nobody to go on holiay with

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I have friens but for various reasosns they do not want to go on holiday with me. The problem is the destination. I want to go to Florida. I ased one friend who likes going to America and she said sorry I could not go to Florida because it is to hot there. Another frien said to me yes she would like to go to America but her daughter is planning to go to New York andd she wants to wait until her daughter is in New Yor and then she will go over and visit herr. Another friend said to me she cannot aford to go to America. Another person said she has no interest in America

What do I do? Go by myself or not go at all and miss out on a place that I woul love to go to. I have searched group tour but none of them go to Florida and besides they are very expenive and my experience of tours is that it i not relaxing, My idea of a goo holiday is having days wehre you go out and about seeing tourist sites an then have a couple of rest days where you just chill.

I know people are trying to hel but as I said I had a terrible exerience in Canada and ccould not go through something like that again. I have travelled on my own as far as Australia and New Zealan but I was not completely alone. . I stayed with relatives in Ausytralia and knew peole in new Zeland who offered to et me stay with them.

In strange countries I hae a terrible sense of direction I find travelling stressful because you have to carefully plan where you are going, sort out travel insurance snf order currency and when you get to your destinat I am so stresse tat i hae woken up with a migraine so I am going to forget about this whole thing and not og

I think your expectations are unreasonable. the Florida idea is just too big and too far, too costly for most to consider. It costs a fortune and is a big thing. Would only be done by someone who really wants to. 3 of my friends for 50th birthdays have gone with lots friends to New York, South Africa or Dubai. But that took lots of planning and fellow friends with big disposable incomes! Nipping to European city for a long weekend is easy, what you want is not.

The like another poster said, stay in the uk then. Can't blame noone wanting to go with you when you're getting so stressed with planning and you cant even get past your one bad experience in Canada.

If you're concerned about cost, Florida is not the place to go at the moment, especially with the poor exchange rate. We were in Miami, Ft Lauderdale and the Keys in October and everything was really, really expensive. Small Starbucks coffee for example was $9. 20% service on everything.

How about a cruise sailing from UK ?

You may need to compromise a bit on destination depending on budget, but all the organisation would be removed and there's loads of activities and communal dining to talk to others.

It's quite simply, just go by yourself. But you don't seem to like solo travel. And you said you haven't found a tour that goes there. Thus, you'll just end up not going anywhere.

OP, kindly, do you have any disabilities that mean you find getting around in new places, or communicating with people, hard?

Blimey - not volunteering for a trip with OP. Everything would be wrong, awful, miserable…

Your friends aren’t there for you talk facilitate your travel plans, just because you don’t like travelling alone. There are solo traveller groups that go places on meetup.com, but you’d need to be much more flexible in what you do.

So you can either go alone, and learn to cope with the stress of that, or go with a group and have a less stressful time, albeit with more compromises on your destinations.

This. Everyone’s telling OP she’s rude instead of having some compassion for clear difficulties.

Gaslighting

Or just someone who isn't flexible or willing to be more positive.

People have put forward lots of sugvedtiodn and each there is a en excuse why they won't do that.

Imagine being on holiday and saying to op lets do x to be told no okay lets y then told oh I can't do that.

So she had one bad experience, then dont book with a travel agent do it yourself and use forums for advice has been suggested but she says she finds it too stressful to plan. So go on group tours has been suggested and thsts been knocked back.

So you see why people are now 🤨

Before I was married, when dinosaurs roamed the earth, I went in lots of holidays alone

I met people in my accomodation and we did stuff together for the day or had breakfast together type thing it was great

To be fair to OP, I do think solo travel is easier when you're young as there are a lot more people doing it.

I went skiing on my own just before Christmas and it was ok but I hated being a source of interest to other people at the chalet and it was a bit lonely on coffee and lunch breaks.

Or realistic. Would you want to go on holiday with someone who will waste several houes hanging a closed ice cream shop waiting to see if it will open?

If OP is on the spectrum @Spectre8 then flexibility will be a thing they struggle with, and it isn't necessarily something they can do anything about.

I've had a look at OP's last posts and a running theme seems to be a lot of confusion about social signals, and things not being how they think the OP thinks they should be. Big flag for neurodiversity. Not diagnosing, just saying that the OP might have a brain that works differently to many.

Don't give OP if you'd like to be out there seeing a bit of the world.

Maybe try an organised coach tour or cruise as suggested above as a starting point (lots of great places to visit in the UK and Europe that can be done in 3-5 days) or a plan a short UK break alone as a trial run of the things you need to think about and book when organising a solo trip.

After giving th matter a great deal of thought I have decie not to take a holiday this year. . I love my home and my home comforts. I will do several day tris instead

thanks all