EMPTY NEST SUPPORT THREAD-Part 2

[MissMarplesBloomers]

Part one lasted seven years! Thanks RustyBear for the great idea.

I have one DD off this year and another one starting Sixth form so will be here for a few years!

So how are all the DC's getting on with the lists/packing etc?

[noddyholder]

Melody they have been living a sort of student life since about 16 festivals clubs parties holidays away etc staying at each others houses etc. partly this is because their home town (Brighton) is so much fun. His course is film production so i think once he starts he will be fine. I think uni is a lot more fun if you are going to somewhere like here not leaving it Fingers crossed. He is an only child too although I am not sure this is bothering him although we are very close

[melodyangel]

mrsrhodgilbert - I really feel for your DD. Homesickness is awful. Is she moving far away? Maybe arrange a set time to skype each other and I find that just texting nonsense to each other helps. Hopefully she will be so busy having fun and making new friends she will forget to be homesick.

I am sure she will find plenty of people that will be either not keen on drinking or will at least be sensible and will respect her choice.

Could you sort out a fun day out with freinds for your DD2 while you take eldest to uni?

Hope it goes well.

[noddyholder]

I am sure she will find like minded people We had some neighbours a few years ago music students at the local university and they were not your typical at all Really nice quiet and fun no mad parties etc.

[melodyangel]

We are in Brighton too and I agree it is hard to leave. Sounds like he will have a ball if he already so independant.

Are they all off to uni or is he the only one?

[noddyholder]

ABout half and half. I keep welling up too and then thinking of how much they have achieved. I wonder if they know each other

[melodyangel]

I think they both went to the same secondary, if I remember correctly from previous threads, so probably.

I think the welling up isn't just sadness but pride and excitement too.

I have lots of friends with kids just starting primary school this week seems so odd to be at the other end of the system. It doesn't get any easier.

[noddyholder]

Oh that was a lovely school my ds still misses it. I think going to bestival in a big group was a lovely send off for them and am hoping that will be a nice memory and keep them going until xmas

[melodyangel]

They will have so much to yabber about by Christmas and stories to tell. As he isn't far from home I'm sure they can plan a long weekend get together back home too probably with new girlfriends in tow.

[noddyholder]

I think the thought of the girls is keeping him going. I am already looking forward to going to see him he wants me and his dad to come for my birthday in November so will be checking out the local b&b s

[mrsrhodgilbert]

We are going to set up Skype with her and FaceTime. DH and I do that already as he works away a lot. She will be less than an hour away, there are two universities closer but this one is in a tourist city which she knows well rather than an industrial one. It's a lovely place, she knows that, but she believes she won't cope alone. I'm trying to encourage her to contact others who have posted they will be in her flat in halls but she has resisted so far.

I'm struggling a little as I was the exact opposite and couldn't wait to go myself. I almost want to shake her a little to halt the downward spiral, I won't of course but its becoming a little pressured. DH will be home again tonight so that should diffuse things a bit.

I just want her to love it.

[MABS]

am sat here sobbing :( she getting ready for big last Brighton nite out later...

[noddyholder]

Mabs lets meet next week Saw N yesterday and she is up for too. It has suddenly hit me too My ds is also off for a big night wonder if its the same place lol

[MissMarplesBloomers]

Awwww ((MABS)) ((MRS))

It'll be me in floods as the next few weeks go by but yes so proud too, its a mess of emotions isn't it?

[MABS]

bet it is Noddy! lots going and defo from your ds school, dd said. Saw N last week, love to get together . text me.

[MABS]

Thanks Missmarple, am very proud and pretty prepared for it, but her room looks VERY empty now :(

[noddyholder]

My ds is leaving his mac and taking just a laptop and his weights are staying so just the clothes have gone here. He has perked up this afternoon after a call from someone he met at the interview so fingers crossed it is sinking in a bot

[noddyholder]

I have decided age 15-17 is ideal for uni as I would have been happy to see the back of ds then Now he is lovely and I am quite happy with him around!

[MABS]

agree Noddy

[melodyangel]

noddy

[mrsrhodgilbert]

Good point noddy, if I could send her sassy 16 year old sister instead the house would be lovely and calm! We've had a much better day today, much more positive. Thanks for all your supportive comments.

[WhitesandsofLuskentyre]

I've spent the day with DD1 in an 'advisory' capacity as she bought bedding, towels and kitchen stuff with her own money. Then we came home and I went through the loft and came up with pans, mugs & glasses that I'm only too happy to give away!

I dropped DD2 off last week and had a bit of a blub the following day, but she is having a ball so now I'm feeling fine. The only thing she is short of are herbs and spices apparently!

[fussychica]

Off to the airport in the morning to pick up DS from a 14 week internship in Germany. Got him for less than 2 weeks before he's off to south west France for his year abroad. Not sure how I going to cope with him leaving again so soon.

I do know my house will be a complete tip for the next fortnight - unusually I don't care

[JellicleCat]

Just back from Tescos. Bought very little food but lots of sanpro, shampoo etc. Still cost just over £100

I bought her a box of Celebrations, so thanks for that idea. We also got Pringles and nuts, but she declined my offer of alcohol. Well at least she can provide the nibbles!

Just the packing now, but she is only half way through her washing. I am trying to be patient.......

Thank goodness she is an only, I don't think I would have the stamina to do this again!

[idirdog]

Thanks for this thread. Thought I was the only one feeling dreadful as my DD is off on Sunday.

She sounds similar to mrerhodgilbert's DD . My DD is very quiet and is not a drinker so she is very worried that she will be the only one in the whole uni that is not out partying and drinking.

It has hit home today that things will changing and it is horrid. She is a fab dd never been any problem just great company and I am going to miss her and then got to go all through it again next with year with DS. Feeling very emotional!

I may have to get another puppy........

[mumeeee]

idirdog DD3 is of to Bolton on Saturday