Mozhe IS NOT going back to work next week after all......

[mozhe]

.....no, have decided to delay it by a week or so......Mr Mozhe is on 'incubator watching' duties....P-in-L's are manning the home front,( and DSsX3...), with nice new aupair....and Mozhe,Nanny and DTs are off to St Barts,( in lovely Carribean...),for a week's sun/swim/chill out !!
Any one been before ? Any pointers ? Off first thing tomorrow......

I've made up my mind: Mozhe is a troll.

Is there anything worth watching on TV tonite?

I have terrible morning sickness which keeps me from sleeping, and I need to find some form of entertainment other than keeping checking this thread.

Best of luck Mozhe, enjoy your break I truly hope things work out for you. at some of the distasteful and spiteful comments on this thread, why people think you are such fair game I will never know...

sorry but theres no way i could leave my child/prem baby to go half way round the world, call me nasty if you will but i think it is wrong wrong wrong. I know the baby is in the best place but if anything happened (cross fingers that it does'nt) i would never forgive myself for not being with my child when it needed me most.

Sorry but this to me seams very selfish and

I cant comment.... or im trying not to.

wow.

bad to give your child a fruit shoot.

never mind maccy d's.

god forbid they should eat a greggs sausage roll in their lifetime.

or go to a soft play centre.

but its fine to leave little preemie in scbu while mummy pisses off on holiday?

i just love mumsnet.

she needs a break? well dont we all. surely when you have kids you dont expect it to be easy? you make sacrifices?

i was 19, sitting staring at my little preemie in his incubator and being treated like shit by midwives who were happy to interrogate me about where i lived, what i did, why was i too scared to pick him up? monitors beeping shouldn't frighten me, he's my baby and i should get it through my head that i had to look after him, while i sit there in pain from cs and upset because no one was giving me any help or support.

when all the time i could have taken a holiday! why didnt i think of that?

there are so many things that occur to me whilst i skim this thread.

but the only one i think it is worth writing down is that it appears to count for nothing at all that the child's father is there. kangaroo care (skin to skin for preemies) is often done by father as mother too ill. the child is no abandoned, but has it's father there at all times.

but on here it is like that is completely irrelevant.

sophable, what do you think the response would be if a father of a premature baby who was in an incubator came on and asked for holiday tips for a trip to the Carribbean?

omg!skimmed thread(read half then got bored)my youngest ds was poorly at birth and i was so upset when they took him for tests,i wanted to stay with him.i cant imagine thinking/wanting to go away!but whatever rocks your boat i suppose.unbelievable.

then why not go all the way? get the au pair to do skin to skin and both the parents can get a "well earned rest"

baby wont know any different.

well, i'm guessing not the same as this one, particularly if he was taking two of the children with him....

THAT'S my point.....might as well be an au pair eh, if it isn't mummy????

bolleaux.

i just dont understand how a mother could leave her little preemie to go have fun. end of. i wouldn't do it, i dont understand it.

at the risk of repeating myself (and boring everyone) they don't do kangaroo care in France - there is no skin to skin in this case.

i agree that the father is ignroed but its the TONE that irks me

petty i am sure

tone is off...but that could be anything couldn't it? including denial....doesn't necessarily mean callous cow...although it might.

yes but she is clearly winding you all up

It could not be more obvious from the tone of the first post!

nothing Mozhe likes more IIRC

i rememebr post ntatally wiht ds3 i wanted us all to eb together

alone

no visitors

i think she is rekcelss if not negligent ot go away
same for the dad

kew - how do you know they don't do skin to skin contact in france? Seems strange that they wouldn't?

I believe Baby Tristan is still ventilated, hence kangaroo care may not be worth the risks it entails, although I imagine you can still touch and fondle a baby on a ventilator (can't you?) getting skin-2-skin that way.

Travel tips for St. Barts... why would you ask on MN when Google can tell all, anyway?

would really love to see a 17 year old writing a similar post on here and the reactions. would be interesting im sure.

you're right countess. sucked in again