Thanks to everyone for their input, just seeing these messages this morning, I ultimately kind of crashed with the stress of it all last night (I am totally ridiculous I know but have quite a few other current stresses going on too, and it all just feels a bit overwhelming right now!) I’m so grateful for everyone’s input and insights amid my mini-meltdown 🤣
@HewasH2O you asked about his PGs, sorry I don’t know what that means? His GCSEs were all over the place, he did get a 9 in Maths and a 7 in Further Maths GCSE, and 7s in sciences but other than that his humanities type scores because of poor working memory with his ADHD were not at all good! Like to the point I know if they are judging on GCSE scores we have no chance anyway and to be honest I was not thinking at all of Oxbridge. But at this Open Day which my mum wanted him to attend, they were very encouraging and said they really only cared about predicted A level grade of A star in maths (which he does have), and maths ability at interview and STEP, so we are giving it a bash!
@Thekatzenjammerkid interesting food for thought about St Johns, thank you as that was one of the colleges we were thinking of putting down instead. I know these days they say they aren’t biased against state schools etc. (actually I think they always claimed that), but you do worry (I think it may have played a role back in the day for me but I also wasn’t well enough prepared by my school for the interview in hindsight). I do think a big part of it probably is that private schools are just much more familiar with the whole process and prep their students better for it the whole way along. And also the admirable confidence levels of many privately educated children compared with state, probably helps.
@Rhinoc thank you so much, it’s super helpful to know that’s the consensus and not just me being paranoid based on a couple of comments on social media and overreacting. It certainly makes logical sense. And @PhotoDad yes I saw that chart. Super recently hence they last minute panic. I just clearly don’t move in the right sort of circles to know that this is the consensus! @PhotoDad when you say lighthearted is this not a serious suggestion? It looks pretty nice!
@alexisccd thanks so much for this helpful info, which college is your DD in then if you don’t mind saying? An outdoor swimming pool would definitely be a huge draw if it was me 🤣 But although my son would like that I’m not sure it would be a dealbreaker for him! And yes thanks to the Open Day I do understand about STEP and how hard it is though hadn’t realised the cut was quite that brutal for STEP post offer which is also useful info. Thank goodness for mumsnet 🤣 In terms of diversity stuff my son is mixed race black/white if that makes any difference to anything.