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Seeing "people from home" at university

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Wedgied · 22/12/2023 13:28

Just been wondering how your DC felt about seeing acquaintances from home/school/6th form at uni. Did they enjoy seeing a familiar face at university and did it make it easier to settle in? Or was it more of a "gosh don't want to speak to them" and just walk past and pretend they don't exist?

That's all. A thought that popped up in my mind.

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yeppity · 26/12/2023 21:27

TizerorFizz · 26/12/2023 20:18

@yeppity In the circumstances you describe? No. I’m quite good at making decisions about people and sticking to them. If I needed to sideline someone for my own good, I would.

And clearly you expect everyone else to behave the same way. Nuff said.

TizerorFizz · 26/12/2023 23:20

Well it wasn’t me with the problem!

Rainbowshit · 26/12/2023 23:26

Someone "from home" put on their halls application form that they wanted to share a room with me. I was upset and furious. I just wanted a fresh start.

When we spoke to the halls they frightened me with tales of stuff being stolen so I ended up sharing a room with them despite my better judgement.

Let's just say we didn't gel well.

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Wedgied · 26/12/2023 23:27

Rainbowshit · 26/12/2023 23:26

Someone "from home" put on their halls application form that they wanted to share a room with me. I was upset and furious. I just wanted a fresh start.

When we spoke to the halls they frightened me with tales of stuff being stolen so I ended up sharing a room with them despite my better judgement.

Let's just say we didn't gel well.

As in you had a dual occupancy room?

Oof

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Rainbowshit · 26/12/2023 23:29

@Wedgied yes. Was not good.

theduchessofspork · 26/12/2023 23:31

This is why I went 500 miles away to university. I ran into someone that knew my sister, once.

Sodullincomparison · 27/12/2023 00:08

I went to uni 300 minkes away from home and A friend from primary school was on my uni course. It was nice to see her and go for a drink with her occasionally but we had different circles of friends.

on my year abroad everyone knew everybody and there were school friends of my new uni best mates in the same classes. And my school friends ended up year abroad mates with my uni mates. The joys of language courses.

my school boyfriend was at my uni. I used to give a wave but wouldn’t engage in conversation.

my neighbour - a mature student about six years older- was also at my uni and I did make a point of having a chat or a drink when our paths crossed.

you make so many friends at uni that school people are like the other few thousand people on campus- some are your friends and some are not part of your world.

Takeittotheboss · 01/01/2024 21:13

My DD went to a complete change of course at a different university than planned through clearing. Only to discover that her best friend from school had also got a place on the course through clearing! Neither had mentioned any likelihood of that course prior. They made a pact to not meet outside of lectures for 2/3 weeks over Freshers period and made their own friendship groups then. Subsequently, stayed with their own friends and occasionally socialised in each others group. Have remained best friends since, now later-20's.

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