If you had/have a dc who stayed at home for uni how much financial support did they need?

[NicoAndTheNiners]

From you?

Dd is putting the local uni down as first choice. I’ve said she can still move out if she wants but she says she’d rsther stay at home.

Household income is just over 80k so I’m not expecting she’ll be able to access a lot of loans.

If we feed her, pay her phone bill, buy her an annual rail pass into town how much do you think is a reasonable amount to giver her in way of an allowance? How much would she need? It’s really going to be clothes, makeup, socialising I guess.

She currently gets £40 a month and I pay her phone. But she taps me up for clothes all the time which I want to stop because she has no concept of money and currently throwing a strop because I won’t pay £40 for a jumper from Zara and have told her to get similar for half the price in H&M.

I don’t want to give her so much that she’s just wasting it all on clothes for the sake of it. And I do think I need to give her an amount which isn’t low enough to encourage her to go and get a part time job.

I would say you don't give her anything. You pay for her food etc and she gets a job for the other things.

Yeah she’s totally smitten with the bf and they have been serious for over a year. I have had a chat with her about how a lot of relationships don’t last and she shouldn’t make choices based on him but like you say it’s her decision.

It's a tough one, I don't think you can do anything about it, she needs to make her own choices.

If he stays home too, it might last, but they are very young. If he doesn't stay at home, it will very likely end as he makes new friends and integrates into his new social circle. 😔

DD gets minimum loan and is supporting herself. Working hasn’t affected her grades at all - means she is completely responsible for how well she does.