AIBU - Seating on Airplane

[Abidan68]

Just got back from a hols in the USA with a lovely couple but they are very much of the view that they do what they want to do and it is all about them.

get on plane for return flight and there are seats booked - 3 at the front in a row then one at the side next to 2 other seats which are slightly set back

friends and husband take the 3 seats without any discussion or “do you mind” about me sitting on own and they all unpacked bags/got settled and I just stood there. I know the other female in the group would never have sat on her own and her husband wouldn’t have allowed her. I am steaming that there wasn’t even a discussion about the seating and cross with my husband that he didn’t actually say anything. There were people around us and therefore I felt I had no choice but to sit down

they all sat and chatted and had a laugh and I just sat there

it had been a long day to maybe Uber sensitive but am I being unreasonable that my husband should have at least showed some sort of display of caring for where I sat? I raised with him on way home in car and I am now getting the silent treatment

AIBU?

Were there a number of incidents like this on the holiday, as it's a bit strange to start a thread on this one incident alone.

You seem very passive, OP. Why didn’t you say something at the time if it bothered you so much?

Yeah sit in your seat in case the plane crashes and you all perish

Everybody sits in their assigned seats? I have been on aircraft that have been three quarters empty and many, me included moved and stretched out across the seats for a decent sleep. Nobody is going to tell you on after you are airborne that you are not in your assigned seat, unless you are sat on somebody's lap. 🤔

I think this might actually be the most pathetic thread I've ever read on here.

'Oh, I'm on my own, can we swap halfway if I get bored or lonely?'

Pretty sure my 2 year old could have managed it.

If this was important to you then this conversation should have taken place before you all got on the plane.

What seat numbers were on the birding cards? Was everyone in the seat printed on theirs ?

What consideration were you looking for? Someone else to sit on their own? Them to ask you if you are okay; and for you to say no, so someone else should sit there?

Seems a bit weird to me to care so much, but if you do, why didn’t you say anything, as PP have said?

It's a bit unclear how the seating allocation happened, whether the places were selected/assigned, and supposedly you had boarding cards with names on them.

I understand it was annoying (being told the seats are sorted I would expect them to be sorted. Saying something (what would that even be) might be hard on the spot, especially when tired.

The silent treatment is definitely unreasonable.

I don't know whether I'd believe the organiser they genuinely hadn't noticed earlier. If they screwed the group booking and kept it as a surprise, they should had been the one sitting on their own.

Loads of people here are saying they would have loved the single seat, but that isn’t the point at all. The other 3 people, including OP’s husband, took the three seats together with no discussion, leaving OP on her own. And when she raised it later he gave her the silent treatment. That isn’t how you treat your wife.

Surely it would be normal to say “ok, there are 3 seats together and one separate, who wants to sit where?” The cabin crew wouldn’t object if OP’s pass was for the single seat but she swapped with one of the others in the group.

Instead, the 3 of them just sat in the 3 seats together without commenting that OP would have to sit on her own.

Did you really not even look at your seat allocation until you were on the plane? Your husband obviously knew where he was going.

Try taking a bit more interest in the travel planning in future. It's a lot of work and responsibility to take on for a group... and then you get people sooking when you don't meet their unspoken wishes.