Heading towards 4th year or post grad/jobs

[Xenia]

Continuation of the previous thread for those of us with children who are just finishing their 3rd year at university (so either "graduating" in 2020 or going into year 4 in Autumn 2020)..........

My twins' degree results will be out in late July. Good luck to everyone else waiting for finals results.

Well done SmaCMs DD she has shown great resilience

I am relieved SMaCM daughter got the last bit of work in. It is nice to get it all done. My son's school friend was deciding between two institutions for his law course and decided yesterday to pick the one my son his friend is going to so that will be nice for them although they are starting on line only. They can hopefully spur each other on if it ges hard.

If physical materials are being sent for my other son they will be sent to his Bristol address so presumably all turned away (it is currently an empty flat) but he can probably get it from the post office when he arrives which is complicated by starting on line and his flat mate possibly having to quarantine from her family holiday abroad... a very complicated year for everyone.

Just catching up - whew CarrieMac and SMaCM. Such unnecessary stress one way and another.

DD has got the tenancy agreement for her house signed at last; DH spent about an hour on the phone educating her on how to choose insurance, including reading the small print.

Her internship finished last week; they've said (more or less) that if she needs a job next year she can work for them. But it's a tiny company, most of them are pushing 60 and I don't think they've got any sort of succession in place so while it's definitely good to have that as a possibility she will need to start thinking about job applications soon. She said she'd been terrified by the idea of a zoom type interview earlier in the year but the tutoring and then remote working has made her less uncomfortable on that score anyway. But, like this year, next year isn't going to be a great time to graduate.

Still, she's having some downtime now, picnics, the odd long walk and extending her culinary repertoire.

Just reading that back re stress obviously I meant the failings of beaurocracy and misinformation re cancellation, and I forgot to say well done to SMaCMs DD for pushing through and getting finished.

@SMaCM

I just want to thank you all for your support this year and let you know that DD has submitted her last piece of work for her degree, within her (very) extended deadlines.

Excellent, well done to her SMaCM. CarrieMac - phew!

Hello, I'm so sorry I've been AWOL. I've had a problem with 1 of my eyes for several weeks and finally got to see an optician yesterday. When I had a phone consultation at the start they suggested limiting screen time. Yesterday the optician couldn't see anything obvious but said to keep going with artificial tear drops and to continue to limit screen time.

However, I couldn't resist having a catch up on all your news this morning. What fantastic results for everyone's DCs, especially with all the disruption of the last months! Such a relief for all those who ended up doing their finals in their bedrooms. 🎉🍾
Good to hear that some of them are managing to meet up with other halves or friends. We live in an area affected by the additional lockdown so DS2 has only managed to see 2 friends at the local park since he came out of quarantine.

We had to celebrate DS1's birthday at the park even though it was heaving, unlike our secluded corner garden that looks out onto open fields and woodland!
I've been chuckling at the tales of food inhalation. DS2 is partial to toast and drinks gallons of milk.
Because of the lockdown rules we haven't had lots of friends calling by and it's seemed strange. We've always had an open house policy because we didn't want the lads hanging about on street corners and it's been lovely watching these gangly, slightly awkward teenagers grow into the young men they are now. Time invested in making your children and their friends welcome is never wasted.

Aww @latedecember1963 that made me smile, re the open house policy. I miss them now they're not here. One of DS2's friends had a pretty horrible home life and practically lived at ours from Yr7.

Hope your eye improves 🤞

My DS seems to bring waifs and strays to be fed from the contents of the fridge, by him not by me, and takes for granted that it will be OK.
My DD is about to return to uni for her 4th and final year. She has chosen her modules and added up the time each is said to require, and concluded that she won't have time to sleep! She is adamant that she doesn't have time for anything extra curricular, even driving lessons. When I think back to the fun I had at uni it makes me feel quite sad for her.

Yes @latedecember1963, open house here too 😀 But we’ve barely seen any of their friends due to Covid. Though they did have small gatherings in the garden when DH and I were away.

Hope your eye continues to improve.

News is making us all - like it’s not been known that uni students would be returning? Why suddenly make it seem like it’s a new problem?

I’m wondering when DD will be starting her Masters - anyone’s DC doing one know their start dates?

@simbobs, that sounds a bit OTT! I did a vocational degree and still managed to work in a pub and socialise during placements

@bigTillyMint, she is an anxious introvert, which I am not, though I did do a similar degree. I had the time of my life, her experience has been rather different.

Oh what a shame @simbobs. Would she have preferred to have gone to a uni where she could live at home?
I couldn’t wait to get away and now could my DH or DC, but I know some students prefer to live at home.

My 2 had a start date (but it is a law conversion course not a masters) - 7 Sept but initially on-line.
Our open house Airbnb Xenia continues to be open - today they have a school friend here although he lives near by so doesn't spend the night.

@bigTillyMint, no she would definitely not have preferred living at home. She loves her uni, and doesn't want to come back here at all, nor even live in this country.

@simbobs Where would she like to live?!

@Xenia, I can see online that the last day to apply is 9th Sept, so not before then!

@bigTillyMint ds's masters has been delayed and it's now starting end of October. With all the talk about uni being online, student bubbles and second waves I feel quite concerned that he'll be studying intensely in his bedroom without ever getting to meet the other people on his course.

@simbobs good luck to your dd. I hope it's not quite as intense for her as she expects!

And @latedecember1963 I hope your eye gets better soon. I'm sure MN doesn't count!

@Haffdonga, DD said earlier that hers starts in October but she might have to enrol before and she doesn’t know how much will be online, etc.
I’ve forgotten - is your DS starting at a new uni? DD is staying on at Bristol so does at least have a circle of friends if it is online.

DD has astart date of the 21st, her new house has a spare bedroom and a dining room they Intend to use for online lectures to avoid sowing all their time In Their bedrooms. She’s also near a beach, a city beach but nonetheless she’ll be able to get out for a walk between lectures hopefully.

That sounds great @Carriemac!

DS is still waiting for the start date for his Masters. He seems very relaxed about it - he’s enjoying a lazy summer.
Now DD has her visa she can start work. She is due to fly over a week on Friday. She’s stay with my DSis until she finds her own flat. Am hoping the air travel corridor will be lifted so we can visit without needing to quarantine on our return.

It sounds like everyone is getting organised. I think as my son who will be continuing in Bristol starts his course online and his flatmate will not be back next Monday (when my son's course starts) he is very likely to be still at home next week starting the course which he says means I will be chasing him about it but I have promised to stay out of it and leave him to it and did tell him he has never done badly academically and I have always trusted him to go things in his own way (which is true).

His twin is back from a short break in the Lakes tomorrow and we have son 1 coming here on Friday which will be nice as I don't often get all 3 sons together.

My DS3 is doing a taught masters followed by a PhD, fortunately for us it is fully funded, so no fees to pay and he gets a generous stipend for living on ( phew). His start date has been pushed back a bit but looks to be towards the end of September now.
He is living with DS2 for the next couple of years, they have rented a house together and DS2 will do his 2 years foundation doctor training ( old house doctor roles for us oldies) so really happy about that, and not needing to do the very long trips down to Bristol to see DS2 anymore.

That all sounds great!

Kashtan, well done to your son to get on the masters. Most people seem to be starting later this month so my twins starting their law course tomorrow is going to mean they will need to get back into working hard before anyone else is but I expect they will be fine. They both have 2 long days a week rather than 4 short days and these 2 days are their preference. That does not mean no work on the other days of course but I think it means after induction week (all online) they have no sessions on the other days.

Kashton it is nice that your 2 DSs will be living together. DD2 moved yesterday ready to start her new grad job tomorrow - but DD1 ended up staying with her last night to help her move in .....and also to go out for a few drinks and explore with the new housemates.
DD2 is 1 of about 30 new grads starting and they all have induction week together so one big ‘bubble’. Then she will be working in manufacturing so another ‘bubble’. Fingers crossed that any COVID infection is mild or better still, doesn’t happen!