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Talk to other parents whose children are preparing for university on our Higher Education forum.

2017 seems so long ago, now they're fledgling graduates.

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latedecember1963 · 06/03/2021 17:31

4 years since A Levels and the wait for August and confirmation of where our chicks were about to fly the nest to.
It's been 4 years that has sprung a few surprises along the way, not least this lovely series of threads.

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Carriemac · 15/12/2021 14:59

Congratulations @bigTillyMints DD that's a great mark!

latedecember1963 · 16/12/2021 09:18

Been having a catch up read as the last 10 days or so have been hectic.
Congratulations to your DS, Horsemad 🥂 and I hope your journey home wasn't too scary.

I think Christmas by the sea sounds a fabulous idea, Needmoresleep. Your son might feel better about having to postpone his visit if he knows you have come up with other plans. I'm secretly hankering after going to Anglesey on Boxing Day but I haven't said so to DH because we have his mum to consider and I think he is looking forward to a few days reading and watching the garden birds from the conservatory and having afternoon snoozes.
Happy birthday for a couple of days ago, Xenia. 🎂 It's a friend's birthday today and her electricity went off at 6am and it could be several hours before it's restored. Fortunately she has a gas hob so she hasn't had to resort to my offer of taking round a flask of soup at lunchtime!

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Needmoresleep · 16/12/2021 10:35

Covid hell is hitting. It was looking good. The last remaining teaching had been switched online so DD was due to get a lift back today. However the lift giver has tested positive as have half DDs friends. I suggested she could treat it as a Covid version of a chicken pox party, have a quiet Christmas and get it over before next term starts, but she isn't having it. In our area over a third remain unvaccinated and Omicron is running rife. She will get it eventually, either on tonight's train (Rail Easy was 25% cheaper than the alternatives) or just out.

Her elderly grandparents are due to come down and we were going to meet them, DDs pregnant cousin and others in a London restaurant. We are not so bothered, but they should cancel. (DH's family tend to make decisions late which means we will need to stay here till we know what they plan.) The turkey is ordered in London but the butcher is just round the corner so he will deliver. I may go out today and buy frozen veg, on the assumption we will test positive and need to isolate over Christmas. In the meantime the SAM responder app is showing a real shortage of vaccination stewards, so I have done my civic duty and signed up.

My mums flat is in quite a prestigious block which, sadly, is always empty so I am arguing that we can jump in the car, with provisions and pre-filled with petrol, and if need be, isolate overlooking the sea. DD and DH are rule followers so are looking at the small print.

It is all so sh*t.

latedecember1963 · 16/12/2021 10:35

Sorry, Bigtillymint, I also meant to add congratulations to your daughter. What a star! 🥂

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Needmoresleep · 16/12/2021 10:37

Congrats from me as well. I do hope you get your graduation event.

It is lovely to see them successfully turn into independent adults.

latedecember1963 · 16/12/2021 10:56

Oh no, Needmoresleep! It's just so rubbish, isn't it?
I was chatting with a colleague yesterday and, like us, her family have followed all rules to the letter but we both said we are just so weary with it. The YR children don't remember a time pre C19.
DH's brother is visiting my MiL today from Hampshire. He hasn't seen her since January 2020 and she's 89.We've been half expecting him to cancel after the BJ announcements on Sunday and yesterday.
We had to do our 1st PCR tests this week which is good going since I've worked in a school throughout and small children have a habit of letting slip what their families get up to and lots haven't followed the rules. Fortunately they were negative, but we had 36 hours of worry about how we were going to manage looking after my MiL if they were positive.
If you can do it safely and without putting anyone else at risk I'd make your escape. At least you could have some beach walks, even if they don't end on a sun lounger with a cocktail in your hand. (Those were the days!)

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Xenia · 16/12/2021 11:28

I am sorry people's plans are being damaged if they become subject to compulsory isolation (or if they feel it is too risky to meet at Christmas). There are a lot of difficult decisions for people to make not just legal but moral/health based. In some ways what the legislation (law not non binding guidance) says is the easier part.

We seem fine so far. My twins have booked their boosters - one had vast choice yesterday of where to go and booked somewhere for Monday which is even just walking distance never mind 5 minutes in the car. They had their last in person int he class room 2 hour seminar of term and I and they are pleased they had the complete 15 week term in person face to face (and now have no seminars until end of Jan after the main January exams).

Now we just need to study very carefully the complicated online exam rules (proctored) although the right to the exams in person remains but they have not wisely chosen in person exams. It is open book so you can take anything in paper in to the exam but I think no mobiles in your room, no cut and paste of material just type it out again from scratch and I think only one screen. One son has 2 screens at his computer so we may need to move stuff out. We also need to check if the internet cuts out as ours does about once or twice a day for 1 minute if that invalidates your exam. Hopefully not. They have also split longer exams into no longer than 2 hours so people do not have toilet break issues as you cannot leave your screen. In a way that is worse as you get 2 exams in the day not just one long one.

Meanwhile the new baby's birth was registered yesterday. Despite the rules saying only one person allowed in as just about no one was registering births for some reason (may be lockdown led to fewer babies?) a very nice registrar let them all in plus baby and had a nice chat to them too. So the baby is now official. I emailed my daughter an 1839 birth cert of my grandfather's mother, one of the first in England as they only first came out in about 1837. The baby's middle name is the same as that ancestor's first name which is good. It is a huge age gap - my grandfather had my father last when he was 49 and his mother had my grandfather as the last of 10 children over 20 years so what in some families might be 4 generations was just 2.

Haffdonga · 16/12/2021 19:35

Oh @Needmoresleep I'm so sorry your ds won't be coming over. How disappointing for you all. I'm sure it's a sensible decision on his part though and a bracing beach Christmas sounds lovely too.

@bigTillyMint dd congratulations on that very excellent mark!

DS's skiing trip was finally cancelled today. They were due to arrive in France just after the French quarantine deadline and the travel company was desperately trying to move the trip a few hours earlier (presumably so they didn't have to cancel). It was a massive relief to ds that the trip is now officially cancelled because the insurance will pay out. I don't think anyone actually wanted to go now.

He's also found out he'd passed his big exam today (the actual mark comes later) so he can officially celebrate that relief along with the ski trip refund. Sadly one of his housemates has failed the same exam. They'd planned a boozy Christmas dinner tonight so I think it might be a bit subdued. (They're all expecting to go down with Omicron any minute too with friends falling like flies).

latedecember1963 · 17/12/2021 14:09

Congratulations to your lad, Haffdonga! 🥂
Hopefully he can use his holiday refund to plan something nice for the summer. That's a shame about his friend and, as you say, takes the shine off post exam celebrations.

We're having a pre Christmas get together this weekend with us, the 2 grannies, the 2 DSs and our DiL. This morning I've been to M and S and ASDA and got all the food for Sunday and also got food that will take us through Christmas if need be.

We're supposed to at The Bridgewater Hall for the annual Christmas Singalong on Christmas Eve but DH is getting twitchy about whether it's a safe environment for his mum. She's adamant she wants to go.

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Xenia · 17/12/2021 18:52

I was delighted one of my children was at a wonderful school carol service today in a Cathedral (my grandchild's school). Far too much has been cancelled during this pandemic. It is nice to see some things going ahead. I am sorry for those with cancelled ski trips. One my sons got his booster today and the other has his next week. One has started his 3 weeks of revision for the January exams which cast their cloud over Christmas.

Well done to the Haffdonga son in his exam. I will be glad in June when my twins and indeed all my children finish exams forever (other than a minor one trainee solicitors do). Given the first was at 4 when the oldest in 1989 was sitting entrance assessments at 4 for her school that is about 33 years of children doing some kind of exam. I suppose we are all tested in all kinds of way every day anyway

Eve · 18/12/2021 08:26

It is all so shit isn’t it, and sorry to hear about cancelled ski trip.

DS1 is staying in Italy for Xmas with family & then going to Paris for New Year to meet up with some he volunteered with - so something resembling normality for him.

DS2 had a fabulous week skiing & partying- and i’ m very glad he did - at 19 he should be! I was so jealous - made me want to go skiing & clubbing - DH kindly pointed out my age, dodgy knees & fondness for early nights & told me I would last a day! Hmm

Thankfully DS2 tested -ve yesterday and is now on a 24hr coach journey home ( not jealous of that!)

Parker231 · 18/12/2021 14:59

Congratulations on the exam results.

DH and I have just come back from a couple of days in Canada. We’ve now found a house to move to - hopefully in the spring. We’re renting for six months with the option to buy. Feeling very relieved to it finally sorted out.
Both of our families are due to fly in on Tuesday and Wednesday for Christmas week with us. Some of us are then flying on Boxing Day to stay with DH’s sister in Colorado for a weeks skiing .

Needmoresleep · 19/12/2021 15:10

Wow, well done Parker.

I think I would like a new adventure now the children have left home and once DH retires. We are lucky in that us inheriting my parent's retirement flat has happened at the same time as the pandemic when DH is able to work from home, with the added wrinkle that house prices have gone up so we need to hold onto it until we are beyond the reach of the IHT people. However the flat, albeit nice and right on the beach, was my parents retirement decision, not mine.

DH is not a Londoner, so has not got the same attachment, and is enjoying the south coast. We shall see.

Now its officially shit.

DD was lateral flow testing every day after returning from Bristol with negative results. Finally yesterday, after yet another of her friends announced they had Omicron, blagged her way into a PCR test despite having no symptoms, and yes she is positive. Isolate until 27 December.

I had got up early to be a volunteer marshal at a vaccination centre, and was marshalling the queue, when I got a scary email. Self isolate immediately, do not pass Go, do not collect £200. My fellow volunteers acted as if I was a leper, even though plenty of the people passing through were more likely than me to be infectious. I walked home mentally preparing a menu for the next 10 days based on the contents of a Christmas hamper, supplemented by Quality Street, and some rather nice boxes of Dorset chocolate I had bought for extended family we were due to see over Christmas. (We had already eaten the Christmas tree chocolate decorations once we decided we did not need a tree for the three of us.)

DH got a completely different email, which does not require him to stay in, so gloated about it, and went shopping. So more menu options, though equally bizarre. (DH is not a natural food shopper.)

In the meantime hypochondria has kicked in and we have all decided we feel ill. Its getting colder. It will be bleak.

The good news is that DD has an elective organised. In normal times she would be able to go away for two months starting September; Australia is popular, and experience health care in a different setting. Now there is no going abroad, so a scramble for worthwhile things to do in the UK. She has applied to a London teaching hospital and asked if they had opportunities in her preferred specialisation. They have yet to get back to her, but a kind consultant in the same specialisation in Bristol has said he will take her if she needs a place. I had not realised how much training is needed after graduating. Plenty more years of exams and of applying for training places.

Despite being the Christmas Grinch, I hope everyone else's holidays go according to plan.

Haffdonga · 19/12/2021 21:10

Oh no, Needmore I'm so sorry that covid has cancelled your Christmas plans. I do hope you all get off lightly with the asymptomatic version if you actually are positive.

Both ds1 and 2 have cancelled or been cancelled from new years parties this evening. Looks like they'll be seeing in the new year with their aged parents watching Jules Holland.

@Parker231 big congratulations on finding your base in Canada. It must be lovely to know where home will be - and make it all feel real.

Xenia · 20/12/2021 15:34

I am sorry for those whose Christmas plans have changed. So far ours seem fine but no one has to travel very far so that probably helps. As far as I know my son's New Y dinner party here is still going ahead -unless the law changes. I will be keeping away in my office and bedroom.
The 8th descendant (my new grandchild) didn't sleep at all last night I am told - poor her, actually not poor her, she looks fine on the photo, poor her parents.
Child 5 back from his girl friend's parents today unscathed and both twins seem to be taking lateral flow tests almost every other day at present if not more often. The last of the 2 walked to his booster jab earlier and has not come back but I think I heard his twin arranging to meet him for a walk in the woods opposite our house. I want them to start downloading the special software for their January exams and watch the videos because they will not have time to learn it all the day before the exams.

Well done to Parker for finding the place in Canada - an exciting life change. Eve if your child does the university ski trip again consider flights. My sons and some friends avoided the 24 hour bus journey the second year with a cheap flight.

Right back to work for me - Monday to Friday this week are full time working weeks as they are for most lawyers.

Carriemac · 20/12/2021 23:52

So exciting @Parker231 - I can't remember if you have family there ? And commiserations to those who's plans have been changed . At least we don't seem to have the massive fear of falling seriously ill this time round .

ErrolTheDragon · 21/12/2021 16:01

Lots of ups and downs. DH fetched DD home yesterday, we've just been for a nice hill walk.

Do your lads get a bit of a dry run with the proctoring software, Xenia? I think DD did. The only real hiccup was when someone started woodchipping a felled tree and she was allowed to dash out of the room for earplugs ... make sure they have everything they could conceivably need to hand!

Xenia · 21/12/2021 20:48

Errol, it was a pity the mock exams were not the proctored exams. They should be downloading the software now and I think you can test it but they haven't done it despite my prompting.
One has already planned to close the curtains to the front street in that room where he will do his exam. The house has to be quiet but it usually is. His twin will be upstairs in his room which has a big desk set up so I suppose at least they have picked the rooms and are revising hard. The exams are no more than 2 hours so the longer ones seem to be morning and then later that afternoon so the issue of toilet breaks does not arise as it might with longer exams.

bigTillyMint · 22/12/2021 10:30

Oh god, that will be my DS if he manages to get an internship/training contract, etc Shock

latedecember1963 · 22/12/2021 10:36

Congratulations on the Canadian house, Parker. Very efficient use of your time there. This is our 3rd house and we've always found what we wanted pretty quickly too. When we looked around our current house we viewed downstairs and went into the garden where DH said he loved it so much he didn't think we needed to bother with looking upstairs and let's make them an offer. Needless to say I insisted on looking upstairs! 20 years later he still says he was right about not needing to see upstairs. 😂
Sorry to hear about the messed up plans for Christmas and New Year NeedMoreSleep and Haffdonga. Hope your DD doesn't feel too rough.
We had a family discussion on Sunday and we're not going to The Bridgewater Hall on Christmas Eve. My MiL will be 90 next October and we all agreed that we'd rather be planning a birthday party for her next year and not regretting her not making it to 90 because she caught Covid on Christmas Eve.

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ErrolTheDragon · 24/12/2021 01:45

DD got her booster this morning, so that's one thing out of the way. I had to help extract her from her fleece this evening as her arm was sore.... It's so funny how she can switch from being a proper grownup telling us about her job (insofar as we can understand it!) to small girl.Grin

Parker231 · 24/12/2021 08:57

We have a houseful of 17 and I’m loving it . Everyone tested negative and successfully made their flights into the U.K. DH and I have been testing daily before they arrived to make sure we kept everyone (particularly our parents) safe. DD got a distinction in her first conference translator exams so together with moving into her and her boyfriends first flat in the NY, is very happy with life. DS seems to have settled in well with his first post grad job in Amsterdam although seems to be working on projects on the coast - not the best weather over the winter!
I hope no one gets any positive Covid tests today and can enjoy Christmas with their families.

latedecember1963 · 24/12/2021 09:57

Glad your DD got her booster, Errol, and at least she can be pampered at home.
DS2 got his on Monday and 1 of the marshalls was chatting to him about the gaps in their volunteering list so he signed up and did his 1st session on Tuesday.

Your family get together sounds fabulous, Parker. I love cooking for a crowd too!

We're having our family Christmas meal this evening as we always celebrate on Christmas Eve. Sending unmumsnetty hugs to you all on this very lovely thread and wishing you all a very Merry Christmas! 🎄🥂⛄😘

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Xenia · 24/12/2021 13:51

17 sounds lovely and people from abroad etc too. If all goes to plan we will be 12 (for lunch) on Boxing Day including the tiny baby (3 weeks' old who only breastfeeds so will leave all the food to the rest of us).

Happy Christmas to everyone particularly those celebrating tonight rather than tomorrow.

Meanwhile I am working today (from home) but it is very quiet and I just had one new client in France fixing a call for next week as I am working between Christmas and New Year.

Our biggest pressure is one of the twins who says his brothers and I never buy thought out presents (the rest of us couldn't care less about presents) so we are all joking about the pressure. Apparently when I bought him 2 lovely gap year books (he was planning a gap year before covid struck) it provided I did not know him as he does not like books and then the mugs I bought people last year were apparently pretty awful (I was joking today that I should parcel up the 3 of them here - they were so unpopular people did not take them home I should parcel them up for this year too as a joke).

We have cleared half the huge dining/study room table today of one son's law stuff as he is away at his girl friend's until tomorrow's (25th) lunch here but his twin is busy working for the January exams, in fact he was up earlier than ever today to revise. I hope they pass this lot of exams first time as resits in August 2022 would be a nuisance.

Haffdonga · 24/12/2021 16:29

Our 6 vegan relatives have just had to cancel their Boxing Day visit to us due to a health worker positive test. The fridge is now crammed full of healthy things made of butternut squash and mushrooms that won't get eaten .

Wishing you all a very very happy Christmas with your families large and small wherever they may be. Xmas Smile