DD disappointing A Level results. Need advice!

[Fatcish]

So DD was predicted AAB. Lots of issues, boyfriend dramas, lack of work in Y13 means she got CCD. I'm so disappointed for her. She did not get her first or insurance Uni place.

I've been nothing but supportive and encouraging so far but at some point we need to have the reality check chat about what next. Her plan so far seems to be take a place in clearing locally but can't say why. I think we both know its to be near her boyfriend. He's OK but no ambition.

Help what do I say to her??

Degree apprenticeships come in all shapes and sizes. My bf DD is doing one after obtaining her BTECs.

Fair enough I stand corrected but I assume she applied and interviewed for it before August.

In answer to a couple of responses. She really has no idea what she wants to do as a career. She chose her Uni course on the basis that she was interested in the subject and it was her best subject at that point. She actually got the D in it (Psychology)! From predicted A!

She has a tendency to throw herself into romantic relationships and become obsessed with them. This has lost her friendships and opportunities in the past. But even gentle challenge of this pattern is met with eye rolls and annoyance.....I know nothing of course.

She is pursuing a strong biological imperative - you don't stand a chance!

No actually she graduated with BTEC and took 1 year working in retail before signing up for it. It's an accountancy one. Not with a prestigious or famous firm just a small more regional one.
I think the ones at the big consultant or accountancy firms are super difficult to get on but there are other more normal options too if you look !

This was me, even longer ago. I was only taking two A levels and only passed one. Completely my fault. I just started again at a local FE college, did two new A levels in one year. I worked my socks off, did well, went to a better uni than the one I’d originally been going to.

All that said, the key is what she wants to do. I realised at that devastating moment that going to university was really important to me and that I wanted to show I was as bright as the other kids at school.

Good luck with it all.

@Fatcish - I saw a segment in the BBC news yesterday or Thursday, talking about A level results and clearing, and I am sure they said that universities are worried that new government policies are going to mean a loss of overseas students (and therefore revenue), so they may well be competing to make good offers to prospective students via clearing.

In your shoes, I would encourage your dd to look at the courses that are available in clearing, and to see which ones appeal to her, rather than just settling for something local.

Why does he want to go to university? Is it what she wants to to do more than anything else?

She sounds easily set off a path - would a few years working give her the maturity to make better choices (there will always be dramas in life - boyfriends, flatmates, illness and so on). It’s important to be able to keep going in spite of them.

in short could a couple of years out of formal education help her develop some maturity?

(If I ruled the world, a gap year doing work of social value would be compulsory for all 18 year olds!)