents always took us on the same holiday every year (sometimes twice!) and we all loved it immensely. So they never discussed where to go, we all just knew.