I THINK DH IS DRINKING IN EXCESS OF 2 BOTTLES OF WINE A DAY

[cruisemum1]

i have posted on here before but now it is getting ridiculous. he regularly drinks 2 bottles of wine a day - EVERY day. But he also has a couple on way home frm work and during the day if there is an opportuhity so it could be nearer 3. In the past (recent past) he has collapsed on the bedroom floor, smashed his face in falling down outside, injured his ribs and knuckles falling over, ended up choking almost to death before i got an amblance to take him to hospital. he had peed himself and vomited black bile. He doesn't ever remember what he has done. he looks dreadful, has mood swings and still does not accept he has a problem. He also complains of pain under his ribs on the right (liver?!) What can I do to convince him? Or can't i?

It's quite common to hear the term "dual diagnosis" with regards to addictions, and it means that someone has been diagnosed with both a mental health issue and an alcohol/drug addiction. The drink or drugs are often used as an escape and/or coping mechanism for the mental health problems.

That being said, as I understand it there's little point in even trying to address the mental health issues until or unless the alcohol/drug problems are resolved first.

hope you find your way through this cruisemum.

you're doing all the right things.

i just want to echo the people advising that you can't change him and you need to allow him to hit rock bottom.

tough love.

keeping him in your home will continue to have negative effects on your children and there's a good chance it'll affect their mental health and future relationships.

the mental health diagnosis is very common- often it's a self medicating thing.

you can't sort this out for him but a greater understanding of alcoholism will empower you to make good decisions... you're doing well so KEEP GOING.

don't minimize this anymore and use any support your offered.

thank you all. thank you thank you thank you.