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Talk to other parents whose children are preparing for university on our Higher Education forum.

2017 seems so long ago, now they're fledgling graduates.

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latedecember1963 · 06/03/2021 17:31

4 years since A Levels and the wait for August and confirmation of where our chicks were about to fly the nest to.
It's been 4 years that has sprung a few surprises along the way, not least this lovely series of threads.

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Malbecfan · 27/05/2021 17:04

@Eve, that sounds very similar to what DD's Cambridge college has organised.

I'm sorry to hear about all the cancelled graduations, but in the great scheme of things, I think this group of students has had a lot better time of it than their younger peers. At least they had more than 2 and a half "normal" years before Covid intervened.

ErrolTheDragon · 27/05/2021 20:38

Just catching up..

Trying to work out whether I've got anything suitable to wear for an outside graduation do, especially shoes.

SMaCM · 27/05/2021 22:22

@Malbecfan lucky to have her jabs, but not so lucky to have a medical condition to need them. I would have preferred her to get them before me, but I'm old enough to get mine.

SMaCM · 27/05/2021 22:23

I'm teaching pre school children with no face masks and regularly coughing and sneezing in my face. So far we haven't shared anything other than colds.

Malbecfan · 29/05/2021 12:26

@SMaCM poor DD. Yes, I've just had the first cold in over a year thanks to a not so lovely primary school child. Most of my secondary kids are still wearing face coverings in class, bless them.

@ErrolTheDragon I have literally no idea what I'm going to wear. I have no intention of buying anything yet in case it is cancelled. As for shoes, I can't do heels due to one ankle having very limited movement following a serious break. I may just go for something blingy in the sandal department.

DD called last night and talked me though where to find her interview suit, white shirt and one of her ball gowns for me to drop off en route to collecting DD2 who has now completed year 2. Still not sure whether year 3 will be here or in the Far East yet.

ErrolTheDragon · 29/05/2021 13:21

I can't do heels because of a stiff and enlarged big toe joint - the result of dropping things like dishwashers and small boats on it. And my other ankle is still swollen and the foot a bit puffy after a sprain over 2 weeks ago. Hmm

DD is polishing up her project report, we proof read it yesterday and she had time for a nice long talk. We get the impression that while sharing a house this year was definitely a good idea, 5 people in a house that would really be more suitable for 3 will have worn a bit thin by the time term ends. She'll look for somewhere to rent with her BF , he'll be able to commute by train. She's a bit frustrated that as they'll be looking at standard short hold tenancies rather than student digs, nothing is really available to look at for rental from September till much closer to the time. I think they're going to walk around likely streets generally casing them out, checking parking etc.

Carriemac · 02/06/2021 21:48

@ErrolTheDragon I have an arthritic big toe but find these very comfortable

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latedecember1963 · 03/06/2021 17:26

Hope all is well with everyone and the DCs who have finished are enjoying a bit of a break.I've spent half term week gardening and cracking on with a wedding sampler for DS1's wedding in August. DS2 handed his last essay of his course in on Tuesday and by next Friday he'll have done his last exam.
Birmingham have provisionally said they are doing outdoor graduation ceremonies but won't release any firm details until after 21st June.

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Xenia · 03/06/2021 21:47

I think I have given up my twins ever having their 2020 graduations and will have to make do with the fake photos I took at home in my own law hood, gown and mortar board.
Glad others may be managing some.

All well here. The son in Bristol is fine - law exams over, results in about 2 weeks time (and for his twin at home) so he is trying not to distract friends doing finals and then I am sure it will be party central until mid July when the tenancy ends (although he has started applying to law firms). The one at home had an assessment morning on line for a para legal job and he got it and starts on Tuesday and also has a 30 min interview for a law vacation scheme on Monday. we have been looking at the best route for Tuesday - looks like one tube line but 2 trains on it/change and then a fair bit of walking or an Uber. Anyway all good experience. Meanwhile one of my daughters is expecting a baby which is lovely news if all goes well.

ErrolTheDragon · 04/06/2021 00:56

Congratulations Xenia!

DD has to do a presentation of her project on Tuesday, and has her first CV jab scheduled for Thursday.

Needmoresleep · 04/06/2021 08:16

Hi, I thought I would pop back in. I sort of bowed out at the start of the first lockdown. Post viral fatigue, 12 months of major building works next door, and the stress of my mother's probate, sort of did me in.

DD has been at home for 15 months since they first closed medical schools. She had her final intercalation exams last week, and a final presentation this morning and will somehow graduate as an engineer without ever setting foot in the University. She has coped really well with the weirdness but it has been weird. The opening up over the past few weeks has almost illustrated what she has missed. Medic sport, catching up with old school friends who are now working in London, and a drink next week with her project group who are curious to meet the medic who they only know from Zoom. The course was "really cool" and in terms of learning, there were some silver linings in having no distractions, so it was probably the least worst way to spend the year, but there is some sense of regret. Lots can happen but a career in the interface between medicine and engineering is a possibility. She is dyslexic so had never really enjoyed school, and did not apply to medical schools with a more academic focus, but who knows. Perhaps like her older brother, who is stuck in the US and three years from the end of his PhD, she will end up a long term student. Two years till she finishes medical school so lots of time to consider.

I am almost at the end of a complicated probate, made more difficult by family tensions, administrative logjams caused by lockdown, five different lawyers (all from the firm appointed by my mum as Executor) and Covid tenancy protections. (It was the tenant who was using my mum's property as a second home that caused the anguish, as she threatened to force us to go through the court process to get her to leave.)

Anyway all done now. We ended borrowing to buy others out with the advantage that we have a property by the sea for the summer, till we decide what to do with it. Perfect for DDs post exam party this evening. Then a mad dash for her to find somewhere to live next year. She has not seen her Bristol friends there since the start of lockdown so has not really been able to use networks, and the medics are all in established flats, whilst the others have left. 12 of the next 18 months will be outside Bristol so the fall back is to simply rent a studio on her own for the first six, as to some extent she has grown beyond a student flatshare. If Xenia's boys know of someone with a spare room....

And that is 15 months in five paras. I hope everyone is thriving. I am particularly interested in how Haff's son's intercalation went. I really hope we really are at the beginning of the end with the pandemic. Each time I read about Nepalese/Vietnamese/Indian mutations my heart sinks. More for our DC than for me.

Xenia · 04/06/2021 08:26

Thanks for the updates. We were glad back in 2010 that my father's solicitor on our request let us- the children (I did it) handle his estate as it made it simpler but that is not always possible.

It has certainly been a weird year including for the need daughter (like my twins who have not met a single person on their one year law conversion course other than their twin and a school friend who was doing the course). I hoping on their course in September they will actually get to meet people.

The one starting a high street firm para legal job next week will find it good experience just in terms of getting up early (bet that will be a shock) and having to be in work every day and all the normal stuff about office work and full time work and commuting (it may be 1.5 hours each way on the tube). My preference is he does it for a month not the whole summer but up to him. So far from yesterday's first jab (Pfizer) no after effects on him when I went to bed anyway.

I think he is pleased because it's the first law job he has got even though it is not a city firm and is a paralegal job etc but it is still a real live adult job and useful experience of office life.

ErrolTheDragon · 04/06/2021 08:39

Sympathies on the probate, Needsmoresleep. DH had to deal with an uncle's, and then his parents, nothing like the problems you've had but the lawyers were quite often more of a help than a hinderance unfortunately. Glad your DDs intercalation went well despite the weirdness - it may indeed lead to some interesting opportunities.

latedecember1963 · 04/06/2021 09:41

Well done to Xenia's DS on getting a job. It's something to put on his CV in a competitive market. And congratulations on the baby news, how lovely.
Its good to hear from you, Needmoresleep. What a year you've had! A friend's mum had similar woes many years ago after her mum's death and I always remember her weary comment of, "Where's there's a will, there's a relative." Well done to your DD for keeping going in such odd circumstances. I know there are a few DCs from this thread who have done post graduate study remotely.
Hope your DDs presentation goes well next Tuesday, Errol.
DH and I have our 2nd vaccine on Sunday. I hope all the youngsters can get their's soon.
DS1's August wedding is in Darwin which is currently a bit of a hotspot so we have fingers and toes crossed at the moment!

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Malbecfan · 04/06/2021 11:13

Wow, lots going on. Congratulations @Xenia both for your DS's job and your DD's news. @Needmoresleep it sounds like you have done a fantastic job just keeping everything together. Your DD has certainly had an unusual experience. In terms of wills/probate after the shambles of my great uncle's will where my dad and a solicitor were executors, my parents did all the work, then the solicitor sent a large bill having done bugger all, my parents swore that we would never again appoint a solicitor as executor. By all means use one for drawing up the will and for specific tasks, but they were massively let down.

I hope the jabs go well @latedecember1963. DH is having his 2nd on Sunday too. Mine is next Friday.

How are so many of your DC getting them, given they must be similar in age to my DD1? DD2 (20) is desperate to get hers so she can go to Japan in September.

Parker231 · 04/06/2021 12:15

news.sky.com/story/uk-medicines-regulator-approves-pfizer-jab-for-12-to-15-year-olds-12324656

Good news for those who have younger DC’s.

latedecember1963 · 04/06/2021 12:36

There's a huge push in my area on vaccines because of the prevalence of cases in Bolton, Blackburn, Darwin. We are near Bury and it's bubbling there at times, but not as bad as Bolton.
Wow, Japan, that's one of DS2's dream destinations! He's a big annime fan so his dream job would be in the legal department of Studio Gibly.

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Xenia · 04/06/2021 14:59

Malbec, I was surprised my outer London son got his first jab yesterday. He is fine so far other than an arm so sore he cannot go to the gym. He did however manage to help me a lot with removal of 2 big tree branches this morning which were above and below our internet cable and openreach said had to go. We used my expertise and chain saw from last year's tree works and his height and ladders and got it down. However one was left suspended above and below the internet wires which we thought might snap at one point but luckily it came down without any phone lines/broadband lines affected.

I think my area of outer London is just ahead on the jabs, probably because of being London and second because we may have a lot of refusals too (my borough is minority white where I live and some of the BAME residents have been less keen on the vaccination). His twin has not been called in Bristol yet. Their friend said he had it done "privately" a few weeks ago which I thought was not allowed so no idea how that was arranged. Actually it may be because of Indian variant near by, that he was called.

The paralegal job will be fine. I think his problem is he knows they want someobe to stay I expect forever and he does not want to let them down but he has his next course in September. In my view doing it for a month would be best and then having 2 months off in the summer - we shall see. May be he will start and they don't like him or he hates it. At least it shows someone will hire him.

ErrolTheDragon · 04/06/2021 15:36

Quite a few of the students DD knows are getting called for their first jab - they're mostly 22-24 I guess. Their theory is that the GP group practice they belong to overordered, maybe had quite a lot of 30+yo taking themselves off to mass vaccination centres so are now working down through the students. DH wonders if they took their home address into consideration, we're NW but I think most of her pals are London/south .
The second jab will probably be at about the time she will need to go back to sort out accommodation- but it maybe that she and DH have to do an extra trip. It'll be good driving practice for her.

Stopyourhavering64 · 04/06/2021 16:08

My 24 year old dd had her first jab today ( Wales) then she's off to work in Bali come August , so hopefully will have 2nd one by time she goes

Her dsis had hers 6 weeks ago,and is still waiting to return to her teaching job in China after being stranded in U.K. since Jan 2020!
So now only their 22 year old db to get his, but he's currently still up in Scotland.
However we're off to collect him next weekend to pack up 4 years of stuff , but plan to have a celebratory weekend at Gleneagles seeing as there's no graduation ceremony for him ...will be first time Ive been further than 20 miles from home or not cooked a meal since Feb 2020!

Parker231 · 05/06/2021 07:03

I was asked to an extra vaccination session yesterday evening as there is a push to get everyone vaccinated. These were second AZ vaccinations. It was really busy - had about 80 people waiting at one point. Big campaign now to contact any over 50’s still not vaccinated to get appointments booked for them.
One of DS’s friends who is also 21 has received his appointment now. He’s north London so DS is hoping he will hear soon - we’re central London.

Xenia · 06/06/2021 14:14

My son had to go across the borough for his call as I think they are doing it centrally in a big hall but it was only a 20 minute drive. He said his line had a very slow vaccination lady and the row next to them went twice the speed but I don't think the delay really mattered as he was done in the end.

I was just looking at the Bristol son's tenancy this morning. His next payment is the last (tenancy ends mid July) so we need to stop the standing orders. Last rent I will ever pay for a child ever this coming week. End of an era although I seem to have been persuaded to pay for at least one to rejoin their gym so I am not quite in the money yet......
Then we had to negotiate the allowance v the job. The agreement is what I wanted and is fair - keeps both over the summer then September won't be working and back doing the next year's (academic year's) course on allowance. If instead he had stopped studies entirely and got a job then the allowance would stop. he as an interview tomorrow (for a law vacation scheme) and then starts the new paralegal job on Tuesday. It is another month before his twin is home for good.

Meanwhile I finished on Friday a law book I have been writing the new edition for for ages so that was a relief.

Stop's children's Bali, China and even Scotland sound exciting (I have hardly left a mile of my house since summer 2019 and not had a night away). I suspect our July holiday abroad hangs in the balance. However married daughter has got her passport back quickly in her married name so that is ready and she and her husband have a week away in England coming up tomorrow so that will be a nice holiday for them particularly if the weather stays good.

Stopyourhavering64 · 07/06/2021 14:04

Ds phoned this morning to say he'd received his degree classification...2:1.I was so pleased for him after an awful last 18months at Uni ...will make our weekend away with him and his gf this weekend all the more reason to celebrate!
Now just the issue of what he does next! Was contemplating MSc before pandemic but (due to fieldwork nature of subject can't be done remotely, so may defer till next year in case remote learning continues) or even hopefully find a job - however needs to concentrate on passing driving test first !

Parker231 · 07/06/2021 14:22

Congratulations @Stopyourhavering64 DS!

Eve · 07/06/2021 14:24

@Stopyourhavering64 congratulations to your DS , excellent result.

DS phoned just now - last exam done and submitted and that's University done! just results now and fingers crossed graduation at end of July.