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Fag Free Zone - Come and Join!

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mummylonglegs · 16/05/2005 22:24

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charliecat · 21/05/2005 22:45

Fixating on a Cigarette

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What happens to some people is that when they are off smoking for a certain time period they start fixating on a cigarette. By that I mean they forget all the bad cigarettes they ever smoked, they forget the ones they smoked without ever really thinking about them even at the time they were being smoked, and they start to remember and focus on one good cigarette. It may be one they smoked 20 years earlier but it was a good one and they now want one again.

It's a common tactic for the ex-smokers to try and tell themselves that they do not really want that "good" cigarette. Well, the problem is, at that moment they really do want it. An internal debate erupts, "I want one, no I don't, one sounds great, no it doesn't, oh just one, not just one!" The problem is that if the ex-smoker's focus is on just "one" cigarette then there is no clear-cut winning side to the debate. The ex-smoker needs to change the internal discussion.

Don't say that you don?t want one when you do, rather acknowledge the desire but ask yourself, "Do I want all the other cigarettes that go with it. Then, do I want the package deal that goes with the others? The expense, social stigma, smell, health effects, possible loss of life. Do I want to go back to smoking, full-fledged, until it cripples and kills me?"

Stated like this it normally is not a back and forth debate. The answer will normally be, "No, I don?t want to smoke under these terms," and those are the only terms that a cigarette comes with.

Normally if viewed like this the debate is over almost immediately after being pulled into focus. Again, if the focus is only one, you can drive yourself nuts throughout the entire day. If you focus on the whole package deal, you will walk away from the moment relieved to still be smoke free and sufficiently reinforced to NEVER TAKE ANOTHER PUFF!

charliecat · 21/05/2005 22:46

The Lucky One?s Get Hooked!

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NEVER TAKE ANOTHER PUFF! Even though this sentence consists of four simple words, some ex-smokers have a hard time understanding the true meaning of this most-important concept. These are the unfortunate smokers who make the tragic experiment of trying a cigarette to see how they will react. There are two possible outcomes to taking a puff. First, and most likely, the ex-smoker will become hooked and return to his old level of consumption, usually within a matter of days. The other possible reaction is that he does not get hooked. In the long run, he will truly be the greatest loser.

The ex-smoker who gets hooked from the first puff will have learned a valuable lesson. If he ever quits again, he will have a good chance of long term success, for he knows from his own experience that he cannot ever take one puff without going right back to his old level. He knows that he is not depriving himself of one drag, but rather doing himself a great favor by not smoking the amount that he used to when addicted to nicotine.

On the other hand, the ex-smoker who takes a drag and doesn't get hooked gets a false sense of confidence. He thinks he can take one any time he wants and not get hooked. Usually, within a short period of time sneaking a drag here and there, he will become hooked. One day he too may try to quit and actually succeed. He may quit for a week, month, or even years. But always back in his mind he feels, "I know I can have one if I really want to. After all, I did it last time and didn't get hooked right away." One day, at a party or under stress or just out of boredom he will try one again. Maybe this time he will get hooked, maybe not. But you can be sure that there will be a next time. Eventually he will become hooked again.

This poor person will go through a life of perpetual relapses. On cigarettes and off, on and off. Each time he goes back, he will have to quit once again. And you know what that means - going through the two-week withdrawal process over and over again. You hated going through it once. Think what it would be like to go through it three, four or even more times. One participant did it thirteen times, others eight and nine times each. If they had just become hooked the first time they took a puff, it might never have happened again.

Taking the first drag is a no-win situation. There is little doubt that it will result in your returning to a powerful and deadly addiction. Consider the full ramifications of once again becoming addicted to cigarettes. The health consequences, the expense, the social stigma, the sense of failure and the prospects of once again having to go through the withdrawal process when you once again try to quit. Keep all this in mind and remember - NEVER TAKE ANOTHER PUFF!

charliecat · 21/05/2005 22:48

Opps sorry found a few thats eemed relevant there. Hello whymummy again cu monday

mummylonglegs · 21/05/2005 22:51

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mummylonglegs · 21/05/2005 22:54

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mummylonglegs · 21/05/2005 23:14

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whymummy · 22/05/2005 09:59

so easy isn't it MLL?i went back home to spain and the minute i went out with my friends i started to smoke again,i thought that as soon as i got back on the plane i would stop but by then i had the holiday blues and was never in the right frame of mind,i think i am now,i have about 7 fags left and that'll be it,fingers crossed.

how are you all doing?

charliecat · 22/05/2005 10:44

Morning! I am rejoicing that ive got 5 days till im 6 months free... I havent smoked over 6000 fags
Im trying to convince dp that he should stop on my 6 month anniversary, I also know that my mum gets twitchy and uncomfortable when dp stops/trys to stop as it means shes the only edjit left...

Hermione1 · 22/05/2005 10:48

has it been that long cc?? well done

mummylonglegs · 22/05/2005 13:41

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mummylonglegs · 22/05/2005 13:43

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mummylonglegs · 22/05/2005 21:16

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whymummy · 22/05/2005 21:20

well done for not wanting one even with all the stress MLL
see you all tomorrow,i have 2 left,i've rationed them all day

mummylonglegs · 22/05/2005 21:29

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whymummy · 22/05/2005 21:33

i know but you didn't give in,in the past when i've tried giving up smoking the smallest argument with dh i went running to buy some fags,when i gave up last time i didn't,he pushed me a bit and even said once when i was really grumpy "oh for f**k sake go and buy some fags"i didn't and i was sooooooooooooo proud of myself,he said he was just testing me,hmmm.
i really,really want to succeed this time

irritated · 22/05/2005 21:42

I used to get worked up about NOTHING just so i could tell myself it was justifyed to go and smoke. Im a much chilleder person now. Good Luck for tommorow whymummy, and well done MLL for getting through another day...those moments you had today..think back to day 1 2 and 3 where it was just one big LONG day of craving...only certain moments now and before you know it it will be once a day..once a week...fucking hell once every 6 months

TwoAngels · 22/05/2005 21:43

MLL Sweetheart Yeeeey I think u have cracked it for sure hun.... sry I haven't wrote earlier the girls are bk ow and since i came bk on this evening I have been glued to another thread which has been a wee bit heated....

I'm fine had a bit of a nightmare craving this morn on my way to work but shoved in more gum than I was supposed to it did the trick though.

and am still full of a cold Grrrr

mummylonglegs · 22/05/2005 21:44

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whymummy · 22/05/2005 21:45

LOL irritated i saw your name and i though you had changed your name and were going to tell me off for smoking and to get a grip
how long have you been smoke free?

irritated · 22/05/2005 21:46

I am, ive been following for a few days just lurking. Wheres the heated thread?

whymummy · 22/05/2005 21:47

no,MLL,he absolutely hates smoking and is always having a go,he was so proud when i stopped,i let him down big time and he was furious.

irritated · 22/05/2005 21:50

Airrifle on chat?

mummylonglegs · 22/05/2005 21:51

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mummylonglegs · 22/05/2005 21:53

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whymummy · 22/05/2005 22:28

we won{t let them down this time