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Update on Kimi's mum

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Kimi · 13/01/2009 20:50

THANK YOU to everyone who has supported me and offered good wishes and support on my other threads.
As some of you may know my mother has had to have her Left leg amputated above the knee.
This was done with a spine block so it was very traumatic for my mum, and not much better for my sister and I.

Mum is doing a little better, she has managed to be put in a wheelchair, is in less pain and has looked the the remaining part of her leg.

She is however very depressed now ( she had battled depression her whole life.)
We are now in the process of sorting out housing, money, care and so on.

I will keep you updated as to how mum is doing, we still have a long way to go.
THANK YOU all once again.
Kimi xx

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nickschick · 13/01/2009 20:52

best wishes to your mum and a speedy recovery.

DesperateHousewifeToo · 13/01/2009 22:10

Best of luck with everything.

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Kimi · 14/01/2009 07:17

Thank you

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Lizzylou · 14/01/2009 07:20

Hope your Mom feels better soon, hope you are OK.

PottyCock · 14/01/2009 07:21

best wishes for your mum, kimi. very hard for her to come to terms with but she has your support which is good x

bellavita · 14/01/2009 08:49

Hi Kimi, just wanted to send you and your family good wishes.

My uncle was a long term dialysis patient and he lost both of his legs (below the knee), but you know, he managed. He had false legs, although did also use a wheelchair now and again.

He still drove a car and he moved to a bungalow and had all the necessary fittings etc done.

I am not saying he did not need a lot of help, but just wanted to let you know there is light at the end of the tunnel.

Take care xx

emma1977 · 14/01/2009 11:22

All the best.

It will be a massive adjustment for your mum, which may take a while. Just as well she has such a great family to help her through.

womblingfree · 15/01/2009 00:50

Glad things are on a bit more of an even keel - hope your Mum continues to make a good physical recovery and that her state of mind improves soon. I'm sure your support will help her massively.

CharCharGabor · 15/01/2009 01:04

Glad your mum's operation went ok. Hope she adjusts ok in time.

Ivykaty44 · 15/01/2009 01:07

Kimi - hope you are ok, it is such a lot for you to go through, it does seem like you are holding everyone together in this - is there someone in RL for you to lean on when you need to? Make sure you do, or come on here to get the support you need.

take care

Califrau · 15/01/2009 03:34

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SuperBunny · 15/01/2009 03:50

Oh Kimi

I saw a thread about this a while ago but didn't post. Am thinking of you all though.

anorak · 15/01/2009 04:03

Just want you to know I am looking out for your threads, Kimi, in case you can't email me.

Love to all x

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Kimi · 15/01/2009 20:57

Thank you all for your good wishes and support.
It is very hard at the moment and I am so tired, I have spent the last 2 days on the phone trying to get things sorted out for when mum comes out of hospital, her council, my council, my Dr the social services in my borough and hers, a support group, it is endless, trying to sort out with housing benefit how £5000 rent arrears have built up as I can not get mum moved here or to anything in her own borough till I have sorted this out, but I need to write letters and copies (vogon poetry anyone) and wait for this that and the other.
(I feel as if I am swimming up hill in mud.)

I am worn out and have eaten a slice of cake and a muffin in the last two days, then I tell mum off for not looking after herself.

Will keep you updated, mum in better mental place today and got herself from wheel chair to toilet alone.
Please keep sending good thoughts her way, her name is Maureen by the way.

xxxx

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anorak · 16/01/2009 11:51

At least the weekend is nearly here Kimi and you will have DP and DH around to help.

Please make sure you eat, or you will end up in the hospital too. Love to all x

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Kimi · 16/01/2009 12:24

Have emailed you xxxx

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psychomum5 · 16/01/2009 12:26

oh kimi, I am sorry to see this......how stressful for you all.

lots of sympathy..xx

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Kimi · 16/01/2009 12:33

I am going to have to head off to the CAB, I have sent an email to the housing benefits office but I do not hold out much hope of
getting this debt cleared and until I do mum is stuck.

I have no way to get this money at all, and they want to dump mum in one room of her house with no support, a bloody commode to shite in and a bed, what if there is a fire, how do I get to mum every day to help her,
I just can not do it.

I do not know how £5000 rent built up somewhere there has been a cock up with the housing benefit but even if they hold their hands up to it it will only be back dated 3 sodding months.

It is a nightmare I want to wake up from and can't.
I can not get a loan, DH1 already is paying off a lone for the next 5 years and new DP can not get that sort of money. It is such a mess.

I am trying to eat, it was ok when DPs mum was here she cooked for us, but when I get in at 9.30 at night after 7 or 8 hours at the hospital and find DP has gone to bed straight from work and there is no dinner I am too worn out to cook. DH1 has been sorting out the children's food now DPs mum has gone home.

DS1 has a cracked rib, someone at school pushed him in to a glass cabinet, I need to go and speak to the school and try and help him but I do not have time. I feel such a bad mother at the moment and this is never going to end, I am going to have to run to and from mums everyday as she will be stuck in one room, I think she will die to be honest, if she can not move from her chair, her house is too small for a wheelchair
that is why the last bloke was moved out.

Praying my 6 numbers come out Saturday, or I could put DH1 and DP on the game, what do you reckon!

Just to make things more fun I have a poorly tooth...It never rains but
it poors huh.

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Kimi · 16/01/2009 17:44

Anorak, mum said thank you for the flowers xxxx

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Kimi · 17/01/2009 09:36

Going to see mum again today, will let you know how she is doing

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SuperBunny · 17/01/2009 17:04

((kimi))

chancelloroftheexCHEQUERS · 17/01/2009 17:07

Oh Kimi, didn't know about this. You poor thing

Hope your Mum is feeling a bit better and you are all bearing up ok.

Chequers xxx

cornsilk · 17/01/2009 17:09

Thinking of you and your mum kimi.

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Kimi · 19/01/2009 17:50

Mum still a bit up and down.
Still has stitches in. Getting used to the wheelchair though, but not really that strong to push herself far.

I have been up to see her today, I could not do a big visit yesterday as I have an abscess and infection in my tooth and had to go to an emergency dentist, I look like elephant man's ugly sister and the hot water bottle is my best friend. Got pills but will have to get tooth out.

Still drowning in forms though, and trying to sort out the council... its never ending.

Thank you for all your good thoughts, it helps to come here and vent.
xx

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Kimi · 21/01/2009 09:35

Mums leg/stump has swollen and they can not get the stitches out

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