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Why I wear the niqab

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MumsnetGuestBlogs · 16/10/2013 10:58

The common impression that people have about women who wear the niqab is that they are forced to do so by their spouses or society, and are therefore oppressed. They are also believed to be uneducated, passive - kept behind closed doors, and not integrated within British society.

These negative prejudices are just that, though they are presented as facts - widely accepted, and promoted by cynical politicians every so often. Although I prefer not to be apologetic in my approach, I always find myself having to explain my choice to wear the niqab, in the hope that I can raise awareness, challenge misperceptions and help promote mutual respect.

To understand the niqab, it helps to understand the religion behind it. Islam has three simple messages – liberation from worshipping anything but the one God; following in the way of His Prophets including Moses, Jesus and Muhammad, peace be upon them; and servitude to the whole of humanity. Islam’s practical acts of liberation are many – from the duty of environmentalism (protecting ‘the Creation’ from the excesses of humankind) to the imperative of modesty for both women and men – one part of which is the face-veil.

In my view, the authentic reading of Scripture does not deem the niqab as compulsory, but rather as highly recommended: the wives of the prophet Muhammad used to wear it, and they are my role models.

Therefore the niqab is a religious symbol - and wearing it is considered by many Muslim women as an act of worship. Certainly the niqab is a spiritual journey that not many will take or understand, but those women who choose to wear it, such as myself, believe that it brings them closer to God, their Creator.

I also find the niqab liberating and dignifying; it gives me a sense of strength and empowers me. Deciding to wear it wasn’t easy - I had to go against my wishes of my parents, who discouraged me from wearing it because they feared I would face discrimination. But since I started wearing it, over 10 years ago, I have never changed my decision, nor have I ever found it a barrier. I continued my education to postgraduate level, and am now a professional molecular geneticist. Never once did I feel that the niqab prevented me from adding value to our British society – I’m involved in many community projects and events, and hold leadership positions in community organisations.

Some claim that women choose to wear the niqab do so due to social constraints and conditioning. This might be applicable to some extent in countries like Saudi Arabia or Iran, where individuals have to behave in a certain way for social approval (which can include wearing the face-veil). But in Britain, face-veiled women are minority within a minority – numbering perhaps just 0.001% of the total Muslim population in the UK (no statistics are available on this issue). Wearing the niqab is not so common within the British Muslim community that social conditioning could play any significant role: in Britain the majority of these women wear the niqab as a personal choice.

The norms of any society are the sum of its collective values, so rather than talking about the role of social conditioning in relation to face-veiled women, let’s talk about those norms. Public freedom is a cherished value in the UK, and is part of the fabric of our society. It allows individuals the right to practice and articulate their religious freedoms and rights – and offers a woman total freedom of choice to decide what she wears. Women who wear the niqab are simply articulating those religious and personal freedoms – and we cannot risk undermining them for the sake of social imaginaries, deep-seated psychological fears, or ignorance.

There are claims that the niqab is a 'security threat', but such claims are overblown. With regards to the issue of security, particularly the wearing of the niqab in court, let’s be clear that Muslim women are allowed to take off their veils, particularly in the pursuit of justice. But there’s no common approach and each case should be dealt with individually, in a manner that ensures the preservation of these women’s dignity and rights. These women are not committing any crime; they must be treated as human beings with full rights to participate equally in civil society, and to access education.

The reason, I believe, that the niqab debate has progressed this far is that there exists a wide range of far-right movements, politicians and intellectuals across the spectrum who seek to promote the hysteria that fuels anti-Muslim hatred. These people hope to make the face-veiled Muslim women emblematic of a sinister 'Other', a ‘problem’ impossible to solve or accept.

We have to overcome this authoritarian mentality which assumes a right to interfere in the lives, appearances and thoughts of other people. We all have so much to offer each other and we should extend our tolerance to respect, not merely for individuals, but for their beliefs as well. Otherwise, by all clamouring to enforce our own ideologies on the women we seek to “liberate”, we will be contributing to their collective oppression. Indeed, attempts to ban the niqab will marginalise face-veiled women from participating in public life.

It’s time to go beyond words, and to pursue peace, prosperity and freedom through social, political and interfaith harmony - seeking compassionate justice for everyone, and protecting freedom of the individual.

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KateMumsnet · 16/10/2013 22:22

Hello all

Thought it might be useful to clarify that we sometimes gather our guest blogs in advance; this means that the blogger in question isn't always aware of the precise date that the blog will appear on MN.

In this case, we let Sahar know this morning that her post was 'up', but haven't yet heard back from her - so she may not be aware that it's being discussed here.

Just to be clear: although we're always very happy if our contribs respond to comments on the thread, it's by no means compulsory. The cut and thrust of live debate isn't everyone's cup of tea - and we'd hate if that fact were to limit the voices heard on MN.

ICameOnTheJitney · 16/10/2013 22:23

Oh. So this is just so she can read what WE think but not come on and contribute? Hmm Might have been good to say that right away.

PlentyOfPubeGardens · 16/10/2013 22:24

or operate on a patient?

Grin dreamingofsun, Just stop and think a second about how people dress when they're operating on a patient

GoshAnne - It is not at all pleasant to have your body to be forever up for public discussion and this what these endless niqab/hijab debates do to Muslim women who cover. The sense of entitlement such discourse creates is huge, you aren't free to just be, you have to forever be explaining and justifying yourself and that sense of entitlement people think they have to your body can spill into violence and aggression.

I agree but I think this applies to all women, not just muslim women who cover.

Fugacity · 16/10/2013 22:26

If you wear the niqab (or do anything that sets you apart as a matter of choice), then you have to also accept that you will be persecuted for your faith.

Holiness is nearly always followed by persecution.

What you must never do is complain about this, or exhibit any kind of pain.

If you can't hack the persecution, then don't wear the niqab.

SweetSkull · 16/10/2013 22:27

damppatchnot Jesus is regarded as God's only son in Christianity, but as a prophet in Islam.

lazysleepymummy · 16/10/2013 22:28

well said fugacity, exactly what I tried to say but much more succinct

ShreddedHoops · 16/10/2013 22:29

Replace 'out there fashion choices' with 'holiness' and 'niqab' and I'll agree with you there Grin

damppatchnot · 16/10/2013 22:30

Jesus is gods son. It is what it is regardless how people view it.

ShreddedHoops · 16/10/2013 22:32

But look - wasn't this blog meant to be about WHY she wears it?

Why does she? If the reason is the thing, if the 'why' is the relevant factor here, why aren't we discussing that?

I and many of you walk past women wearing niqab and feel sad for them, feel distant from them, not particularly because we want to stop them expressing how they want to dress, but because we don't understand why they do it . If it's because of Muhammad's wives, if it's because it's modest, what is the reason?

And the reasons the OP gives are frankly rubbish. I'd prefer 'if I'm having a rubbish hair day I can hide' to be honest.

GoshAnneGorilla · 16/10/2013 22:34

Shredded hoops - sorry but if all you've read about Muhammad's wives is that they were wives and mothers then you've proved that you've read very little indeed.

Fugacity - that is nasty victim blaming.

Plenty - Muslim women also have the burden of being "othered" in a racialised sense, too. Hence the references to "our" culture that always pop up, as Muslims are painted as not truly British.

damppatchnot · 16/10/2013 22:34

And i have muslim friends and they dont wear it as they say the Karan doesnt tell them too

SweetSkull · 16/10/2013 22:36

damppatchnot

You can't force your beliefs onto everybody else.
I am a Christian by the way.

PlentyOfPubeGardens · 16/10/2013 22:37

I can appreciate how dressing for invisibility could turn you inwards towards contemplation (or depression) but ... another poster talked about seeing women in niqab with very heavy eye make-up and I've seen that too, so I think for at least some women, there is something else going on. I'd like to understand that without this thread becoming a bunfight.

ShreddedHoops · 16/10/2013 22:39

GoshAnne

Please tell me about them then, and explain why they are so inspirational that many Muslim women copy their dress.

fromparistoberlin · 16/10/2013 22:39

"It hinders integration and it is one of the reasons why many non-Muslims in the UK are suspicious about Islam

erm speak for youself there lady!

interesting post, thanks

agree, people should be free to dress as they like. this provided a very interesting perspective

whilst i have some ambivilance about the veil, i HATE reading that some countries want to ban it.WTF

sonlypuppyfat · 16/10/2013 22:41

I was amazed at the sight of a woman trying to eat her breakfast in a hotel I was staying at in London, lifting her veil to eat a cracker.

edam · 16/10/2013 22:47

YY, fromparis, I may dislike the veil but I'd be against any plan to ban it. Just as I'm against the sort of misogynist regimes that force women to wear it.

Venushasrisen · 16/10/2013 22:48

Did you say Mohammed's wives? Confused Confused

wikiislam.net/wiki/List_of_Muhammads_Wives_and_Concubines

Must admit I didn't get to the end of the list, so perhaps missed the relative parts!

KaseyM · 16/10/2013 22:51

Jitney, I agree. I do think the question of the niqab is a different kettle of fish to other religious forms of dress because of the communication issues involved in not being able to see someone's face.

This is going to sound stupid, but I will ask it anyway. In places were most women wear the niqab and you're out and about, standing in queue with random strangers, do you just strike up conversation? How do you know if others are interested in talking to you?

I suppose it's just that I am so used to searching a person's face to see what they want that it would be take a lot of guts for me to strike up a friendly convo with someone in niqab. Should I just do it anyway?

angeltulips · 16/10/2013 22:53

The OP could swathe herself in tinfoil and walk down the high st & I wouldn't mind - it's just clothing. I don't like it when women are forced to wear it, but that's clearly not the case here. And as a feminist I am not overly impressed by islam'a emphasis on the "equal but separate" roles for men and women, but for me that's a whole other debate.

But, like others, I am intrigued as to WHY she wears it, and I don't think her blog really even touches on it. I suspect that ultimately it is a matter of faith and therefore not capable of reasoning; there's nothing wrong with that at all, but if that's the case I don't think she should pretend there's anything rational about it.

KaseyM · 16/10/2013 22:54

I thought Fatima, Mohammed's daughter was quite a feminist, no?

maninaskirt · 16/10/2013 23:07

Go on, back that up with a link to something.

damppatchnot · 16/10/2013 23:11

Its not my belief its the truth. Im a Catholic.

peacefuloptimist · 16/10/2013 23:15

SDTG I think you should try to see things from another perspective. I totally understand GoshAnne's reaction. As muslim women we are constantly exposed to these caricatures of what we are really like and how we should feel, often created and bandied about by people who have no real concern for the welfare of Muslim women nor any understanding of what their lives are really like. So we are often presented as being these oppressed, down-trodden women who are under the thumb of their men folk and who need to be liberated from their oppressive religion. For me that is deeply insulting and patronising. Its as if your saying yes we believe that men can truly be followers of Islam but you do not take the faith of muslim women seriously. As if the only reason we are following our religion is because we are forced. It is very disheartening to have people constantly talking over you, talking down to you, talking about you but not to you. It can make you very angry and defensive. I understand GoshAnne's reactions because I feel that pressure of being constantly under attack and besieged by people from both sides I would say who are using muslim women to make a point and win an argument that they are not really involved in. I hope that makes sense.

Having said that there are real issues in the muslim community and in muslim countries to do with inequality of women that need to be dealt with. Niqab and hijab though very emotive for western women are not the priority of muslim women. Niqab and hijab for me are religious symbols not symbols of inequality. In the same way a turban, a nun's habit or a skull cap are religious symbols. Though I do not wear niqab I know many people who do wear niqab and though they are all different what they do share is that they are deeply religious.

In Islam we have certain acts of worship that we are required to do as a minimum. For example all muslims are expected to pray 5 times a day and to fast in the month of Ramadhan (though of course not all muslims do this). This is the minimum expectation of praying and fasting expected of all muslims however those who want to can do more. Some people wake up in the night to pray as they feel they can concentrate better at that time. Other muslims will fast twice weekly (not as part of the 5:2 diet) as they feel this helps them spiritually. What I am getting at here is that there are minimum requirements with regards to modesty of men and women in Islam. For me the minimum is that you wear the hijab, you do not wear clothing that is see-through or clings to your shape and that no part of your body shows except your face and hands. Other people may have different standards of what they consider modesty in Islam. That is fine as there is room for flexibility. Now just like some people like to pray more then what is required or fast more then what is required as they feel this helps them spiritually, some women like to wear niqab because they feel that it helps them grow spiritually. It has nothing to do with helping men keep their desires in check that is their responsibility and the Quran makes that clear. Before the Quran mentions anything about women dressing modestly it instructs men:

"Tell the believing men to lower their gaze and be modest. That is purer for them. Verily God is aware of what they do." Holy Quran, Chapter 24, verse 30-31

Most muslim scholars have interpreted that the reason why God mentions men first is that they are responsible for guarding their own modesty. Even if a woman is standing naked in front of them they should lower their gaze and they should control their own lusts. After this the Quran mentions women.

Now for those saying why are muslim men and women not expected to cover up to the same extent, well that one can be fired right back at you. Do men and women dress the same in this society? No. I remember an incident earlier in the year when I went in to town and saw a group of 4 preteens. Two males and two females. Though it was quite cold (I think it was February or March) the two young girls were wearing denim shorts with no tights or leggings and skimpy tops. The boys on the other hand were wearing baggy jeans, jumpers and jackets. Why is it that men in this society can dress comfortably and appropriately for the weather whilst women are under this pressure to always appear sexually attractive.

In Muslim countries you will see that actually men and women dress in a very similar manner. In the Middle East both men and women wear long flowing robes. In Pakistan both men and women wear shalwar kameez (Im sure the mens one is not called that though) though women wear more colourful and attractive ones whilst the men's ones tend to be quite bland. Also the beard is sort of the equivalent of the niqab. (Think about it do you find a man with a huge beard attractive?) In fact some people would interpret the beard to be obligatory for men to have but would not consider the niqab to be obligatory.

The Prophet's wives are examples to Muslim women because of their piety and high spiritual status. They were not submissive. One of the Prophet Muhammed's wives lead an army. They challenged him in his lifetime as well. They were intelligent, knowledgeable about the religion, charitable, god-conscious, fought for justice, loyal and pious. There are others Im sure who can elaborate further or I can come back and right more about them (but maybe tommorow morning).

SweetSkull · 16/10/2013 23:17

whatever damppatchnot