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Vile neighbours at student house

37 replies

PeachCat2 · 23/09/2025 12:02

My son has started his second year in Nottingham and is sharing a house with four friends
A friend from Home came to visit them for a few days and was parking his car. The neighbours came out and was shouting vile things like if you touch my car I will kill you F C…. Etc
effing and c words
My son just looked away and tried to de-escalate and he did not go in any more detail other than he thought they were drunk
My husband is having non-stop panic attacks at the prospect that our son lives opposite these violent sounding drunk and how do we know that this is not dangerous? It won’t happen again.
Don’t know what to do
Obviously they have paid for a year. I think my son and his friends are not that bothered by it but are perhaps too inexperienced to know what people are capable of.
My husband wants to move them immediately
How can I reassure my husband that these people are not dangerous and won’t end up repeating this or worse?
Hard to know what the reasonable rational answer is
I assume the university is powerless to do anything and the police might take a statement but I am sure it will make zero difference

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Fionasapples · 23/09/2025 19:22

PeachCat2 · 23/09/2025 17:23

Gang of 12 men…..

Funny you didn't mention that in your op. I didn't realise it was a drip feed.

MargaretThursday · 23/09/2025 19:28

Fionasapples · 23/09/2025 19:22

Funny you didn't mention that in your op. I didn't realise it was a drip feed.

He can't have been too panicked about the situation if he waited around to count them.

MrsSkylerWhite · 23/09/2025 19:30

SandyThumb · 23/09/2025 12:10

Sorry, but your husband is overreacting. It's not nice to have this kind of stuff happening next door, but it could happen anywhere. What exactly does he think the police or university will actually DO?

I'm not excusing their behaviour, but it's possible that the neighbours have endured a year (or more) of terrible behaviour from previous student tenants and are just venting. Drunk students have been known to dance on car roof tops/ break windows etc.

Advise your son to not give this neighbour any cause for complaint and I'm sure he will be fine. Put the rubbish out, keep the front tidy, don't have unsocial parties at all hours etc.

I disagree. Would you say the same about a daughter?

Nannydoodles · 23/09/2025 19:37

My son was at Nottingham and in his first week there was a shooting which he heard at the end of his street!
i wanted to bring him back to the safe streets of London but he stayed and had a wonderful rest of the time there.

PeachCat2 · 23/09/2025 19:38

Bobiverse · 23/09/2025 17:24

Right. It was one guy shouting about his car and then you didn’t get the replies you wanted so now it’s a gang of 12 men.

You’re welcome to scroll on. If 1 person came and shouted I wouldn’t be posting in here- 1 neighbour against 5 students…

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peppermintteadrinker · 23/09/2025 19:50

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Hope Old Basford has improved since I lived there then.

It was pretty rough in my experience. Horrible aggravated burglary of an old man opposite me. Police running past on more than one occasion. I hated Nottingham. Rough as fuck.

Mapperley Park full of kerb crawlers and prostitutes. Boyfriend nearly got mugged. I had a prostitute living opposite with punters coming and going all the time.

Used to hear gunshots from up the road.

This is going back several years though.

PeachCat2 · 23/09/2025 19:53

Fionasapples · 23/09/2025 19:22

Funny you didn't mention that in your op. I didn't realise it was a drip feed.

Wow. Thanks for stopping to take the time to post.

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PeachCat2 · 23/09/2025 19:54

MargaretThursday · 23/09/2025 19:28

He can't have been too panicked about the situation if he waited around to count them.

Thanks. Helpful

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PeachCat2 · 23/09/2025 19:59

Thanks all. Will add a ring doorbell, and try and sort out anxiety issues. Appreciate the help 🙏

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Fionasapples · 23/09/2025 20:40

PeachCat2 · 23/09/2025 19:53

Wow. Thanks for stopping to take the time to post.

You're welcome

pteromum · 23/09/2025 21:13

Who was the friend. What actually happened. Step by step. Why would someone parking a car provoke 12 men coming out swearing.

I agree re cameras.

your son isn’t bothered. So go with that, although I would be advising my child to report it.

as for DH. Strange reaction. Is he ok? Has son leaving triggered a breakdown? Was the abuse to do with anything other than car? Race? Religion? Gender identity? If so that should be reported as should 12 men screaming at someone parking a car.

Needtosoundoffandbreathe · 23/09/2025 21:24

Most students in Nottingham live in Lenton or Sneinton. Beeston is much nicer, but further from the city centre.

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