My dad is dying .......is anyone around to support me please.....

[lisalisa]

This message is so painful to type.

My dad has had a rare type of blood cancer for about 4 years.He has so far managed to fight it with a minimal type chemo but now has to go on a much more aggressive therapy. the side effects are pretty bad in a healthy person and my dad has other complications.

the consultant has more or less said that this is his last shot. the remission rate seems to be about 6-12 months and then that;s it. The consultant has also said that it may not work at all and he may not go into remission . Then its just a few weeks/months.

It's all a big shock as for the last 4 years we've hardly felt it as dad has been so well and its all been controlled with these tablets.

He's a wonderful dad. I feel as if my heart is actually breaking inmy chest.Even though I have a dh and 5 lovely children and a mum I feel bereft - as if I am left all alone inthis world and that dad can't possibly die. I don't know how I'm going to cope with all this.

Sorry to hear about your Dad LisaLisa - I will be thinking of you.

Hi, Lisalisa- how are you feeling today?

lisalisa

I know the feeling. But they never do really leave you. I still talk to my Mum who died 2 years ago. You are surrounded by those that love you, so talk all you can.

When I felt like you a friend told me that it is a gift to be able to say what you want and what you need to say.

Be with him all you can.

Looking after my Mum, all we went through, actually brought me closer to my Father and sister.

I'm thinking of you

Thank you everyone - I am still trying to speak to dad's consultatnt to find out the treatment options and realistically how long he has got. He's still so fiercely indpeendant - he walks hunched over completely and with a stick and yet he insists on doing everything by himself with mum.

Mum had a minor op on her foot this morning and dad insisted on going up by tube to see her and getting in shoppingh etc. Feel its the least I can do to respect what little independance he has left than to argue and insist on driving him/doing the shopping myself.

You don't even need to reply. There's nothing to say really. Just using this thread to express how I feel really.