Vile neighbours at student house

[PeachCat2]

My son has started his second year in Nottingham and is sharing a house with four friends
A friend from Home came to visit them for a few days and was parking his car. The neighbours came out and was shouting vile things like if you touch my car I will kill you F C…. Etc
effing and c words
My son just looked away and tried to de-escalate and he did not go in any more detail other than he thought they were drunk
My husband is having non-stop panic attacks at the prospect that our son lives opposite these violent sounding drunk and how do we know that this is not dangerous? It won’t happen again.
Don’t know what to do
Obviously they have paid for a year. I think my son and his friends are not that bothered by it but are perhaps too inexperienced to know what people are capable of.
My husband wants to move them immediately
How can I reassure my husband that these people are not dangerous and won’t end up repeating this or worse?
Hard to know what the reasonable rational answer is
I assume the university is powerless to do anything and the police might take a statement but I am sure it will make zero difference

Can you get your son to log it at the local police station and with the landlord? It is in the landlord's interests to protect his / her tenants.

Sorry, but your husband is overreacting. It's not nice to have this kind of stuff happening next door, but it could happen anywhere. What exactly does he think the police or university will actually DO?

I'm not excusing their behaviour, but it's possible that the neighbours have endured a year (or more) of terrible behaviour from previous student tenants and are just venting. Drunk students have been known to dance on car roof tops/ break windows etc.

Advise your son to not give this neighbour any cause for complaint and I'm sure he will be fine. Put the rubbish out, keep the front tidy, don't have unsocial parties at all hours etc.

My daughter had horrendous neighbours in one student house in Leeds. These vile people live in student areas because it’s cheap and yet hate students. There are some absolute nutters around. Report to the police. Try to get them on film or audio.

My dd has just done 4 years at Nottingham and being really honest it’s just quite rough, outside the student bubble. If your son is really concerned he can report it via 101 but I’d be tempted to just assume they were drunk and full of hot air and let it go. If it happens again and it seems to be escalating then obviously ring 999. My dd has had all sorts of things happen in Nottingham during her time there - some random weirdo followed her home once (from her bar job), a female friend got into a fight in a bar with a random man (!) I am not a fan of it to be honest but she really enjoyed her time there and you just have to accept that being a big city there will be weirdos.

I imagine that guy has probably had a lot of problems over the years, living across from a student house. So he’s come out at 100mph with the new group. I’d hope that’s all it was and as long as your son and his flatmates aren’t anti social towards the community, then they’ll never hear a peep from the guy again.

If it turns out that the guy just is a horrible abusive neighbour and continues this sort of thing unprovoked, then your son can call the police.

You could also say that students live in poor areas because it's cheap and yet have no consideration for long term residents. Not saying that applies to your son, but as Sandy Thumb has said, there may have been and often is, terrible behaviour from students which doesn't dispose residents in their favour.

If your husband's really worried, maybe get a ring doorbell or something that can record footage of anything. Obviously your son should have access not your husband though! Anything recorded can be logged and filed. Hopefully though it was a one off and all will be calm from now on.

Your H needs to calm down he is being ridiculous
A man shouted at your son, I am sure he will survive it

He's probably at the end of his tether living next to students. My DS almost got evicted due to the bad behaviour of others in his student house. The poor neighbours were living a nightmare. My friend bought a house in a street of student houses as it was all she could afford. She was frequently in tears at the late parties, loud music etc.
The neighbour did overreact but if your son and his housemates behave properly and just ignore him, he'll most likely calm down.

Your husband is also overreacting with his non-stop panic attacks.

When kids were babies used to live in big student city - and a mum friend live in a student neighborhood - her DH had bought as post grade and neither were far off being -students themselves.

Students can be a complete pain in the arse - and every year you've no idea who you'll get - just inconsiderate often - just -unthinking noise rubbish parking.

Though neither of them were ever rude to the students next to them they did get fed up with it - and yes were looking to move on when I knew them.

While I don't -think the swearing and aggression was at all necessary ( I have two at Uni and wouldn't want it for them) it may well calm down as year goes on and neighbours relax a bit.

Yeah Nottingham is horrid.

Calling it a 'student area' is part of the problem. I live in Leeds and close to an area where many students live, next to residents. I think parents who don't live in university towns don't realise how their own children may behave when away from home (in terms of rubbish, parties, noise etc) because the students think the area is exclusively for them.

My friend's son had a temporary job working alongside Leeds students who were amazed to find he and his family lived permanently in what they thought was a 'student area'.

Has there been any contact with the neighbours before or after this incident?

Get a ring door bell and chat it through with student services, but honestly your DH needs to dial it down a bit. A bit of effin and jeffin never hurt anyone.

@JennyChawleighthat doesn’t mean they can steal students garden furniture and burn it or push rats through their letter boxes! Yep you better believe it!

@JennyChawleighfortunately we also live in the same city, fairly close to the area she was living. Funny how these bullies go a lot quieter when parents challenge their shitty behaviours!

In my haste I forgot to be clear- it was 12 men in their 30s -40s who came out
not just 1 neighbour

Gang of 12 men…..

Right. It was one guy shouting about his car and then you didn’t get the replies you wanted so now it’s a gang of 12 men.

The op did imply multiple people in her first post. And Nottingham is really not a very nice or safe place at all.

Ds lived as a student in Notts and only had one house that had dodgy neighbours, was a drug house and the police were there often. Your ds will be fine I am sure and student areas are often a bit rough. I would keep their heads down for a bit and if anything else happens they can report to police. I can guarantee the others in the house will not be able to afford to break their lease and move and honestly they may well end up in the same situation.

Sorry but Nottingham is really rough.
Hopefully the friend with the car has gone now and I’m presuming the others don’t have a vehicle. Just tell your son to keep his head down and to keep a record of any other events.

Like many big places, it has nice areas, OK areas, bad areas and nightmare areas.

Most of Beeston is fine, and handy for the uni; or if you've got the money and don't mind a slightly longer commute in, you'd be very hard-pushed to call somewhere like West Bridgford rough or unsafe.

What can the landlord possibly do about it?