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Is this spending too much on holidays?

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Sicladik · 03/07/2023 00:38

Do you think my daughter spends too much on holidays a year?

Before taxes etc, her and her partner make around 110k per year. They’re mid 20s just post uni, they rent, and one day will want to buy.

Currently she has told me that her total holiday spend is probably about £7k.

OP posts:
OMGitsnotgood · 03/07/2023 08:01

110k is a very high income for 2 recent graduates, still plenty left over to save after their holiday spends. Possibly making the most of child free years, and I don't blame them

caringcarer · 03/07/2023 08:02

ChocChipHandbag · 03/07/2023 05:29

Absolutely not. Travelling in your 20s with no kids and a committed partner is the absolute best thing in life. They probably both work pretty hard too if they have got grad jobs earning 55k.

Exactly travel becomes more difficult with kids. Don't mention it to your DD.

mumofboys8787 · 03/07/2023 08:04

I'm glad you're not my mum

judpan · 03/07/2023 08:06

No those are about our figures with a mortgage and kids, I'd be spending more at their ages and stage of life.

usernother · 03/07/2023 08:06

It depends. If she's complaining about renting and saying she wants to buy but can't save up a deposit then yes, it's too much. If she is expecting you to help her out with a deposit then its definitely too much.

rookiemere · 03/07/2023 08:11

As long as she isn't asking you for money, she can spend what she likes. That seems an entirely reasonable amount based on their income and good for them, getting big trips in before they have DCs ( if that's the plan).
Very few people wish they had done less traveling in their lives.

DirectionToPerfection · 03/07/2023 08:11

I do sometimes wonder if people who "need" a lot of holidays have something else missing from their lives, I've always been poretty happy at home but we're all different.

Other people like different things to me, so there must be something wrong with them.🙄

There's a big world out there, staying at home all the time and never seeing any of it (finances and time allowing) seems pretty sad to me. Travel broadens the mind, and it's a lot of fun.

OP stop being silly. If those salaries are real, they are well above average for people in their mid 20s and the amount they're spending on holidays is absolutely reasonable. Also, it's their business.

Itstime1 · 03/07/2023 08:15

Not at all. When we had that combined income in our early 20s and pre DD it was around 15-20k we spent travelling (loved our holidays and loved a certain standard!). Now we’re on combined 220k and our holidays have changed due to a toddler. If they can afford it - none of your business really. They are allowed to enjoy life and spend how they want. As long as they aren’t asking for money every month then I don’t think you should worry.

FrenchandSaunders · 03/07/2023 08:15

Seems low compared to their income and the price of holidays these days …. surprised it is t more.

And how do you know all this? My mum didn’t have a clue what we earnt or spent.

FarTooHotForMe · 03/07/2023 08:17

I do sometimes wonder if people who "need" a lot of holidays have something else missing from their lives, I've always been poretty happy at home but we're all different

Some people are happy to potter at home and I do think others have a ‘need’ to see the vast world that is out there.

Selfesteem23 · 03/07/2023 08:17

No one else’s business. They are hardly on the breadline are they. It’s not that extravagant on their salaries. I’ve read on here some spend much more tbh.

Theur lives, they work for that money so choose how they want to live and enjoy life

honeylulu · 03/07/2023 08:18

Unless they are overspending on everything and asking you to bail them out then it's none of your business. They have really good salaries especially for their age and presumably no dependants and not struggling for housing. Good for them! We've spent £11k on our family holiday this year (2 adults 2 kids so can only have a long hol in peak time) so £7k for a couple going on presumably 2-3 hols over a year sounds perfectly reasonable in the circumstances. They should be making the most of off peak hols whilst not tied to school holidays.

Rewis · 03/07/2023 08:20

As long as they can afford it and aren't asking op to pay for it. Then no.

judpan · 03/07/2023 08:20

I do sometimes wonder if people who "need" a lot of holidays have something else missing from their lives, I've always been poretty happy at home but we're all different.

Sounds like you need to experience life outside your home a bit more if you genuinely believe that.

Dotandtime · 03/07/2023 08:23

judpan · 03/07/2023 08:20

I do sometimes wonder if people who "need" a lot of holidays have something else missing from their lives, I've always been poretty happy at home but we're all different.

Sounds like you need to experience life outside your home a bit more if you genuinely believe that.

That's not what I said though is it? I didn't say that's what I "believe" and I specifically said everyone is different.

I'm happy without a lot of travel, but I have a very busy life and active social life close to home, that makes me happy. Maybe you need more experience....

Rewis · 03/07/2023 08:24

I read it as being £7k/pp so £14k for the couple? Not that it matters I'd they can afford it. But £7k for 2 is almost a bargain!

shivawn · 03/07/2023 08:25

No not at all, they're on great salaries for their ages and should be enjoying life in their mid 20's.

At 24 my now husband and I went traveling on a round the world trip for 3 years and spent all our savings. Wouldn't change it for the world.

00100001 · 03/07/2023 08:25

Sicladik · 03/07/2023 00:38

Do you think my daughter spends too much on holidays a year?

Before taxes etc, her and her partner make around 110k per year. They’re mid 20s just post uni, they rent, and one day will want to buy.

Currently she has told me that her total holiday spend is probably about £7k.

What else do you think she should spend the money on?

Is she asking you to pay for the holidays?

Is she behind in bills because of the holidays?

Batalax · 03/07/2023 08:26

If they are only spending that proportion of their income, then I presume they are saving hard too. Best of both worlds.

Once they have kids there won’t be the opportunity or spare cash.

judpan · 03/07/2023 08:27

@Dotandtime "I sometimes wonder" how is that different? If you're so small minded that you have to assume someone that likes something different to you must have something missing from their lives, then you are the one that is living with ignorance.

thespy · 03/07/2023 08:28

No. Assuming that's the spend as a couple, that seems very reasonable. How many trips / weeks are they getting for that? Anyway, life is too short - presumably they are working hard so surely they can spend some of it on what they enjoy?

EmmaGrundyForPM · 03/07/2023 08:28

mumofboys8787 · 03/07/2023 08:04

I'm glad you're not my mum

this

None of your business what your DD spends her money on if she's not getting into debt to do it.

seennothinglikeit · 03/07/2023 08:29

You should be proud of them both working hard for the things they enjoy.
They could be struggling to feed themselves like many do.
Id be pleased my DD is experiencing the world, you never know what's round the corner.
However 7k is not that much for holidays these days anyhow, she's probably spending more and toning it down when telling you.

Tryingtoconceivenumber2 · 03/07/2023 08:29

I think you are being ridiculous OP. They are very good salaries esp for their age, they are enjoying their 20s. They would still have scope to save for a de

shivawn · 03/07/2023 08:29

I do sometimes wonder if people who "need" a lot of holidays have something else missing from their lives, I've always been poretty happy at home but we're all different.

@Dotandtime
Yes we're all different but perhaps you're not as happy at home as you say if you feel the need to speculate that people who like to travel have something missing from their lives.

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