Seeking support/advice - possibly Dd dropping out Uni

[Monica53]

Hi

Seeking advice/support our Dd doing medicine and resitting year which has left her despondent/demotivated along with Covid not a good mix.

Now still home and doesn’t want to go back, stating if she drops out everyone will think she’s thick etc.. offered support and suggested speak to Uni tutors/well-being and also student finance -as she did foundation year so in effect now 3rd yr so not sure if she did some other course from
September nearer home would she get finance? . She is now really
Low and not called or done any actions to get suppprt/advice.

We’ve even suggested that take this year as revision due to lockdown year ? Not taken well . We’ve also said not everyone who starts Uni completes for one reason or another .

Thankyou for reading

That's sounds really good that she's thinking of other careers. She can still do healthcare or science you know!

One thing - is she starts again in September (nearer home for support?), she will have lost 1-2 year of loan funding meaning she'd have to self fund the first one or two years. IF she can get it documented that she left for medical reasons it might be possible for SLC to waive that rule - they have the discretion to do so.

I was an Admissions Tutor in a STEM School of an ‘upper RG’ university and we admitted a number of students who had made a false start elsewhere (including Oxbridge, BTW). Some had failed Y1, some were just miserable for various reasons. It really isn’t a big deal and she won’t stand out if she does this. Many succeed the second time. It is a joy to see

Obviously regaining her MH first will make everything much easier and more fulfilling. Less obviously, it seems to be the students who try to sweep eg a depression under the rug instead of dealing with it before restarting who get into trouble again

Best wishes

@poetryandwine Thankyou This period for me as her mum is causing me so much worry and your response has made me cry I think with relief. MH is so important and I think Covid has had a huge effect - Thankyou

@titchy Thankyou - I do hope she gathers as much info and support she can to make a firm decision .

I know she’s had several appts with well-being and counselling so
I’m sure she could get evidence enough for SFE - fingers crossed - she is so low - Thankyou for support /advice

@SerendipitySunshine I’m not 100% sure though she does have an idea of what she’d like to study if she can - though not at current Uni- Thankyou for advice

@RampantIvy Thankyou so appreciated - it’s worrying when they’re so far away and you know they’re struggling in so many ways. She has tried and perseved- though unsure how far she can go. Just hope her meeting tomorrow goes the well and support etc offered to help her x

Hope it all went well this week.

Hi
@SerendipitySunshine Thankyou - her tutor was lovely see said. She has to wait for exam results which were just before Christmas and also to do some
More research as to other options - also gave her advice regards suspending studies . He also understood how she was feeling after last 18months -bereavement/Covid and diagnosis of petuitary gland growth(non cancerous- all added to her anxiety and depression. Her words today She’s got a great deal to think about. Tutor reminded her if you leave Med school you can’t return. So bel the next week she’ll be speaking to careers and well-being . Keep you posted x

I'm so glad they were supportive. She's lucky to have a lovely mum looking out for her too. Fingers crossed for you all.

You are so lovely. She is really lucky to have you. It seems that you are achieving the perfect balance between support and leaving decisions up to her - not many parents can do this and certainly not me!

All the best to you both.

So glad your DD’s meeting went well, OP. At a minimum hopefully she is feeling less alienated now and feels more optimistic about the future (whatever path she will be taking). Again, best wishes to your family

Hi Thankyou @poetryandwine , I think it made her feel a tad better , your support has been appreciated 😊

Hi
Would just like to thank you all for advice and support , greatly appreciated, will keep you posted as to outcome. 😊

Hi there
Update -Dd having well-being sessions at Uni, and very likely taking a year out, work and start another course at Uni near home. As to what work she’ll do for the year don’t know 😊