My daughter's off to Uni

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Any other mums out there wondering how to feel as their child leaves home to go to Uni for the first time?
It's a great achievement, she's ready, I just feel weird...

Today's the day! We're all set to go. DD's boxes and cases in a big pile ready to go in the car. Have my smile fixed in place and feeling a bit as though am going to hospital for a small operation. Glad in many ways that the day has come. Wish us luck!

Good Luck Red!

Can I join you. My youngest DS is off to Sussex today. Its a long drive for us so we will be dropping off, unpacking and then turning round for the return journey. I could have written so many of these posts and particularly relate to the random crying one minute and excited for him the next feeling. I think it's worse this time than when my daughter left as the nest really will be empty now, especially as DH works away a lot - time for a new hobby I think!

Time for a dog Wax! You'll meet loads of people dog walking and keep fit too

What IloveScrabble said.
You do get used to it very quickly, but it is still weird in this 'anticipating them going' time.

I've got one going for the first time on Sunday, and one who is home after graduating in the Summer.

Well we dropped ds off this afternoon. He was being a bit tricky and moody but in hindsight I think he was anxious. Met some of his flat mates and they all seemed
Lovely- he's in with 4 girls and 1 other boy. I have cried non stop from the moment we left. 5 hours now. I can't stop. I literally feel bereft. I don't know where all these feels are commit from

Ken.

I was exactly the same when DS1 went!

Web we had to drive past the hospital he was born in (in his uni town) it just about finished me off! The whole drive home almost everywhere we past held memories and even the songs on my stereo. I know this is good for him and what he needs. But I'm so so sad I am very surprised at the strength of my feelings actually. He's not been an easy boy to raise- we have had so many problems with him and it's been me that's dealt with all of it and me that he's come to with everything. Who's he going to go to now??

He'll still come to you! But he'll also maybe sort stuff himself first before he does.

It will feel strange for a while but you will get used to it and before you know it it will be Xmas and he'll be back hogging the bathroom and eating you out of house and home.

Well I left my daughter this afternoon, and I think it went well.

I'm feeling her absence and a sort of grief! Good to know that I am not alone in this.

It sounds like your daughter has succeeded in taking a big step Cory, well done to her, and to you, for supporting her to success.

Thinking of all you Mums, and understanding a little more of what you may be feeling!

Lordy Kenworth that's how I feel too. I have resented how much ds needs me, but after all I am his mum, so if he needs me I'm here for him.
I tried to make sure he knew that before he went.

Well an update- he's LOVING it. He's getting o well with flat mates. They've not been out out but have been socialising with the other flats in the halls. He has AS , has battled an eating disorder and self harm and also has had severe depression for about 5 years culminating in a suicide attempt earlier this summer. He's finally settled. And now I feel I can relax. In still thinking of him constantly. But I'm definitely happier since I was at the weekend when we dropped him off.

That's brilliant Ken

Can I join as well. Dropped my youngest off to uni on Sunday. She seems happy and is settling in but I am feeling sad and empty . No more children at home . Even though I have a career I feel redundant . Any suggestions to help?

Rochelle come and join us on the link below

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/higher_education/3037171-early-days-at-uni-2017