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is this the change?

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wollysocks · 07/01/2010 21:44

was in wrong area and directed to here so here goes..... am 8 days overdue my period and am 46, could this be the start of the change? tbh did 2 preg tests and i thought i could see a faint blue line but partner said not, he did not see the 2nd test i did two days later but now thinking i tested too early. any thoughts please?

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mummysgoingmad · 07/01/2010 21:55

i would test again in a week, if your pregnant it'l show with one of those clear blue pregnancy tests. do you have hot flushes?

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wollysocks · 07/01/2010 22:01

mummysgoingmad, i think i do during the night only. just told partner, who said "Do you"? and i said yes only at night and have to take everything off that i needed on as freezing getting into bed. i have never really recognised the fact they are hot flushes but maybe now i need too.

have to admit it was not "Clear Blue" partner brought back for me so will give that a go but every day is a torture to go through at the mo, waiting and wondering even though if i am preg a week will be nothing in time to come, god time is so cruel at times. to everyone else it is just a normal day/week.

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mummysgoingmad · 07/01/2010 22:13

hot flushes usually come at night..around the same time every night for some bizarre reason! keep it in mind

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wollysocks · 07/01/2010 22:26

many thanks mummysgoing mad. i have never checked what the time is, but am short sighted (as well) so bit hard to bother, but will start looking. when you said keep it in mind, keep what in mind? sorry to be dumb.

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purplepeony · 08/01/2010 09:38

First question- did you have unprotected sex?

Your periods could be going a bit haywire at 46, but don't panic- the menopause can take years to come and go, - even up to 10 years- so 1 late period isn't any reason to panic.

BecauseImGarry · 08/01/2010 09:41

Late periods/your cycle going haywire is a symptom of the perimenopause - the period leading up to the menopause.

Mine have been doing this for a while now, and as DH has had the snip thankfully any worries about pregnancy are very minor! (although I did have a wobble last summer, when AF went AWOL for 2 months!)

I am 50 now, and over the last 6 months or so, there have been anything from 15 to my current 54 days between periods!

Hot flushes are another symptom as is, sadly, acne.

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wollysocks · 08/01/2010 11:49

to purplepeony, yes we did have unprotected sex and at the time, i would have said it was the "right" time to fall pregnant.

i still have not come on but so stressed by it all, feel i will either get test and try again tomorrow morning (my 28th) day, or not bother, see i can't even make a decision. i wonder if because i am stressed that alone is delaying things. oh god!

becauseImGarry, so you think it is perimenopause? i have to agree i suppose!

if it is perimenopause should i go to gp so it is logged on their system?

many thanks for taking time to answer back, it is appreciated.

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BecauseImGarry · 08/01/2010 12:17

Unless you have any issues/concerns, I wouldn't bother going to the GP. It's a kind of inevitability, as far as I can see!

I'm not going to go onto HRT because my mum was taking that and she died from breast cancer. The link between the two is too strong for me.

purplepeony · 08/01/2010 12:47

There is no need for you to see your GP- it is not an illness unless you wan to try HRT.

BIG- I am sorry to hear about your mum.
I am taking HRT- my gynae assures me it is safe for up to 5 years or so, and looking at the stats, I am inclined to agree. However, if I had a close family history like you then I'd be more concerned.

How old was your mum when she died? I think the dilemma is that no-one can prove in an individual that HRT was the cause of cancer, as you would never knowif they would have got it anyway.

BecauseImGarry · 08/01/2010 14:12

Thanks, pp - it was almost 7 years ago now, so not quite as raw, but obviously has implications for me.

My mum was 62 when diagnosed, and 66 when she died. She actually had it twice - both primaries - in each breast - which was more scary in many ways.

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wollysocks · 08/01/2010 20:11

thanks BIG and PP. will sit tight, did get a test and will do it tomorrow morning for the third time and last time.

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Ilovechristmas · 09/01/2010 19:07

Hello Wollysocks, have been reading your thread and just wondered the outcome? xx

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wollysocks · 10/01/2010 14:12

Ilovechristmas.

So far no outcome. I tested with ClearBlue yesterday (saturday) which said Negative. So at the mo, unable to go dr at weekend, guessing it is the dreaded "Change". thanks for asking.

Although some have said do not need to go to GP I will in case thyroid going wacky, not that I am aware of thyroid before, just because it has been suggested.

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Ilovechristmas · 10/01/2010 16:21

I had a similar doubt last year and am going thru the same almost 12 months later!! I havent tested yet but my last period was early in December and have been a bit wacky all year, although I had numerous tests including a scan and was found to be normal and very fertisle, infact I was advised to have the coil fitted again. If you dont mind me asking, do you have other symptoms? I know alot of symptoms are simular to AF or perimenopause, so its very difficult to know! In my personal opinion its definately worth a visit to the drs as I too was/am concerned about thryoid issues. Good luck and it would be good to hear your outcome, so many threads are left just hanging xx

Flowertop · 10/01/2010 20:05

HI,I am also 46 and have not had a period for 14 months. We are only using condoms as suffer from depression and the use of pill or other hormones makes me worse. I just wonder how difficult it would be for someone of my age who has not had a period for all this time to get pregnant. I do have regular pregnancy tests (as paranoid). Do you think I could be going through the change. My GP says that they usually would only say this if you didn't have a period for two years but I think ths seems long. I used to be as regular as clockwork although most of adult life have used the pill apart from pregnancy of course. OP, any news?

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wollysocks · 10/01/2010 20:29

ilovechristmas.

late tonight about 6.00 p.m. after going to toilet for a wee I hasten to add! I saw that I had come on. So there we are.

prob no need to go to dr after all.

thing is I have no gauge for next period, will be all over the place. how do you judge when the next one will be. god knows.

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BecauseImWorthIt · 10/01/2010 20:35

Start keeping a record, wolly - it's been quite a revelation to me! But also if you do need to go to the GP you have something a bit more concrete to show.

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wollysocks · 10/01/2010 21:15

BIWI love how I have become "Wolly" and don't mind a bit.

good idea to keep a record, will do. thanks for your tip.

This has been some month for me I can tell you and now that I have come on I wish I had had more sex to get the benefit from it.

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Ilovechristmas · 10/01/2010 21:28

well great news for you 'Wolly' Im very nervous about testing but know I have to although it will still be very early and cannot go and buy a test nearby as I live in a very small town!!

Flowertop - that does seem along time not to have AF?? I personally would go to see your gp for some answers, they gave me allsorts of tests, some I didnt even know they were testing me for

BecauseImWorthIt - record keeping is such a good idea, but I always forget!! Is that a symptom of menopause xx

PS Wollysocks; thanks so much for getting back to us

purplepeony · 10/01/2010 22:15

Flower and other ladies.

Please do not give up on your contraception too soon!

I am post meno-just.

I was advised by my gynae who is brill, that if you are under 50 you should use contraception for 2 years after your last period.

The thing is, you never know when your last one is for a long time afterwards- you can have another one a year or more after what you think was your last one.

Whe I first had my hormones tested, they showed I was past meno- I didn't feel it, and lo and behold went on to have several more periods for another 18 months.

When you are running out of eggs, your body often has a surge of hormones in amongst the dips, to push out th e last eggs. So any hormone tests only show your levels on that day- a day later they could show something differnt.

I have only just stopped using contraception a year after my last period - I was 53 and a half when I had what now seems to be my final period!

If you areover 50 you are supposed to use contraception for a year after your last period. But the same thing applies- you neeed to wait for many months before you know you are not having any more.

BecauseImWorthIt · 10/01/2010 22:46

Thank goodness for vasectomies then!

Ilovechristmas · 10/01/2010 22:52

Thanks for the info purplepony; it just shows how many conflicting stories you get when looking into this My gyni gave me different info.

BecauseImworthit - mine wouldnt have that but then he is my longterm partner and not the father of my kids, xx

Flowertop · 10/01/2010 22:54

ILC do you mind me asking you how old you are. Just interested as you said from the tests that they said you were highly fertile. I'm hoping that you're not in your 40's

Ilovechristmas · 10/01/2010 22:58

umm yes I am flowertop 48 to be exact and he was a very young gyni who thought it was funny that I was probably more fertisle than him . He also told me in June that he had delivered a lady of 54 the week before!! All natural conception aswell xx

Flowertop · 11/01/2010 08:26

OMG - YOU HAVE SCARED ME!! I will have to do something about getting DH done . I keep putting it off as he is terrified of hospitals and any procedures I feel sorry for him. And after me have to have C sections and being on the pill for 28 plus years. Do you think I am being too soft on him.

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