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NewModelArmyMayhem18 · 2022-02-16T14:18:48+00:00

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Decorhate · 20/04/2022 17:37

There was a huge variety of outfits at DD’s graduation. She wore a jumpsuit, lots wore dresses. You can bearly see what’s worn under the gown anyway. It’s nice if they can coordinate with the colour on the hood though. DD’s was green & a few girls wore green sandals or shoes which I thought looked really good.

Decorhate · 20/04/2022 17:38

And one mother wore a fabulous green trouser suit which I was quite envious of!

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NewModelArmyMayhem18 · 20/04/2022 18:44

There's no need for us to 'sign off' when the three year degree students graduate this summer. There's plenty of life in these threads, yet, I'd have thought, particularly with some of the DC doing four year courses.

I've advised DS to buy himself a suit between now and graduation. Let's see if he does so!

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gogohm · 20/04/2022 19:45

@simbobs

It really varies a lot by degree if they get jobs ahead of graduation, my dd has, as have most her course but they are engineers on a course ranked 1 in the field so the employers came looking for them, dsd also graduates this year in a science, has nothing lined up yet except the local pub said she can have shifts

icanbewhatiwant · 20/04/2022 20:11

Ds has managed to make another graph. He had a chat with a data person on teams. She didn't understand his data either, she told him a different way to do it, it has taken him 8 hours to do and he says it's not very good, but it's better than nothing. He told me they are cluster boxplots with a log scale. Doesn't mean a thing to me.
Now he's got to write 3000 more words to go with the data, he gets one draft read before he submits it. So I really hope this advisor makes contact and reads it.
The good news is he has booked to do his graduation as the trip abroad is off (he was going to go to America for a month and miss it, but now not going) so I'm pleased about that.

bigTillyMint · 20/04/2022 21:33

Fingers crossed for your SS @icanbewhatiwant

@RampantIvy there were a huge variety of dresses/jumpsuits/outfits ranging from barely covering bum to maxi (DD) in a wide range of colours. Footwear ranged from trainers to tottering high heels. So your DD can choose whatever she likes! The gown (which DD and others kept on all day

bigTillyMint · 20/04/2022 21:34

had Velcro to help it stay in place (didn’t work!)

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NewModelArmyMayhem18 · 21/04/2022 06:50

I seem to recall that you really need something with a button on to anchor the gown at the front (otherwise it doesn't hang properly)?

Good news that your DS has received some help @icanbewhatiwant and indeed that he's going to the graduation ceremony too. A silver lining out of the cloud of not going to the US.

Great news in a way that graduation 'dress' is more varied nowadays, at least for the girls. Presumably most of the young men wear suits still?

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Notagardener · 21/04/2022 06:59

Dad hasn't decided whether to go for the graduation ceremony, has spent 2 weeks at home laying in bed, has no job to go to.
I tried to find out if anything is bothering him, feeling depressed, but not getting anywhere

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NewModelArmyMayhem18 · 21/04/2022 07:36

Sorry to hear that @Notagardener . Maybe the dawning realisation that the relatively carefree days of being a student are coming to an end? It's a massive step into adulthood for our young people, navigating the 'next stage'. And having had a really full-on final year, the end is probably bittersweet.

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mumsiedarlingrevolta · 21/04/2022 08:07

Gearing up for DD graduation this summer-just had DS's much delayed one so was watching carefully.
My first bit of advice would be to wear shoes you can actually walk in as some were really struggling at DS's. There is lots of walking for the photo ops etc
DD not happy with her black mortarboard, navy robes, coral sash combo but we just had a day out for shopping and lunch-am pleased to report there was no rowing and no one cried.
She bought a lovely green dress and flat shoes so sorted!!
I would say be comfortable and wear something you are happy in-the range of clothes willl be huge. We did walk by a bridal shop and DD suggested we both go in elaborate wedding gowns...

icanbewhatiwant · 21/04/2022 09:59

@mumsiedarlingrevolta thanks for advice. I haven't really thought about what I will wear as Ds has only just decided he's going. I don't do smart dresses though. So no idea what I will wear.

Are the ds's expected to wear a suit? Or will smart trousers with shirt and tie be ok?

icanbewhatiwant · 21/04/2022 12:33

Ds has just messaged to say the module organiser has told him he has grounds to ask for a 2 week extension for his dissertation as his original advisor went away and isn't returning for a few months. That's good news. Someone yesterday told him he couldn't get an extension.

mumsiedarlingrevolta · 21/04/2022 16:20

@icanbewhatiwant I think most of the male graduates at DS's were in suits -that was newcastle. there are always places for selfies etc and all of the graduates pretty suited and booted.
As for what you wear-I think smart trousers or what ever you are comfortable in-but remember you will be in the "proud parents of the graduate" photos.
There was a champagne reception afterwards and met several of DS's Professors etc so I wouldn't go in jeans but I don't think you need a dress.
I will wear a summery dress and comfy shoes to DD's which is in July.
And great news about the extension!!

bigTillyMint · 21/04/2022 16:41

@icanbewhatiwant there was a huge range of what parents/grandparents were wearing at DDs in Bristol - mostly smart casual. I wore a dress and biker jacket and DH wore a suit and tie. Boys were in smart trousers and shirt couldn’t see jackets under all the gowns!
Great that he’s got an extension - and so he should!

icanbewhatiwant · 21/04/2022 20:58

Thanks. I won't want to go in photos. I hate having my photo taken. I only wear jeans and trainers (coloured jeans not just blue) not sure that will go down well. I had to get a dress when we got married 5 years ago. I was quite surprised I found one I liked.

Ds said he has applied for one week extension on his dissertation. He has to submit evidence to needing it, so he's hoping the module organiser will write him a letter.

VanCleefArpels · 23/04/2022 15:36

RampantIvy · 20/04/2022 17:32

Does anyone know what the dress code is for the girls at graduation ceremonies? DD was looking at what I thought were quite unsuitable dresses. I then googled the university graduation page and it suggets that they wear a light coloured blouse so that the loop on the gown can hook round a button.

Maybe a dress with buttons down the front?
Colour scheme?

I was amazed at DS graduation in 2019 how “nightclubby “ some of the girls’ dresses were under the gown. <old fart emoticon>
I’m yet to have this conversation with DD 😬

RampantIvy · 23/04/2022 21:41

The dress that DD was looking at was rather "night out on the town". That's why I googled the university website to see whether they advised a dress code for graduations.

blametheparents · 24/04/2022 12:08

When I graduated (back in the dark ages) girls had to wear black and white under their gown - so a black skirt or trousers and a white blouse. It’s all changed now!

VanCleefArpels · 24/04/2022 17:32

Graduation logistics going to be tricky - it’s in the morning but they say come 2 hours ahead and travel distance means this is going to be a veeery long day. They really haven’t thought it through for people who live very far away and may not find a hotel affordable

VanCleefArpels · 24/04/2022 17:35

Key to girls’ outfits is to think about how to anchor the hood in place. Boys’ shirts ideal as it just loops over a button. Girls need to have a couple of safety pins on them if no ideally placed buttons and make sure not too low cut at the front otherwise it’s going to be tricky

RampantIvy · 24/04/2022 23:26

Oh god. That Facebook page is full of hysterical, clingy parents sobbing because their young, independent adults have gone back to university. If their DC are happy to go back why can't they be happy for them. I am so tempted to tell them to get a grip, but I'll be banned.

blametheparents · 25/04/2022 11:19

RampantIvy · 24/04/2022 23:26

Oh god. That Facebook page is full of hysterical, clingy parents sobbing because their young, independent adults have gone back to university. If their DC are happy to go back why can't they be happy for them. I am so tempted to tell them to get a grip, but I'll be banned.

It does all get a bit dramatic on that page.
I am just so happy that DS enjoys university life. I couldn't be sad about that in any way.

RampantIvy · 25/04/2022 11:45

Exactly @blametheparents
DD has far more friends at university than at home. She will really miss them when she finishes her degree.
Why do some parents not want their children to grow up?

icanbewhatiwant · 25/04/2022 14:52

I don't miss ds1 when he goes. Am I a bad parent? I am obviously not so close to my boys as some people. Plus having 2 at home still does help. But he's happy in his university house so I should be happy too.

As for ds's dissertation. He has applied for an extension, but as the university doesn't open until today he won't hear whether he can have an extension until later in the week. So he has to submit it tomorrow anyway. He's sent the draft copy to his advisor, he's only allowed one read by the advisor. The advisor ignored his emails about his data and Ds still isn't sure it's the data is correct. So I hope he doesn't ignore the draft dissertation. If he sends it back with feedback Ds needs to do any editing and submit. Otherwise it'll be sent how it is.